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I have lost about 1/3 of the weight I need to lose and some people are starting to notice. Oddly enough, as desperate as I was for this sort of attention prior to weight loss, it makes me uncomfortable now. I am still so large and the compliments just remind me of how obese I am and how I was even fatter. I guess I never really wanted people to notice me losing, I just sort of wanted to be normal and unnoticed...not noticed for being obese, or for losing. It's weird.

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It all depends on how I feel about myself that day. Some days I love compliments, other days I cringe.

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I'm okay with a compliment here and there, but I don't like when people go on and on about my weight loss. There are some people that I see regularly and they do just that; they go on and on about how different I look, etc... That's a bit much for me. But I do enjoy just a quick compliment, then we can move on lol!

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Yes, it does, started a new job and some of the women that I work with started giving me compliments, I honestly am not used to it and was uncomfortable. Its not something that I am used to prior to the weight loss.

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Oh yeah, and after years of being ignored or deprecated, I'm not quite sure what to make of it all!
Recently someone said " My, you surely look very nice Today!" I smiled ,thanked them sweetly, but inside I'm wondering , was I plug ugly before? Wasn't I really not before? Is there an occult message here? See, I believed inside, I WAS ALWAYS COOL!😕

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I can relate. Unlike most people who love to hear compliments, they make me really uncomfortable. I don’t want to discuss my body or be reminded that people are looking at me. Like a previous comment I am ok with a quick “you look great” and move on but the gushing on and on and personal questions I am not looking forward to. Maybe it won’t happen too much but I am anticipating it just in case.

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