Hi Ladies,

I haven't had any surgery yet but I am wanting peoples opinions or experiences if that's okay. I am a 35 year old single Mum, I'm about 70kg overweight, my daughter is 8 years old and is over weight for her age group.

I am in the process of being referred to a specialist to discuss weight loss surgery but I am really stuck in my thinking on how this will effect my daughter. On the positive side if I had the surgery and lost weight I would be active, healthier and more outgoing and be a healthier example to my daughter (food/weight/exercise wise). But I'm also thinking if I have the surgery and my daughter then sees the tiny portions that I could eat afterwards it may have a negative impact on her and her eating? Tell me if I'm overthinking this - cause I know I could be for sure lol.

I'm so stuck thinking I should try and lose the weight naturally again - (I have been overweight most of my life and dieted most of my life too). Or I should bite the bullet and go for surgery. I'm unsure if one sets a better example than the other?

Please don't anyone be offended by my post. I'm not wanting to sound like im judging ladies on here because I truely am not.. I just want your opinions please if that's okay.

Thanks Everyone,

Kim x

Edited June 1, 20188 yr by kime316
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What a great post.

Your daughter is a bit overweight - this surgery, and the way it forces you to eat healthily, might just do her the world of good. You”ll be low carbs for a while (and maybe forever if you like that eating style), and you’ll get good at meals with healthy protein and veggies, with treats of fruit, and a huge drop in processed food - you might just see her weight slide towards normal. And set her on good eating habits for life, if you make it all positive for you both.

My partner wasn’t chubby, but has lost 10lbs and dropped a clothes size because we are both eating healthily - and liking it!!

PS my sister in law did this before me. Lost stacks - and her kids loved the delights of suddenly having her to walk with, cycle with, play ball with...

You are over thinking. I've got 2 kids myself, I started my WLS back in 2011 when they were in their early teen years, I can say that they both benefited greatly from my WLS.

You didn't specify which WLS you were going for. When I was banded back in 2011, really the only thing the band did was reduce my quantity, this helped my kids even still, people tend to overeat and not realize it. When I was revised to Bypass this past March, I had to greatly reduce my sugar and fat intake, this has already had a positive impact on my whole family, less sweets, fattening foods, etc and more healthy options has already started to show on my family. Honestly best thing I ever did and I truly wish I had done it sooner. Just be open and honest with your little one, even at 8, they understand things better than you'd think.

Your new healthy life style my prompt healthy changes that benefit her as well

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