Okay, I'm a little pissed right now. I was just talking to a friend of mine who, thus far, has been supportive. She said she was talking to her girlfriend (who's studying to be a nurse) told her "There's a lot of complications w/that thing".

Okay,

(1) Do you think I haven't done my research about this and am unaware of the complications? What did you expect my response to be??? "Oh really? I didn't know that. Shucks, I didn't even think about complications. I didn't factor that into my decision." I have researched this damn procedure for the longest and actually told my surgeon I've watched the video so much that I could probably assist him in his next surgery.

(2) My surgery is in 2 freakin days. I don't want to hear this mess right now. I don't even want to talk to her anymore about this. I'm so damn mad right now. Excuse my French.

(3) I'm sick of people who are uneducated about this process putting in their stupid 2 cents! I'm so sick of it. This is why I have been hesitant to tell anyone about this. I don't want them to ruin my journey into LapBand and I refuse to let them. You ain't raining on my parade.

I will just enjoy this next day and be excited about my new life. There are so many people here on LBT that have been super successful w/this and I am focused on that. No, I'm not burying my head in the sand to those that have had complications, but they're to be expected.

I've made an informed decision and that's that.

Sorry for the rant!

Hey Chim.... We're all here for you... supporting you NOW and in the days (weeks, months) to come! The "general public" doesn't know what "we" know...

PLUS: They have not walked in the shoes we've been walking in - and our FEET HURT and phooey on them anyway!

Rant away --- get it out of your system, then smile and feel GOOD about your decision!!!

(I'm talking big, aren't I? I haven't told anyone other than my DH about this ---- and you're reinforcing my decision to keep it to myself)

I got it from a relative that actually had the band!!!! Saying "well I should've talked to her first"......

I'm a nurse and people LOVE to be negative.....LOVE to "be informed".....LOVE to have the worst stories....bah, bah, bah!

My biggest comeback is "well at the worst it totally reversible!"

HA!!!! LOL!

But really!? Who cares if you've done the research....you know what is right for you and your life and your health!

I feel much the same way in that I don't want to hear the negative nellies. As a nurse who worked bariatriacs, I feel like I probably know as much or more about this surgery than most ppl will ever know. I, too, would be pissed.

Thankfully, not many ppl in this area know what a lap band is so no one has an opinion one way or the other. They are just now being done around here so I am on the leading edge.

But I could imagine myself feeling as you do about a negative response.

Just remember, this forum is full of true "experts" who have lived it and that, to me, is the best witness ever.

Thank you all so much. I am feeling so much better. I've calmed down a bit and it's all good.

I am just ready for this awesome journey and the naysayers are just part of it. I can choose to let it affect me, or to let it go in one ear and out the other. It's all up to me.

Okay, I'm a little pissed right now. I was just talking to a friend of mine who, thus far, has been supportive. She said she was talking to her girlfriend (who's studying to be a nurse) told her "There's a lot of complications w/that thing".

Okay,

(1) Do you think I haven't done my research about this and am unaware of the complications? What did you expect my response to be??? "Oh really? I didn't know that. Shucks, I didn't even think about complications. I didn't factor that into my decision." I have researched this damn procedure for the longest and actually told my surgeon I've watched the video so much that I could probably assist him in his next surgery.

(2) My surgery is in 2 freakin days. I don't want to hear this mess right now. I don't even want to talk to her anymore about this. I'm so damn mad right now. Excuse my French.

(3) I'm sick of people who are uneducated about this process putting in their stupid 2 cents! I'm so sick of it. This is why I have been hesitant to tell anyone about this. I don't want them to ruin my journey into LapBand and I refuse to let them. You ain't raining on my parade.

I will just enjoy this next day and be excited about my new life. There are so many people here on LBT that have been super successful w/this and I am focused on that. No, I'm not burying my head in the sand to those that have had complications, but they're to be expected.

I've made an informed decision and that's that.

Sorry for the rant!

I am on NO way sticking up for your friend, but she is ignorant to the whole picture here, she doesn't realize the good part out weighs the possiblity of complications. Unfortunately most friends won't sit and do the research like we have. I have a friend, with a much higher BMI and medical conditions far worse than mine who thinks i am nuts. I gave her one of the books I have and then she said ok I believe you and support you. She never read the book mind you just knew if I went that far that I did my research.

Now the best part... my closest friend who is planning on going with me to MX for srugery thinks i am nuts... well my cousin had a friend who is nurse and went to MX to Dr Ortiz on friday of last week... now if a nurse was willing to do it and in MX it has to be ok... now she is 100% behind me... go figure.

Don't let others worry you, people judge but that is their problem don't let judegments get in your way.

XOXO

Thank you for the post. Now I have a place to share my anger, too! The first and only friend I told about my surgery has been less than supportive, to say the least. Considering she's over 300 lbs, I figured she'd be excited about this but NO!

A month or so has passed since I originally told her, but I just mentioned yesterday that I would be busy next month because of my surgery. So here's part of the email she sent me:

"As to the surgery... you're planning on having that done NEXT month? Did you ever get the link I sent you? I know for sure I sent it to you twice in Yahoo messenger.

[REMOVED DIET DETAILS]

I hope that helps. Please consider it! The surgery sounds so dangerous. And I know it does not help everyone. I'm so worried for you."

Another DIET?!?! Are freakin kidding me?!?! :yell: I don't even want to speak to her! AND she called my house and left a message! :lalala:

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Just remember, this forum is full of true "experts" who have lived it and that, to me, is the best witness ever.

You are absolutely right. We get it all right here...the good, the bad, and the ugly. I know that I have made an informed decision.

...she doesn't realize the good part out weighs the possiblity of complications...

Don't let others worry you, people judge but that is their problem don't let judegments get in your way.

XOXO

Right, like remaining morbidly obese is a great alternative. So ignorant.

Thank you for the post. Now I have a place to share my anger, too! The first and only friend I told about my surgery has been less than supportive, to say the least. Considering she's over 300 lbs, I figured she'd be excited about this but NO!

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Another DIET?!?! Are freakin kidding me?!?! :yell: I don't even want to speak to her! AND she called my house and left a message! :lalala:

That's me, :lalala:...That's for all the negative nellies out there! Another diet, huh? LOL. They just don't get it. But you know what, it's okay. I'm done w/the crusade to make them understand. If someone truly wants to know more, I'm open for discussion. As for those just wanting to voice their negative opinions, I couldn't care less. I don't want to hear it.

<p><p><p>IMO it sounds like your friend may be afraid of your success. After all, if you can get the band and lose weight, it may lessen how she feels about herself (for whatever reason). Jealously is a very strong emotion. Just something to think about. </p> <p> </p> <p>In addition, there are complications of getting in your car and driving every day. <img src="http://www.LapBandTalk.com/images/smilies/loco.gif" border="0" alt="" title="Loco" smilieid="272" class="inlineimg" /> Hang in there and stay focused on you and not what others have to say. <img src="http://www.LapBandTalk.com/images/smilies/hug.gif" border="0" alt="" title="Hug" smilieid="260" class="inlineimg" /><img src="http://www.LapBandTalk.com/images/smilies/loco.gif" border="0" alt="" title="Loco" smilieid="272" class="inlineimg"

Ok, first of all, you know what the fat is doing to your body. You have to live in your body daily. Whether your friends are fat or skinny, there could be a jealousy factor. Either way, if you lose weight, you will be getting more attention, and that could be driving some of this behavior. I think when someone hears a story, a BAD story, regarding this surgry they are going to be the first to tell you. If they hear a million good stories, they are NOT going to tell you those. Just the bad ones. Go figure, huh?

These examples are the exact reason I did not tell a lot of people. I didn't want to hear any negatives. I had my mind made up, was scared shitless to have surgery, and I didn't need anyone telling me bad things. I had read through the whole complications thread and knew about so many of them. I was scared that that could happen to me, but I was also scared that I was going to die just walking out of my house from a heart attack!!!! Its all so personal and wonderful and addicting!!! I am SOOOOO damn happy that I did this for myself!!! I get inspiration EVERYDAY from this site and that means so much to me.

Now that I have lost 61.5 pounds in three months I am happy to tell people if they ask me how I am losing. No more hiding for me. No more secrets. I don't go out of my way to tell them, but if they ask I will share. I know that this is the last time I am going to see fat on my body and I am so proud to be able to say that. I work out A LOT. I believe you have to move your body A LOT to burn those calories. As of today, I am no longer fill free. Over three months out and no fill, until today. BUT, I am not willing to let someone else be a sour grape to me. If someone were to tell me something that hurt me or made me mad about the band, I would tell them to get lost. I need positive people around me now, and if someone CAN'T be positive, then get lost!!!

Just ignore her. YOu will be fine.

My daughter is a nursing student and I wouldn't take her advice about surgery...the ONLY nurse I would even consider to be credible about surgery would be a practicing surgical nurse or a nurse that HAD the surgery I was having.

I call my daughter "Nursie Know It All" because she THINKS she knows it all! We all have a good giggle, including her, when she gets on her nursing pedistal

Don't sweat it Chim...you're going to do GREAT!!!!

Chimboree,

Unfortunately with time we all come to realize that EVERYONE that you know does not want to see you happy. And that's the bottom line. When we face the fact that our happiness is determined by only 2 entities then the BS will literally go in one ear and not out the other BUT won't even go IN! You know those 2 entities are GOD and yourself!

So shake those haters and keep it moving girl!

Good luck tomorrow and eat some ice cream or something tonight cause you won't be having any for a longggggggggggggggggg time.

Take care and my prayers are with you,

Chanda

I call my daughter "Nursie Know It All" because she THINKS she knows it all! We all have a good giggle, including her, when she gets on her nursing pedistal :grouphug:

LOL:rofl::confused::rofl:

I have been an RN for 20 years now and us "old" nurses call this "RN itis" or "LPN itis" Be very proud that your daughter has chosen such a wonderful career. Tell her to hang in there! She is now in what is known as the "teen years of nursing" In a few years she will realize just how much she really didn't know.....just like a teenager :grouphug:

I like to think of critical people this way: Their criticism helps you to define what you DO believe and should make you more resolute in your decision. Know what I mean? So challenge is a good thing thinking of it that way.

It's like when I have people who question my spiritual beliefs....it used to make me upset until I realized that everytime someone did, I just became more and more comfortable with where I was and what I knew to be My Truth.

This is your path and your life. Claim it as your own and don't be shaken by those who challenge you.

BTW - I guess you're banded by now.... CONGRATULATIONS!!! :eek:

I agree with "Morbid Obesity has alot of complications too". Have you noticed how many nurses are on this board? That has got to tell you something if they are getting it done themselves. I am much healthier now that I have lost weight. Good luck with your journey, and you are doing this for yourself not your friends so let them talk, people will do that no matter what so smile and keep your chin up and when you are feeling and looking good she will be eating crow!