Ok i know this post is going to sound silly to some people. But its serious for me.

Sooo im 1 week post op and havent told my boyfriend (or anybody really) about my surgery besides my mom, dad, sister and manager. Ive been trting to avoid my boyfriend cuz i dont want him to ask for sex. Dr says 6 weeks ???? i havent even seen him in a week and hes starting to become suspicious. I lied and told him i came down with the stomach flu and have only been in the bed sick and throwing up. This week im going to tell him i have to go out of town for a week. The week after that im going to say i have my period. Im out of excuses after that. Lol. Anybody welcome to leave some suggestions/lies for me to tell him lol and telling him the truth about my surgery is NOT an option! Lol any help is greatly appreciated lol

hmmm. If telling him the truth is not an option, it doesn't sound like it's a very serious relationship.

Well you should be able to have sex before 6 weeks, but won't he notice the scars? What kind of relationship do you have if you can't tell him truth?

That's a tough situation that you can't trust him with the fact that you had major surgery and have decided to make some huge changes in your life.

You'd better come up with something crafty to explain the incredible shrinking new you.

The old "dog ate my homework" shenanigans will only last so long unless he's an idiot.

Well you should be able to have sex before 6 weeks, but won't he notice the scars? What kind of relationship do you have if you can't tell him truth?

Did you have an open surgery? I can't imagine any reason why you would need to wait six weeks. a week and a half was good enough for me.

I echo what everyone else says about not telling him about the surgery...

Truth is the best option. Have you decide when you are going to tell him. Let's say a couple months from now. How will he feel when he learns the secret downstream and that you did not even trust him with it for so long.

Don't you think he will notice the six scars on your stomach?

Its not that i cant trust him. I just dont want anyone to know. And yes our relationship is fairly new. Weve only been together 4 months. Thanks everyone for your opinions though.

If your having sex with him, your close enough to tell him and be honest. There is no way out of that situation.

I did the opposite. I ONLY told my girlfriend and nobody else. Couldn't have sex for about 3 weeks (though if I were a woman it probably would have been sooner... "thrusting" sure as hell couldn't have happened at one and a half weeks due to my abdominal pain around my sutures... TMI).

I think before he notices the lack of sex he'll notice that you can't eat food. I suggest telling him you're on your period and opening up the blow job factory for two weeks. He won't mind.

Edited August 13, 201510 yr by gbveteran4d

I wasn't given a sex restriction.

I was not given a sex restriction either and my husband is patiently waiting ..If he loves u tell him the truth and he will wait.

You need to be honest with him

Tell him he will respect your honesty. If not then it's his loss.

Solid relationship are built upon honesty. Either he will support you or he won't. If he does, perhaps he is a keeper. If he doesn't, than you saved yourself future heartbreak.

I do agree with gb, mouth hugs can make a man forget, maybe forgive a lot! However, I do think if he is a keeper, you should be able to be open. I know you don't think so now but, as your body changes, you will feel more sexy and probably more sexually open so, you should feel totally comfortable with the person who will experience your sexual Renaissance! Lol you may be underestimaging this dude, he may be totally on board. If not, you really need to know that now, don't waste anymore time on toxic crap that will hold you back, this journey is all about moving on and up

! You need to just throw it out there , the worst that could happen is he turns out to be an non supportive ass hat! In Wich case, he'll be doing you a favor by showing his true colors, if not...get makin with the love! Lol