I got my date as August 21.

CW 295

What all are you doing to prepare? I'm worried about starting pre-op diet too early and potentially running out of willpower in advance. I'm also looking for therapy for disordered eating to begin ASAP and continue through the process. I'm also working on not drinking during meals and thinking about how to start increasing my water uptake. I'm also contemplating how I can prepare meals with veg and protein for easy access.

Hi everyone,

I wanted to come back with an update since my last post in January. It’s been a really emotional and unexpected few months, and honestly, I wasn’t sure how or when I’d be able to share this.

During Ramadan, I ended up losing around 3–4 kg, but not in the way I had planned or expected. I found out I was pregnant (which was such a happy surprise at the time), but I also had really strong food aversions. For almost a month, I could barely eat, and just focused on getting through each day.

After Ramadan, things slowly started to feel a bit more normal. By the time I reached my 12-week appointment, I thought I was finally getting back on track physically and mentally. Unfortunately, that appointment brought the worst news I could have imagined — my baby’s heart had stopped.

Since then, I’ve just been trying to process everything and take things one day at a time. It’s been incredibly hard, and right now my focus isn’t really on weight loss or progress, but just on healing and getting through this.

I’m still grateful for the journey I started back in August and for this community. I’ll take things slowly from here and hopefully find my way back, both physically and emotionally.

hope everyone is doing well x

On 4/15/2026 at 7:01 AM, Justarwaxx said:

Hi everyone,

I wanted to come back with an update since my last post in January. It’s been a really emotional and unexpected few months, and honestly, I wasn’t sure how or when I’d be able to share this.

During Ramadan, I ended up losing around 3–4 kg, but not in the way I had planned or expected. I found out I was pregnant (which was such a happy surprise at the time), but I also had really strong food aversions. For almost a month, I could barely eat, and just focused on getting through each day.

After Ramadan, things slowly started to feel a bit more normal. By the time I reached my 12-week appointment, I thought I was finally getting back on track physically and mentally. Unfortunately, that appointment brought the worst news I could have imagined — my baby’s heart had stopped.

Since then, I’ve just been trying to process everything and take things one day at a time. It’s been incredibly hard, and right now my focus isn’t really on weight loss or progress, but just on healing and getting through this.

I’m still grateful for the journey I started back in August and for this community. I’ll take things slowly from here and hopefully find my way back, both physically and emotionally.

hope everyone is doing well x

I am SO incredibly sorry to hear this news. I can not even fathom how difficult it would be to remain on track while going through something like this. I am glad you reached out and posted here. You know a weight loss surgery journey definitely does not happen in a bubble and it’s important to have support through the real life stuff that could so easily make us feel like we failed.

I say you do what you gotta do to get through a time like this. Even if you stay on plan a percentage of the time you will get back on track with food when you are feeling more like yourself. I would focus more on keeping up your activity when you can muster that. Mentally exercise creates endorphins, socially it gets you out of the house while still giving you the headspace to think and breath and in terms of habits that’s the more difficult of the two to get back on track for many of us.

Another thing a doctor recently told me for my journey was to set a date that I plan to be completely back on track. Just an arbitrary date I make up, but sort of like our surgery date it gives our minds something to prepare for. Not that you need to worry about setting any date now, but when you are ready. This was for me because my medical situation is getting better and I feel like maybe I’m giving myself a little too much latitude at this point. My obese brain seems to be rationalizing my having that brownie so to speak. I think the idea is that a date gives my brain a chance to prepare and also keeps other distractions or excuses from allowing it to go on forever which was my concern I asked for help with

For now, I hope you are surrounding yourself by loved ones and friends that can offer lots of support. Journaling and crafting may help also. Not that it’s at all comparable but My crochet was a tremendous help throughout my recent journey. And it doesn’t have to be remotely good to be a really great outlet. I remeber making mandalas in a college class using construction paper and glue being surprised after an hour at how relaxed I felt just gluing paper together. They also have coloring books at the oncology center as part of the integrated medicine program. Seems silly but It really can help us process emotions. That and journaling are both helpful for me.

Remeber, your bariatric journey is your own and every path has unexpected turns. Trust that taking care of yourself is part of honoring your loss, not moving away from it ❤️