I’m headed back into the office for the first time in 18 months and I am 60 pounds lighter. Not sure why I am so nervous but I guess I’m not sure what to say about my weight loss. No one at the office knows I had WLS. And you can’t really tell over zoom. Thoughts?

Just say that you went to the gym Mon-Fri, and ate only on the weekends..

I am 7 weeks post-op and have lost around 45lbs from my highest weight. Recently, I saw some friends I hadn't seen since well before I started losing weight and who do not know I had WLS. They immediately noticed and commented on my weight loss, which made me terribly uncomfortable. They of course asked what I was doing and I simply stated I'm focusing on high quality protein and frequent, small meals because that's what my body seems to like best (all true). Then I quickly pivoted and asked how they were doing, blah blah blah. People LOVE to talk about themselves. Give them the chance, and they will run with it.

if it's been 18 months, I bet a lot of "normies" would believe you if you said you lost it on your own. That's over a year, so.... My first year or two out I told normal weight people that I was working with a dietitian, low carbing, and exercising like a fiend. Skinny people believe that schlock. I was honest with other obese people, though. But yea - after 18 months, it would be entirely believable by most people that you did it via diet and exercise, since that calculates out to 3-4 lbs per month

I ran into someone I used to work with & I was 42kgs (92lbs) lighter & they never said a word. I was a bit amused but some people don’t want to mention things they consider so personal like your weight. Or they’re just super unobservant ??.

You could just say you’ve taken the time not being in the office to change how you eat & be healthier which is true & change the subject if you want.

"Lost weight you say? Not funny. I gained the same 20 pounds everyone else is complaining about! It's so frustrating!"

Good luck,

Tek

16 hours ago, catwoman7 said:

if it's been 18 months, I bet a lot of "normies" would believe you if you said you lost it on your own. That's over a year, so.... My first year or two out I told normal weight people that I was working with a dietitian, low carbing, and exercising like a fiend. Skinny people believe that schlock. I was honest with other obese people, though. But yea - after 18 months, it would be entirely believable by most people that you did it via diet and exercise, since that calculates out to 3-4 lbs per month

"Skinny people believe that schlock"

I don’t plan on anyone knowing I got the surgery. My husband and my youngest kids that are still at home will know but that is it. I feel personally like it’s no ones business and plan on telling them I changed my diet and eating habits - not a lie you do. People get liposuction, boobs done, tummy tucks, fillers and botox etc and don’t tell people so why should this be different. Just my thoughts and me personally. I do respect those who go on YouTube and share their journey, it has helped me a lot but not something I personally would do. So exciting to show off the new you!!!

I'm with @catwoman7 - Joe Schmo gets told I'm protein-first and calorie-restricted (believable, and these days my calorie count is 1000-1400 a day, which is strict but not "omg you're gonna starve"). But other obese people get the truth. And the one person who found out and then confronted me for lying got, "Given how you just reacted to the idea of the surgery, are you surprised I didn't want to tell you?"