I think it's always Good to talk about GRIEF and anger. Yesterday I was driving around Houston Texas running errands and the overwhelming grief took hold. If anyone has visited Texas you know our food is TOP tier so much seasoning so much flavor.

I grieve not pulling in the drive thru after shopping. (Taco Bell, What-A-Burger, Shipleys Donuts)!

I GRIEVE OUR ever so plentiful TACO TRUCKS at 2am where I would order 10 street tacos and a burrito with the red/green sauce

I grieve boba TEA

I grieve the comforts

I grieve just being able to drink alot at one time. Who knew that a few sips of water could make you so full

In noticing the griefs you become aware of how addicted you were to the food and the feeling. Sighs*

Edited August 11, 20242 yr by Mspretty86

On 01/04/2025 at 02:54, summerseeker said:

I am fairly sure you will be eating mayo and the like very quickly. Once you start on soft foods you will find the staple of egg salad a go to.

I am on full diet now. Just can’t tolerate condiments. Ketchup and mayo make me feel ill. My surgery was December 3rd. I got to go to full diet as tolerated on January 1st. I’ll be honest. There isn’t a whole lot I tolerate well yet. lol

On 1/4/2025 at 9:46 PM, FifiLux said:

In the last couple of weeks I realise that I grieve being able to have a cup of coffee at the same time as eating a snack. Like at the moment I want one of my Christmas mince pies to take a bite out of in between sips of coffee. ?

Instead I will have my coffee now and then wait about 30 minutes to eat the pie, not exactly the same satisfied feeling.

Give it time @FifiLux. I say this as I’m sipping my cup of tea and eating crackers with labneh. Was probably into my 2nd year before I could do it and I do go slowly because I’m not a gulper and can’t drink lots of mouthfuls one after another. Sip, wait, take a bite, wait, sip, repeat. So you may not have been able to do it this Christmas, by next Christmas you may be able to sip your coffee and nibble on a mince pie.

27 minutes ago, Arabesque said:

Give it time @FifiLux. I say this as I’m sipping my cup of tea and eating crackers with labneh. Was probably into my 2nd year before I could do it and I do go slowly because I’m not a gulper and can’t drink lots of mouthfuls one after another. Sip, wait, take a bite, wait, sip, repeat. So you may not have been able to do it this Christmas, by next Christmas you may be able to sip your coffee and nibble on a mince pie.

what the??? what sorcery is this??? i'm 6+ years out, and i still can't eat and drink at same time, unless, of course, i WANT to feel super-overly-full and want to barf.......

9 hours ago, Jenn on the mend said:

I am on full diet now. Just can’t tolerate Condiments. ketchup and mayo make me feel ill. My surgery was December 3rd. I got to go to full diet as tolerated on January 1st. I’ll be honest. There isn’t a whole lot I tolerate well yet. lol

Its early days, lots of us find some foods totally repellant, for me it was foods that I loved. pre surgery. Chicken, fish and especially salmon were very off my menu. If I even thought of them I heaved. It was like being pregnant all over again. Then some kind soul on here explained that as we loose fat cells they release hormones. Early on we are flooded with these cells because we are loosing so rapidly. It does settle down as weight loss slows.

At 3+ years fish isnt totally off my menu but it isnt front and centre either. Eggs revolted me before surgery, now I eat them most days.

I love this grief thread! I grieve daily various things! Everyday there is a death ??. I had a nightmare that I indulged in Taco Bell's Nacho Bell grande. I'm 8 months post opp I choose not to eat alot of sh**, I am addicted too. So the grief is there! Love hearing you alls griefs!

Edited January 7, 20251 yr by Mspretty86

So this forum is like my grief journal.. I grieve my normal way of eating. Everything I eat now feels me up quickly. It's like a favorite boyfriend that you broke up with and every new person that you meet afterwards just doesn't measure up. ?. The obesity battle.

On 1/6/2025 at 7:11 AM, Arabesque said:

Give it time @FifiLux. I say this as I’m sipping my cup of tea and eating crackers with labneh. Was probably into my 2nd year before I could do it and I do go slowly because I’m not a gulper and can’t drink lots of mouthfuls one after another. Sip, wait, take a bite, wait, sip, repeat. So you may not have been able to do it this Christmas, by next Christmas you may be able to sip your coffee and nibble on a mince pie.

Lucky you! I'm 2+ years out and absolutely cannot stomach eating and drinking at the same time at all. If I eat ANYTHING, I need to wait at least 30 minutes to drink, if it's a heavier meal it takes me over an hour to drink anything SMH.

I really miss that sip of crispy diet coke after having a bite of a greasy burger or a bite of steak, I really grieve that LOL.

Edited February 12Feb 12 by Lilia_90

3 hours ago, Lilia_90 said:

Lucky you! I'm 2+ years out and absolutely cannot stomach eating and drinking at the same time at all. If I eat ANYTHING, I need to wait at least 30 minutes to drink, if it's a heavier meal it takes me over an hour to drink anything SMH.

I really miss that sip of crispy diet coke after having a bite of a greasy burger or a bite of steak, I really grieve that LOL.

I can't either, some times I have to wait so long to drink that I am so very thirsty. I will then eat a low calorie ice lolly to help with the thirst. [Popsicle ]

I look at it as a blessing because if I could finish my food plate I would, with a good restriction like mine it keeps me in check.

I have two things to add here.

1.-Couple weeks before surgery I remember eating a huge grilled ribeye, baked potato and a salad and thinking to myself I will probably never eat a steak this size in one sitting again. OMG was that accurate. Now I opt for the smallest filet. Once in awhile I miss that feeling of really enjoying a meal. Like getting to eat it all and just enjoy.

2.-I get anxiety about going out to eat with anyone other then my husband. I feel like others can be very critical sometimes that no I don't order fries or other "junk" foods. Sometimes its almost like making fun of me for eating small amounts or just something healthier. I think that mostly comes from woman who are a little envious of my weight loss. I had an almond mom growing up. Now the tables have turned. I'm no longer her morbidly obese daughter. I now weigh less then her and she's struggling with gaining.

@kla7403 I get it!! People will just have to get used to it and deal with it. This journey is such a tough one so I don't know about you but you kind of stop people pleasing and people either adjust or they get going and that can be mother father brother sister anyone can get let go 😂. enjoy being on the lighter side chic! Wear that dress, wear that lipstick and live your best life!