Hi I’m 4 days post op. Feeling like a fish out of wate. Trying to follow the instructions they gave me but feel like I’m failing. Know this wasn’t a mistake but feeling regret

You’re in the OMG I really did it stage & where buyer’s remorse can begin. Give yourself some grace. First you’ve had a pretty major surgery which puts a lot of stress on your mind and body. It will take a good 6 weeks or so to fully heal and recover: be gentle on yourself. There will be good days and not so good days but in a few weeks you’ll start to feel more like yourself.

You’re 4 days out it’s impossible to be failing yet. Unless you’re downing bottles of soda and consuming burgers and fries, cake and ice cream. Focus on your plan and your surgeon’s instructions for this week only. Next week look at what you need to do for your second week and so on. It can be information overload so work so forgive yourself if you misunderstand or miss something. Oh, & don’t be surprised if you can’t meet your fluid and protein goals to begin. As long as you’re making an effort you’ll get there eventually.

We’ve all been where you are at some stage and to varying degrees. If you worry about what you’re doing, check in with your team or post here. Guarantee others here will have had the same question or experience. It does get easier as each week passes.

We got you. We will help in any way we can, we did it too and all felt the same. Hang in there, it gets easier every day.

Just remember that you have had some massive plumbing changed inside you and those stitches are unhealed. Don't put anything in your tummy bar the stuff your team recommended.

Use this forum for help, support and advice. There is a wealth of experience here with people who have been in probably every situation you can think of, who will answer your questions and give guidance when you want it ?