Online dating has been an adventure. I recently thought I had met someone truly compatible. After 2 months, he tells me (in a text, btw) that he thinks we should both move on. None of the reasons he gave made sense and I could tell he was holding something back. Finally, he typed the words "I have never been with a heavy woman." I was stunned as we had been intimate several times and he commented that it was the best ever in his life, etc. I have lost 15 lbs since we started dating and 82 lbs total. He knows about my surgery and that I am shrinking. While I know I will get over this, I feel defeated and frustrated.

@@Amelie2016, somehow I don't see being kicked in the gut an uplifting, revelatory way to learn any sort of lesson for the future. There are ways far more considerate and graceful to back off from a person without first going in for the kill.

Hey

I didn't do it, he did. Of course there are better ways to do it, but he chose what he chose, no?

You can take the experience and see it for what it was, or you can try to make it look like he was being kind. He was not. And yes you can turn suffering into a learning experience.

@@Amelie2016, you miss my point and I don't get yours. That's all cool.

UPDATE:

It didn't take him long to resurface. Apparently, all along he was living with someone else (separate bedrooms?....pffft). We talked for a couple hours friday night and I saw him on Saturday night and then had a latent epiphany. He is a liar. Done.

UPDATE:

It didn't take him long to resurface. Apparently, all along he was living with someone else (separate bedrooms?....pffft). We talked for a couple hours friday night and I saw him on Saturday night and then had a latent epiphany. He is a liar. Done.

Make sure he knows you had this epiphany and realized he isn't worth one more minute of your time.

Personally, I can't wait until you sashay past him at your goal weight.

This thread has been very therapeutic for me since I am trying to get over a similar situation. Sorry to hear he is such an arse

Sorry you had to go through that[emoji853]

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Edited May 11, 201610 yr by nyteacher125

@@RILEYSMOM22,

I know this was more than 2 months ago. But just saw it and wanted to comment. This says EVERYTHING about him and NOTHING about you. Typically when people act this way it's based on insecurities. I think if someone said this to me I'd likely respond with "well I'm not used to being with someone so small (endowed)". . Hope your future experiences are better.

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Likes cats and knows the struggle of weight loss surgery? Screw that guy...call me, lol