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My Love Affair With Food!

I had the best affair of all times. We loved each other, understood each other, wanted each other. When I was sad FOOD was there for me, when I was happy FOOD was there for me. I woke up wanting it and went to sleep wanting it.

 

In the mornings when I opened the refrigerator it would say "Hello Debra, how was your night, I miss you", and I would reply "I am well, I could not wait to see you too". I would say "what do you have for me today to eat?". And I would hear "hummm - take a look - I have some goodies in here for you eat, be happy lets start our day together". And my "Food Love Affair" would start all over again.

 

Food has never let me down when some people have - I could always count on my food, to give me that extra boost and that happy feeling in my heart. When I had a hard day at work, I knew there was something waiting for me when I got home - my food, my best friend. Food never said 'no' to me, it was always "yes Debra!".

 

I finally had a long talk with my food and told it I must end this affair - it was no longer working for me. And I did cry, I must say knowing that it was coming to an end. I made sure to tell the food we will see each other again, so it's not good bye, just so long for now we will meet again one day. The day I said goodbye was the day of my surgery, October 26, 2009.

 

I felt like I was detoxing from something I had been with a for so long. We eventually

became reunited, not as the love affair we once had, but as dear friends. I set some ground rules to my food friend: I will only come to you to eat healthier, not use you as a crutch, nor let you become my whole life again.

 

So my love affair is no longer, but I now have a healthier friend - MY FOOD and I.

 

I know this may sound nuts but its really how I used to live and how I viewed my food.

 

:eek:

CHECK OUT MY BLOG. FOR MORE INFO AND MY JOURNEY.

 

http://life-after-lap-band.blogspot.com/

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SoccerMomma73

Gastric Bypass Patients

About 6 weeks post-op I suddenly felt like I'd lost my best friend. I was SO caught off guard! I sat down and had some long talks with myself before I figured it all out but basically food WAS my best friend. When I was sad, mad, in love, happy, pissed, lonely...whatever it was, throughout my life, food had always been there for me. I went to bed thinking about what I'd have for breakfast, and wake up planning lunch and dinner.

And then, suddenly, it was gone. Sure I could have a bite or two of something but I could no longer plan my day around eating. For a while I felt lonely, almost empty. I had a nice little pity party for a day or two then woke up one day feeling almost free. I still love good food but instead of focusing on quantity I focus on quality. I cook a fair amount and still spend a lot of time planning out what I'm making but it's all in the details now.

Life is good! Congrats on breaking off the affair and maintaining your friendship...it's a tough thing to do.

Debra G

LAP-BAND Patients

Thanks christiemr.. Yes it's heard to let go when food was our main focus. But on the bright side we still have our best friend, well I do that's for sure, but as you said in a much better way. I look at this way bander's are some of the strongest people I know, to make such a change in our lives . WE ARE STRONG..

Thank you and good luck to you also..

Debra G

LAP-BAND Patients

Thank you.. suthrndelite

For your wonderful comment.

J_BandRanger

LAP-BAND Patients

i LOVE your post! your food-love "poem" is great!!

Debra G

LAP-BAND Patients

Thank you.. tedsmom28

For your great commet. Hope to hear from you again.

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