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Why can't we all just get along?

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In society today people have become, well crazy. We ALL have crazy moment when we just seem to forget and make snap comments or judgement without thinking things through.


What took place in CT is truly a tragedy that I don't think I will ever be able to comprehend. I had the same feelings when reading about and see reports about Columbine, Okalahoma City, 9-11, Virginia Tech - why do people hurt innocents. These are all horrible horrible things, but what about the small things.


On a daily basis we (me and you) have the ability to hurt or help someone. In my job I can get easily frustrated with parents, kids, staff, and have to remind myself to be real. I should not take my frustration with one person out on someone else- they don't deserve it. This is also the situation with this site.


This site was created with the hope of giving support to other who have been banded. There are some on this site who have done an amazing job with their band and really have it down, then there are some who are struggling or haven't done as well, but the one thing we have in common is the band. When I respond, write blogs, ect I try to only present what has happened to me on my journey.


Each person on this site have influences that other do not- different doctor, emotional states, family situations, illnessess, ect there for the journey will not be the same for everyone. I tend to only get frustrated with those that try to tell people to go against doctors orders. If you choose a doctor and trust him/her then you should LISTEN to their medical advice!!!! If you doctor says you need vitamins, maybe there is something in your labs or history to cause the doctor to say that so take them no matter what anyone else says. If you doctor says eat xyz then do it. If you feel like you are getting unsound advice from the doctor seek out a second opinion from ANOTHER DOCTOR!!!! A bariactric specialist is the only one you should take MEDICAL advice from!!


On this site we need to be here to tell our story, how we are doing, how we are making it on journey and what we have experienced. No, we do not need to sugar coat and validate bad behavior (eating food 2 days post op- I doubt this is allowed by any Doctor). What we should be doing is being a helpful encourager to stick to the program. We all are told to eat healthier (stop eating junk food every day and greasy fried foods), to move more (I didn't say be a gym rat, just move more), and to eat smaller portions ( I think most doctors recommend a cup). If you do not like a response some one has to a comment you posted either ignore it or RESPECTFULY state why you do not agree.


The key is being respectful of each other, we can agree to disagree. I may not like what a person has to say, but that doesn't give me the right to bash them. If I expect respect, then I must give it.


What a better world we would live in if people could just respect!!

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Great post Kime-lou. I've gotten myself in trouble a few times b/c of my need to defend who & what I believe in. I've apologized and learn to block.

Not only is the band a learning process, but learning social media is too.

Sometimes someone can be coming off as rude and uncaring when that is the farthest thing from that persons intent.

I personally get great joy sharing what works for me or things I've experienced. I would not be here if it was only to pick out ppls mistakes. That is not what makes me happy.

Thank you for reminding us all to live & learn in a positive way!

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Nicely said.....

This site is for education and encouragement to all who have undergone WLS.....there are many newbies, and many veterans....

The best advice anyone can give is to tell their own story and experiences...both Good and BAD....

I have learned more from reading people's hardships believe it or not....

I stayed away for a while....many people were being very closed minded, self proclaimed experts...telling people what they should and should not do....telling people

"This is the way it it is....there is no variation, regardless what others may say"

And yet you look at their profile and see their just starting out themselves....

When someone asks a question, for advice, and I an relate, I will ONLY respond with what I have found to be true, from my own experience, period.

If life were only that cut and dried....

What is true for one person, may not be true for the next person....why would someone get angry because someone else has a different approach?

And has the success to back it up?

For instance...the classic question is "How much CC's should I have in my band to make it work?"

And people would actually say what is acceptable and what is not!! How dare they!! What one person has and works for them can and will be totally different from the next....what is important is that the reader sees there are variations and sees what is, and what is not, working for everyone.

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