do you guys think some people want you to stay fat? i mean some people are treating me as if i am not supposed to be happy. i say nothing now about certain victories. .i cheer to myself.

It comes from inside them and its not your fault. They are maybe envious, scared your relationship with them will change, scared your personality will change, etc.

Just be yourself and if they don't want to Celebrate with you, we will!!

As Peach said, it comes from jealousy. I have a friend like that. Before the surgery, she was one of my biggest supporters. Now that I've had the surgery, she doesn't want to hear anything about it and is avoiding me. It sucks that some people act that way, but there's really nothing that you can do about it.

man i never expected that

..thanks foe support...love this site!

One of my sisters (who is also overweight ) had this conversation the other day. She mentioned early on thst she was worried she would be jealous thst she wouldn't lose like I was by doing it on her own. I told her I don't want this to come between us. But I've lost a significant amount of weight on my preop liquid diet and I can see her already getting uptight around me. She swears she will NEVER get this surgery...it's not for her.

Anyhow, I'm trying to just act the same and not talk about it with her.

A long time ago I lost a good amount of weight and my so call aka friend was the one telling me to do this and do that eat this and eat that and when I finally followed her advise and started making better choices and lost weight i lost her as friend...all the love and support I thought I had was all gone!!! The jealousy is real!!!!

Edited June 4, 201511 yr by Sleevefornellie

Just remember this: people want to see u do good, but never better than them. I'm going through the same thing, people around me saying stupid comments and want me to feel bad b/c i had this surgery done. Just dont pay attetion to them. ????

There always are some people like that.

thanks everyone. its crazy...its ok to be friend just as long as i dont lose too much or look too good huh.ig not a,friend to begin with