Ever since I had my surgery my husband has been overly affectionate towards me. Yes I do love this new found affection!!! But it makes me wonder, was I not good enough before my surgery??? Am I in a superficial relationship??? I have always been happy knowing my husband loves me for me not my exterior!!!! SMH!!! (I have no intention or desire to leave my husband) [emoji848][emoji848][emoji848][emoji848]

I mean would you feel differently? Would anybody?

Honest question, why did you have the surgery? Was it 100% because it would improve your health and nothing else? Or was it also because you wanted to lose weight and look and feel more confident and attractive?

Just reading the posts on here you'll notice many people want to lose weight and look more attractive, so I don't think it's unreasonable to fault a spouse for appreciating that fact as well.

Plus I mean there's all other kinds of stuff that could do the same thing in a relationship. A new hair style/color tattoo etc etc. I think his behavior is perfectly acceptable and normal

Maybe your new found confidence is creating the sparks!

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how cute... enjoy it!

Imagine if the roles were reversed: Imagine if your spouse did something that suddenly made you more attracted to that person. How would you feel if you knew that person was questioning if your relationship was superficial?

Get out of your head & enjoy yourself!

I previously had the lap band and I lost 90lbs, during that time my husband was acting the same way, later on he confessed to me that he was afraid of me leaving him, since I was going to get prettier than before. May be you need to have a conversation with him, to assured him you won't leave him or just shhhhhh, enjoy the attention and let him continue fighting his fight to keep you in his life.

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I have worked around men most of my life and one thing I have learned in conversation that a true committed man to a woman what ever the status, feels as if the have a secret lover with their mate when ever there is a change, be it hair clothes or even colored contacts. Be happy and I am sure you will find a way to enjoy every moment.
My mother was as big as she was tall, my father spoiled her to hell. She was diagnosed with diabetes six years before she died, as she began to drop weight at a ridiculous rate, (going from 500 to280) we saw a change in my father for the worst. He no longer wanted anything to do with her, he was cruel, and cold. My mother died after their 33rd birthday.
Sorry for the negative but, I just wanted you to appreciate the new husband as well.

It could also be a combination of factors: not just the change in your appearance, but respect and admiration for your determination to do this hard thing and make a success of it. Or appreciation that you came though the surgery safely--he may have been nervous about that.

It's also possible to think you love someone as much as it's possible to love anyone and then find an even deeper level of love. Doesn't mean the earlier feeling was false.

Praise the Lord and close the door! I hope to God my husband is just like yours! LOL

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