I’ve read so many posts recently asking if particular experience, symptoms, feelings were normal. I thought we could have an area where you can know you are not alone! I know there’s a lot of lurkers that may have questions also but don’t ask
I’ll start:
1) Yes! It is totally normal to have second thoughts and feelings of anxiousness prior to surgery. It is major surgery that is going to affect the way you live for the rest of your life. I would question it if you DIDN’T experience a little of both
2) I also think it’s normal to have the feeling afterwards of “what have I done to myself ?” You are not only a hormonal mess afterwards but you’ve mostly likely just lost your source of comfort. It make takes weeks or months to come to grips with it. Or you may experience the complete opposite and have total elation!! That’s ok too !

It does get better ?? Hang in there ?

It's normal to feel sad/unhappy/miserable with the aesthetical state of your body after WLS even as your health improves. You are not ungrateful for wanting your journey to be satisfying in many ways.

On 03/28/2019 at 21:16, MrsGamgee said:

There aren't many of us here... glad to meet another bariatric patient from north of the 49th parallel.

As for the socks, I will adjust if I have to. But I won't like it.

Another Canadian here! ??

On 03/28/2019 at 22:53, ms.sss said:

Yeah, being cold is annoying. But I have to say I prefer it over being so hot all the time. Before, the slightest exertion would result in me being a hot, sweating mess. Then I'd be all flustered about being sweaty and then end up sweating some more. *sigh*

So now socks are a fixture on my feet (I only see my feet now when I shower!), and I drink hot Water all day.

I want to say it has gotten slightly better, but it may just be because the weather is getting warmer. *shrugs*

I think it’s fairly common. Of the three people in my personal life that have had wls, including myself, have all had this happen

To lose slow and/or to have stalls ?!
Frustratingly , YES!!

Best advice given over and over but the hardest to implement : don’t compare yourselves with others. Those starting at a higher BMI lose quicker, sex, age or hormonal stage in life all play a role and it varies greatly from person to person. 
I also read when we reach a previous set point in our weight our body was previously comfy at it will try to stay there. Lots of theories out there on what you should do. But if your surgery is new and your following your surgeons plan just keep on keepin’ on. (Imho)

5 hours ago, FluffyChix said:

Love your quote in your signature: Fear is a Liar!!

Word.

It's the truth... I deal with a bit of anxiety and it's always helpful to me to remember.

4 minutes ago, MrsGamgee said:

It's the truth... I deal with a bit of anxiety and it's always helpful to me to remember.

Ain’t that the truth!! Sorry you deal with anxiety! ?

Not a question but a fantastic visual on WHY we don’t drink before, during or after our meals.
Fast forward to about the 2:30 minute point if you don’t want to watch the whole thing
https://youtu.be/xR0VM3mnsgM