I'm a nurse in an ER. My surgery is scheduled for 3/28. I have only told my children (grown) and husband. They are beyond supportive. I haven't told anyone at work because I don't want to hear horror stories of patients they've taken care of and come in with some type of blockage or worse. I also don't want the negativity of their opinions. Most of all, I don't want anyone watching what I eat or questioning me. (My plan is to stick to everything I've been told to a T). I don't feel like it is anyone's business, however, they will notice I'm losing weight and working with all women, (they tend to be nosey!) I'm sure they'll ask me what I'm doing to lose the weight. Plus they will all know that I'm out for a couple of weeks, and I had to tell my boss that I was having surgery, but I did not elaborate, nor should I have to.

Any suggestions??

Thanks in advance!

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I'm in the similar boat... My parents, sister and husband now. I will not tell anyone else. People are easy to judge and I don't want to hear it.

I don't want to tell my boss, even thou I will be out for 2/3 days.

I wonder if the Doctor will say on a note I got my gallbladder removed?

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Most of the time it just says surgery. There's no requirement saying what surgery as far as I know.

I'm a medic. I had to tell my boss and my shift. I'm scared of dumping and lifting when I get back, I need them to know what's going on incase I ever become a patient.

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I did not want to tell anyone beyond my wife and kids... Seems my wife thinks it's ok to tell passing strangers, neighbors, kinfolk... Sheesh. Hah...

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I have told my sister & a few very close friends who will be helping with my recovery. I'll tell my parents (in their 80's) this week sometime, but I believe they will be fine with it.

I have not told my boss, he has made less than favorable comments in the past about someone else possibly getting bypass, so all he knows is I will probably need abdominal surgery in the coming months. I'm having a little bit of a hard time justifying this deception because he's really a great guy to work for, but for now I'm not telling him.

Had my surgery consult yesterday--endoscope on April 26th--hoping for a surgery date end of May/beginning of June!!

You must read my post on this subject. I don't no how to attach it to you but you can find it if you click on my posts. There are some fantastic comments in there to my post. I am also only telling my husband mom and aunt. My sisters I will tell as well. (I'm sure my mother already did) lol. But these are all close family I see on a daily basis other then that no one will no. I'm still in the air as to what I'm going to tell ppl about the surgery itself. Some suggested saying hiatal hernia repair. But as far as explaining liquid diets and lack of food I'm just being honest im saying I'm on a serious diet. During the liquid phase I'm going to use the Protein shake/ cleanse diet fad. "It's my cleanse day sorry" lol good luck and check out my post!

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@@taramarie523 I just looked up your post--great comments for sure!!

here's the link of anyone wants it http://www.bariatricpal.com/topic/364426-anyone-not-telling-anyone-about-their-surgery/

Edited April 6, 201610 yr by Twinkle Toes

Thanks! I couldn't figure out how to post the link lol

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I have told my sister & a few very close friends who will be helping with my recovery. I'll tell my parents (in their 80's) this week sometime, but I believe they will be fine with it.

I have not told my boss, he has made less than favorable comments in the past about someone else possibly getting bypass, so all he knows is I will probably need abdominal surgery in the coming months. I'm having a little bit of a hard time justifying this deception because he's really a great guy to work for, but for now I'm not telling him.

Had my surgery consult yesterday--endoscope on April 26th--hoping for a surgery date end of May/beginning of June!!

Your work doesn't need to know what you're having done. In fact your letter will just say surgery and when they clear you to come back.