my surgery is coming up 02/23/16 im really scared but its something i really want to do. my dad and brother dont support me at all. they say im taking the easy way out that im lazy that i should just exercise. im 317 pounds 5'9. its so depressing. im the one with the white tshirt. i just want to be healthy and happy again.

not knowing your father, I will have to guess why he isn't telling you that he cancelled his trip in order to be at the hospital.

I would guess that he wants the decision to have WLS TOTALLY yours. He doesn't want you to "lean" on him to bolster you up if you were to wobble about it. Tough love.

He wants you to be strong and confident and you are showing that you are indeed.

He's going to be there! Don't question it. Bathe in the sheer glorious support he is now willing to give.

not knowing your father, I will have to guess why he isn't telling you that he cancelled his trip in order to be at the hospital.

I would guess that he wants the decision to have WLS TOTALLY yours. He doesn't want you to "lean" on him to bolster you up if you were to wobble about it. Tough love.

He wants you to be strong and confident and you are showing that you are indeed.

He's going to be there! Don't question it. Bathe in the sheer glorious support he is now willing to give.

❤️ im ready! im doing this!

See? Now wasn't that easy?

Thata girl!

@@Yadie2006 I'm so glad I found your post! I'm having surgery the same day!

I too am unsupported in my desicion to have surgery by somenone who is very important to me, my husband. He is also the same person who has insulted me about my weight, and made it plain...he doesn't want a fat wife. He also feels I should be able to do it on my own.

I am nervous about the surgery too. I also know I have battled my weight for 20 years, losing, and then gaining even more...over and over again. I am sure that I need major help to lose it and keep it off. To stay obese is really an open invitation to so many health problems, and I feel so ashamed and hopeless about it.

I'm sharing this with you...to let you know that you're not alone. I plan on going to my first suport, God....and also here to the forums. Since we're having it the same day, we can encourage one another. ????

I'm praying for your family to come around. And for a painless, successful surgery!

God bless!

@@FrankiesGirl You really expressed exactly how I feel and what I've been through. Thank you for taking the time to write it. It's good to hear the reasons why I'm having this surgery in such a cohesive way. Be blessed!

Where are you having surgery and who is your surgeon? Usually it is a simple surgery. I had it a week ago and started back at work yesterday with no problem!

I think for this you have to make the decision for you. I had decided I was done fighting my body with diet after diet. I wanted to be a healthy size and have energy to lead a full life. I figure once I am at a normal weight people will get used to it and the surgery won't be such a big deal anymore. Hope that makes sense:)

im in san jose california. im having my surgery at good samaritan hospital with dr marc zare.

Hey girl, I am having the sleeve Feb 1 at Good Sam with Dr. Zare!!!

@@Yadie2006 I'm so glad I found your post! I'm having surgery the same day!

I too am unsupported in my desicion to have surgery by somenone who is very important to me, my husband. He is also the same person who has insulted me about my weight, and made it plain...he doesn't want a fat wife. He also feels I should be able to do it on my own.

I am nervous about the surgery too. I also know I have battled my weight for 20 years, losing, and then gaining even more...over and over again. I am sure that I need major help to lose it and keep it off. To stay obese is really an open invitation to so many health problems, and I feel so ashamed and hopeless about it.

I'm sharing this with you...to let you know that you're not alone. I plan on going to my first suport, God....and also here to the forums. Since we're having it the same day, we can encourage one another. ????

I'm praying for your family to come around. And for a painless, successful surgery!

God bless!

yay we have the same day! i know when family dont support us its very emotional. but only we know how hard it is to lose the weight. this is going to be a life changing journey and im so ready for it. keep im touch i will also pray for you. ❤️

Where are you having surgery and who is your surgeon? Usually it is a simple surgery. I had it a week ago and started back at work yesterday with no problem!

I think for this you have to make the decision for you. I had decided I was done fighting my body with diet after diet. I wanted to be a healthy size and have energy to lead a full life. I figure once I am at a normal weight people will get used to it and the surgery won't be such a big deal anymore. Hope that makes sense:)

im in san jose california. im having my surgery at good samaritan hospital with dr marc zare.

Hey girl, I am having the sleeve Feb 1 at Good Sam with Dr. Zare!!!

really? thats awsome! he is such a noce doctor! did u start your preop diet yet?

@@Yadie2006 yes, let's keep in touch! We can support one another. So grateful for this forum!

@@Yadie2006 Zare is so cool. I started my preop diet today, but it is only 1 Meal Replacement today and 2 Meal Replacements tomorrow (solid food OK for those 2 days).

Let's keep in touch!

@@Yadie2006 Zare is so cool. I started my preop diet today, but it is only 1 meal replacement today and 2 meal replacements tomorrow (solid food OK for those 2 days).

Let's keep in touch!

yay!! ????

@@Yadie2006,

WLS is a big deal, so it’s good to think carefully! Sometimes it helps to try to identify exactly what you’re “scared” of, just like some of the other members have said. The surgery itself is scary to think about, but the reality is you’ll be asleep and have no idea what’s going on.

Life after surgery is a little scary – are you scared you’re not going to be able to follow the diet? That’s definitely a huge issue, and one you need to be honest with yourself about. Are you willing to make the changes not for a few weeks, or months, or years, but FOR LIFE?

As for your family: yes, that’s rough. It’s always better to have the support of your loved ones, but it’s not always possible. Maybe they’ll come around, maybe they won’t. Maybe they’ll come around as soon as you get surgery, maybe it’ll be when you start losing weight, maybe it’ll be when they see how hard you’re working and NOT taking the easy way out.

Any big decision is scary. There are the pros and cons. There is your health and kids, versus the cost of surgery and the permanence of losing your stomach. Only you can decide…but we’ll be with you. Good luck and let us know what happens.

@@Yadie2006,

WLS is a big deal, so it’s good to think carefully! Sometimes it helps to try to identify exactly what you’re “scared” of, just like some of the other members have said. The surgery itself is scary to think about, but the reality is you’ll be asleep and have no idea what’s going on.

Life after surgery is a little scary – are you scared you’re not going to be able to follow the diet? That’s definitely a huge issue, and one you need to be honest with yourself about. Are you willing to make the changes not for a few weeks, or months, or years, but FOR LIFE?

As for your family: yes, that’s rough. It’s always better to have the support of your loved ones, but it’s not always possible. Maybe they’ll come around, maybe they won’t. Maybe they’ll come around as soon as you get surgery, maybe it’ll be when you start losing weight, maybe it’ll be when they see how hard you’re working and NOT taking the easy way out.

Any big decision is scary. There are the pros and cons. There is your health and kids, versus the cost of surgery and the permanence of losing your stomach. Only you can decide…but we’ll be with you. Good luck and let us know what happens.

im scared im going to die in the surgery ???? my coworkers tell me alot of negative things! one of my coworkers even told me, IF Your FAT your FAT accepted! i was like what??? did u really just say that?!n????

@@Yadie2006,

WLS is a big deal, so it’s good to think carefully! Sometimes it helps to try to identify exactly what you’re “scared” of, just like some of the other members have said. The surgery itself is scary to think about, but the reality is you’ll be asleep and have no idea what’s going on.

Life after surgery is a little scary – are you scared you’re not going to be able to follow the diet? That’s definitely a huge issue, and one you need to be honest with yourself about. Are you willing to make the changes not for a few weeks, or months, or years, but FOR LIFE?

As for your family: yes, that’s rough. It’s always better to have the support of your loved ones, but it’s not always possible. Maybe they’ll come around, maybe they won’t. Maybe they’ll come around as soon as you get surgery, maybe it’ll be when you start losing weight, maybe it’ll be when they see how hard you’re working and NOT taking the easy way out.

Any big decision is scary. There are the pros and cons. There is your health and kids, versus the cost of surgery and the permanence of losing your stomach. Only you can decide…but we’ll be with you. Good luck and let us know what happens.

im scared im going to die in the surgery my coworkers tell me alot of negative things! one of my coworkers even told me, IF Your FAT your FAT accepted! i was like what??? did u really just say that?!n

I'd still say, "I'll pray for you", and walk away.

Yes! "I'll pray for you" and walk away. ????????????

@@Yadie2006 Like someone said earlier in the thread....Lordy you are gorgeous!! Now then... about being scared...You have a right to be scared. You're about to embark on something you have only read about, or watched videos about. You're going to change your life! Your family will get over it. I am 54. I told my husband and 86 yr old Mom and my big brothers and sister, and all the nieces and nephews that I was having a VSG last year, and they all were like "DON'T DO IT!!" "YOU'LL DIE ON THE TABLE!!" Well, the odds of that happening are super duper low......the odds of me dying in my sleep while Morbidly Obese were very high. Now I am 9 months out, and folks are used to seeing me as a normal sized woman. I am so much healthier, and I have done this to ensure I will have a chance to live a longer life. Girl.....this surgery will save your life. I don't want to talk anyone into doing something they don't want to do, or don't believe in. But I totally believe in this surgery, as someone who has actually done it. Blessings to you.