Justarwaxx

Hi everyone, I wanted to come back with an update since my last post in January. It’s been a really emotional and unexpected few months, and honestly, I wasn’t sure how or when I’d be able to share this. During Ramadan, I ended up losing around 3–4 kg, but not in the way I had planned or expected. I found out I was pregnant (which was such a happy surprise at the time), but I also had really strong food aversions. For almost a month, I could barely eat, and just focused on getting through each day. After Ramadan, things slowly started to feel a bit more normal. By the time I reached my 12-week appointment, I thought I was finally getting back on track physically and mentally. Unfortunately, that appointment brought the worst news I could have imagined — my baby’s heart had stopped. Since then, I’ve just been trying to process everything and take things one day at a time. It’s been incredibly hard, and right now my focus isn’t really on weight loss or progress, but just on healing and getting through this. I’m still grateful for the journey I started back in August and for this community. I’ll take things slowly from here and hopefully find my way back, both physically and emotionally. hope everyone is doing well x

Agreed! Thank you!!

Since that post, my coach got me the workbook qnd ive been doing it and also got me a journal to write how it feels at the time of the craving. Life changing! Its like the sound reduced abit. I've had the perfect 2 weeks with pure mindfulness ... the workbook really did open my eyes that I do have a eating disorder 😕 so now I need to appreciate myself more for being here now and the progess and be in q happy place

Yes. Im 17 months months post op bypass surgery..

I’m really struggling lately and I need to be honest. Most days, I eat mindfully. I plan, I measure, I prioritise protein, I listen to my body. But the food noise is so loud now. Louder than I feel I can handle. It’s like my mind and body don’t care how mindful I am anymore. There’s one day a week where I completely mess up. Not hunger… just cravings. Eating even when I know I don’t need it, while I’m eating I’m already telling myself to stop — but I don’t. And that one day feels like it’s slowing all my progress. What scares me the most is regain. I’m terrified that this is how it starts. After it happens, the shame and guilt hit hard. I feel weak, out of control, disappointed in myself. It puts me in such a low place mentally, and I start questioning everything: Do I even have self-control? Why can’t I just say no? I don’t eat because I’m hungry, I eat because the cravings won’t stop. My body feels like it’s screaming even when I’m physically full.

If u know any recommendations l, id appreciate it 🙏

Also its funny how its only me and @shoppgirl who write in this group!! Where is everyone! Update us beautiful ppl!

Im definitely considering it but it aint cheap and my government doesn't have one! But ill ask in my last surgical appointment in feb! Id love to speak to someone about it but deep down i feel I know exactly what they will say and what I need to do so I just need to do it!

Heeeey! I've been wanting to check in so glad u beat me to it haha! So glad you're progessing well with your treatments and im glad u managed to stabilise ur weight abit even with the holidays.. Happy holidays! We dont celebrate so it was a normal December.. i am doing well but I def slowed down abit. Not following a plan and then feeling guilty and my trainer basically confirmed I have an ED... which I dont deny but I am full aware of it. I cant stop thinking about food even after eating so its most probably Eating addiction.. and so far the surgeryis helping me not regain but I believe there would be a time where it will stop working when my body gets used to this new digestive system? Or am I safe forever lol Oh well, its almost 1.5 years and I haven't changed my habits enough ... no regains but if I continue acting chilled about eating whatveer I wwnt, it will def creep back in.. so my new year resolutions is to try to have a good relationship with food 🙂 for the millionth time and well try for a baby teehee..

Hahaha relatedable! That’s the test this holiday then. Take pictures and show me! Ill be your food police

I AM COLD ALL THE TIME!! And I live in the middle East so imagine that 🤣 I have a heater in my office and no one understands why.. I will keep an eye on it for sure.. oh god I struggle with every weekend as our families are all about food so every Friday and Saturday I stray off my meal plan. I really think you should or could eat anything u like but have small plates. I know this lady in tiktok eats anything that fits on a 15cm plate and thats what her doc said. Eat 4 to 6 15cm plates... maybe try? Oh god im typing this and thinking of food.. why is food so good 🥲🥲🥲

It was very positive and sad! Doc is very happy with results and discharged me from the clinic :( I begged him not too so I can be held accountable but my time was done with them haha he says u know what needs to be done n u r doing it! But ill keep going to the local clinic every 3 to 6 months for medicine refill and blood works. All my blood work was good 🤍 but iron was abit low so he doubled the dose and thats about it. Im down 6 kgs of fat from May so something is working.. my next goal is to lose some more weight till February then ill start maintenence phase. So things are shaping up!

100% agree. I stopped working out for over a week and my coach asked me to work out one and to tell her how I felt AFTER. She wad right. It wad an amazing feeling. Sigh! I hope your medical team can clear u to do more but at least u have yoga which u like!. My one year post op appointment is in 2 hrs. Ill update when im done

Yesss, def my body changed more than the number on the scale but its so weird how fixated we are on that number and also the fact that my doc also told me she wants me at BMI 27 at least because if she went with how I look, she will have to memorise alot of patients haha. I noticed in my tests they did a bone test and I never knew it was a thing and im on 2 calcium a day so im hoping its helping.. I hope your app goes well! I totally get missing some sort of movement. I feel yoga could be ok? Just some stretching and also in the case of weight loss and gain its 80% food. So as long as we eat right, it should be OK for awhile to not move as much as we want

Yes now I lift heavy 3 to 4 times a week. Well at least im trying teeheee. Why cant bariatric surgery be a magic tool ahhh

Yes yes she knows everything and I follow her plan and she knows and finding solutions for me... I eat carbs very well actually and fruits . I crave bad sugar 😩 but I think jts mostly pre period but its like 10 days before for 10 days!

Nothing planned yet but maybe next summer which is June-aug 2026.. ive hired a coach to help me through my longest stall since May and it finally moved but my sugar cravings are baaaaaaadddddd After tomorrow is my 1 year post op app so lets see what she says. But I think I need another 9 kgs to reach my goal of 65 kg and im kinda tired 😫

you’re absolutely right, weight loss is important. None of us want to go backwards after everything we’ve been through, and I know how hard it is to see the scale move in a direction we don’t want. But your situation is truly special, and you need to give yourself so much more kindness right now. Having cancer is not easy, and your body is fighting a battle that demands every bit of strength and care. Food isn’t just comfort right now — it’s part of your healing. You’re doing what your body needs to recover, and that’s something to be proud of, not guilty about. Try your best to maintain, and remember that even if your weight shifts a bit, it doesn’t erase how far you’ve come. Whatever small changes you’re seeing are probably your body doing everything it can to heal and absorb what’s needed to get better. And please, vent all you want here — that’s exactly what this space is for. We all have our own moments of guilt and struggle, and it’s okay to let it out. You’re not alone in this 🤍

Oh sweetheart, I just came across your post and I’m so sorry for not seeing it earlier. I know you’ve been dealing with so much lately, and I just want to say how proud I am of you for pushing through everything. Sometimes the focus naturally shifts from weight to health, and that’s perfectly okay because right now ur body needs care, patience, and gentleness more than anything else. Please don’t be too hard on yourself. You’re on several things that can affect ur body & mood, and that’s not your fault. Healing isn’t always visible on the scale, sometimes it’s in the energy you slowly regain, the days u manage to get up and move, or simply the moments u allow yourself to rest. Just do ur best each day, that’s all ur body is asking 4. The rest will follow in time. u’ve already shown so much strength just by continuing to show up for yourself. I’ll try to be more active and respond faster next time. Sending you all my love and healing wishes. Take care of your beautiful self first, the rest will fall into place. 🤍

Oo I feel amazing. I just came back from vacation from Vietnam and Thailand and I was walking pain-free and going over 15k steps daily without a sweat. It was amazing to redo my trip from 2024 where it was a nightmare to even walk for 10 mins. You're right. I must think about the positives more than what I didnt achieve yet. I hate being or feeling ungrateful.. I truly am happy with what I achieved. Next week ill start going off my BP pills to see if I can be off them! Wish me luck x Thanks for the reminder shoppgirl

Hiii ladies and happy 1 year anniversary! I cant believe its been 1 year! Im so proud of all of you!! Im also so happy n proud of myself for losing 70 lbs.. also i do wish I reached my goal weight 145 lbs .. currently stuck at 170 lbs which is amazing of course.. thanks for reminder to be proud of this progress. I am in the process of trying to lose them to reach my goal weight but my weight has been stuck since May :(

CONGRATS!!!! so proud of u and u look fantastic!!! yesss they say u will gain abit now then it will stop at the perfect weight as u say 120 lbs is a safe spot and then u learn to maintain .. it iwll take time adjusting but u can do it!!! as long as u eat good whole food and MOVE MOVE MOVE then u r sorted.. believe it or not i am not even at my goal weight and apparently i am eating at my maintenance and its so annoying. if i undereat, then i am dead hungry!!! so i am about to hire a coach to help me and hopefully start losing again... i can still eat the same but i should burn more ahhh and obviously being consistent, i am perfect 5 days a week and i indulge on the weekend. so i need to reduce my cals for sure.. its so weird how much i can. anyways i am well aware of what needs to be done and tahts step 1

Amazing. Thank you so much. I just did my monthly inbody test and I've lose 4 kgs of fat and gained 2 kgs of muscles so I must be doing something right haha. And it made me excited to push through because I only lost 900g of "weight" so ya I should throw out the scale. I do want to build habits which I can sustain forever. So that's why my workouts and food are very normal and not special food for right now! Let's see how it goes!

hank you both so much — I honestly do know the rules and I really am trying to trust the process. But I just have this lingering question I need to ask — maybe for peace of mind more than anything. If I’m doing everything I can — eating clean, prioritizing protein, tracking, moving my body, staying consistent — will I definitely reach my goal weight eventually? And also… is regain really that easy? I hear people talk about it a lot and it scares me. Is it actually hard to regain weight after bypass if you stay mindful, or is it something that creeps up even if you're doing your best? I know everyone's different, but I'd love to hear some honest thoughts from those who’ve lived through it.

Thank you again — this was packed with great insight and exactly what I needed to hear. I feel better knowing that my current protein intake (100–115g) is actually within the clinical guidelines. I’ll definitely bring up that 1.2g/kg recommendation with my nutritionist on the 20th and get their take as well — I want to be sure I’m not compromising my health by lowering it too much. And yes — I completely agree about focusing on fat loss over just scale weight. I love how I’m looking now, and my goal is to tighten, tone, and keep my muscle rather than just see a lower number. I’m not aiming to bulk or build new muscle right now — just to hold on to what I have and keep my body strong through strength training. Also, your point about essential fats and nutrient-rich carbs like fruits/veggies really helped. I do eat clean and home-cooked, so I’ll make sure I’m not over-restricting in the wrong areas. This has honestly helped me refocus — I’m grateful ?