How long before you can have sex again? My doc says whenever I feel up to it, what did you guys experience? If you don't mind me prying lol

My doctor said 4 weeks.

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I waited til 3 weeks. Incisions were still a little sore but I just put a pillow under my tummy for the first time.

First time after surgery wasn't good (I felt like I was losing my virginity all over again - I wasn't able to get lubricated...) Our hormones are all crazy and our estrogen levels are going crazy too...I also wasn't in the mood. My sex drive was low.

Second time after surgery though...it was amazing. I guess the first time was just awkward because it had been like a month since I'd had sex and we were worried about the incisions and surgery and all that stuff. But it's been great since! lol

I am only a week out and my wife is pressuring me for it. I really do not have the desire or the energy right now. However, I know she needs the intimacy and closeness. I don't want to rupture my suture line and croak mid sex.

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lol @Walter.Sobchak a week is too soon! I was still holding my abdomen two weeks out while walking because I was still healing and sore! Tell her to cool her jets and wait a couple weeks!

It's super hard to be intimate and close after surgery...I couldn't cuddle or sleep on my side with my boyfriend until 3+ weeks after surgery.

I had insomnia and could only take naps on my back. Getting in and out of bed was a painful chore the first few weeks.

Good luck!!! Don't rush it lol

That's what I am saying.
I am not overly sore, but sore enough.
And like I said, I have no desire to right now.
She is down 80 pounds since her sleeve and pre op diet so she wants it all the time.
I am half dead and trying to heal and get healthier.
I am hoping my sex drive comes back once I get some weight off, but I am damn near 40 and might be past my prime.

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lol [mention=310857]Walter.Sobchak[/mention] a week is too soon! I was still holding my abdomen two weeks out while walking because I was still healing and sore! Tell her to cool her jets and wait a couple weeks!
It's super hard to be intimate and close after surgery...I couldn't cuddle or sleep on my side with my boyfriend until 3+ weeks after surgery.
I had insomnia and could only take naps on my back. Getting in and out of bed was a painful chore the first few weeks.
Good luck!!! Don't rush it lol

I have been dealing with insomnia too! I'm 4 weeks out and it's still a problem. My incisions are pretty much healed and no more pain but the insomnia is driving me nuts. Tend to get super tired in the afternoons so I nap and then can't fall asleep at a normal time .[emoji20]


5'7 Sleeved 8/7 HW: 256 SW: 248
CW: 235 At 2 week post op GW: 150

@sleevedshereenthank you that's actually helpful info.

1 hour ago, Walter.Sobchak said:

I am only a week out and my wife is pressuring me for it. I really do not have the desire or the energy right now. However, I know she needs the intimacy and closeness. I don't want to rupture my suture line and croak mid sex.

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Seriously, this made me giggle.

Seriously, this made me giggle.

It's tough times at my house.

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17 hours ago, Walter.Sobchak said:

don't want to rupture my suture line and croak mid sex.

near 40 and might be past my prime.
It's tough times at my house.

@Walter.Sobchak

hey dude

you are toooo cute/funny!! LOL

if you don't feel well yet, hold off

til you are better. you don't want to

"do the deed" if you are not ready to

enjoy things to their fullest! - yep

times are hard, but temporary !!

40 - past your prime? I don't think so!! you are probably

kidding. you are lucky, STARTING your new life

now !! wifey cold between the sheets?? it'll get better.

you'll feel your ol' self again (actually you'll feel a

million times better! - that's great, DW is doing

wonderful. as for you - keep UP the good work.!

kathy

I had sex the first day I came home from the hospital. Sex has only gotten better, it's awesome!! Hubby is too thrilled. 17 days post-op. Sleever. No issues at all. Position matters, lol.

[mention=310857]Walter.Sobchak[/mention]
hey dude
you are toooo cute/funny!! LOL
if you don't feel well yet, hold off
til you are better. you don't want to
"do the deed" if you are not ready to
enjoy things to their fullest! - yep
times are hard, but temporary !!
40 - past your prime? I don't think so!! you are probably
kidding. you are lucky, STARTING your new life
now !! wifey cold between the sheets?? it'll get better.
you'll feel your ol' self again (actually you'll feel a
million times better! - that's great, DW is doing
wonderful. as for you - keep UP the good work.![emoji6]
kathy

Thank you, I am doing pretty good today.
I told my wife maybe tomorrow when I don't have work.
I am hoping things just continue to get better.

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@Allie589 the insomnia goes away. You're body is just adjusting to everything. From what I read, it's because your sugar levels are low and you're body produces this hormone called ketones when you're body is like depleted of sugar and it gives you energy...putting you're body in ketosis (this causes the insomnia). I dealt with insomnia for the first 3-4 weeks because I was on a liquid diet. Once I started introducing foods into my body, it went away.

I had it a week out and was fine - just have them be careful and all is good.

On 07/09/2017 at 8:36 PM, Walter.Sobchak said:

I am only a week out and my wife is pressuring me for it. I really do not have the desire or the energy right now. However, I know she needs the intimacy and closeness. I don't want to rupture my suture line and croak mid sex.

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Time to get creative with intimacy , everyone heals at their own rate so do lots of romantic stuff with each other, and the time will fly and you will be fit in no time