Hi guys! I’m new here, and I’m in the phase of my journey where I am researching and deciding if wls is the right choice for me. I’m 29, 233 lbs, 5’5” tall, and have two co-morbidities (high blood pressure, high cholesterol) and a super high risk of diabetes. I know my insurance would cover my surgery, but I’m hearing things from my husband and mom that make me nervous to even get a consultation with a surgeon... hubby feels like it would be ‘un-natural’ and that hard work and perseverance will fix my issues with weight. Maybe it’s because he is from out of the country and has also never been over-weight? My mom was quietly supportive when I told her I am considering surgery, but she has also never been over-weight (she actually had bulemia wheb she was a teen); but she said she would worry that if I have yo-yo dieted til now, how would I be able to stick to a lifestyle change like surgery and all the changes it demands? I’m sorry this is long, I just need to see what people who have actually gone through what I am think... thanks!

The post op lifestyle will mimic many current diets but be more manageable because you will see greater results (incentive) and have a little extra help (restriction)

Other than that, it's all up to you to make it work.

It's like building a house with a hammer vs an air compressor nail gun. Both can do the job, one is way more effective & quick ensuring you will complete the project before you are utterly too tired and frustrated to finish.

Safe Journey!!!

I started seriously considering this after watching A User's Guide to cheating Death Season 1 Episode 4. The doctors interviewed pretty much said that unless you want to make drastic lifestyle changes (for instance become an athlete) then losing and keeping off weight is not going to happen. If you're fat and healthy then you should just focus on eating well and getting enough exercise. Well, I'd love to become an athlete. But I'm 48 and exercising alone bores me to death. I'd join a team, but who wants a fat, short female with no experience on their team?

My biggest concern (may start another thread) is getting enough calories if I decide to become more active. Is this a thing?

29 minutes ago, 216stitches said:

I started seriously considering this after watching A User's Guide to cheating Death Season 1 Episode 4. The doctors interviewed pretty much said that unless you want to make drastic lifestyle changes (for instance become an athlete) then losing and keeping off weight is not going to happen. If you're fat and healthy then you should just focus on eating well and getting enough exercise. Well, I'd love to become an athlete. But I'm 48 and exercising alone bores me to death. I'd join a team, but who wants a fat, short female with no experience on their team?

My biggest concern (may start another thread) is getting enough calories if I decide to become more active. Is this a thing?

Getting enough calories isn't going to be a problem. If anything, it's making sure you don't over do it that's an issue. As far as your reason for this post, how do you chose, that's going to be purely personal.

Both the Sleeve and the Bypass have similar loss, success rates, and how long you keep the weight off, with the Bypass beating out the Sleeve on all accounts by a small %. The Sleeve has a habit of creating or making any GERD and Acid Reflux issues worse, whereas the Bypass resolves GERD and Acid Reflux issues. The sleeve is not reversible and contrary to popular belief, the bypass actually *IS* reversible. Granted, bypass reversal is rare as it's a complicated and risky surgery, but it is an option and reversals do happen (we had a member here go through a reversal sometime this year).

Please don't listen to those giving you advice that don't have any experience with these surgeries, 9 times out of 10, the information they give you is more hearsay, myth and false information than it is fact.

Good luck!

This is super helpful information. I have had a lot of issues with GERD in my life. I've actually had hiatal hernia surgery because 2 thirds of my stomach was above my diaphragm. It's something I have to consider for this surgery because my abdomen is already trussed up like the xmas turkey.

If you're waffling, may I vote for my team , Team RNY? And I have not had the recovery I booked for, just a few blips that are difficult to smooth out, but It has given me the future My former weight and life trends did not. High Weight,was 355 last October 2017, my weight is 278 and DROPPING so smooth down. I don't feel wonderful, but fix my little problem, fix my attitude. Mine is still pretty rare for bypass, low of 5%, high of 23% , depends on what Internet Guru you read. Somebody once said, You can find anything YOU WANT and many you DON'T on the Web. But still, this pleases ME much more than throwing away 75-90% of my stomach for a sleeve would have!? &?=?