Question: What have you replaced your "food addiction" with?

Me.... I can't stop buying sexy underwear.... I know it's crazy. But one of the first things i did was threw out all the un-sexy white high-wasted cotton draws..... Now i look forward each month to getting the coupon in the mail from VS. My underwear drawer use to be a sea of white ugliness..... now it bright and cheerful....

I would have said sex... but i don't think "by yourself" counts.... lol

I think I've regressed to my teenage years.

Maybe we all have!

Hells yes !!!!

Gotta love it, too.

Lately for me its been clothing for sure. Just the fact that I can buy so much more for the same price that I use to pay for one item of clothing. Prior to surgery a single pair of jeans would easily cost me anywhere from $80-130. Hell last week I got three pairs of jeans for under $30.

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All the talk about the sex drive going full throttle is going to ruin me. It is already high as can be. I can't wait to drop the weight and see what happens !!!

I think I've regressed to my teenage years.

Maybe we all have!

Hells yes !!!!

Gotta love it, too.

Hell yes.... i know i have regressed to an 18 year old boy.....

Lately for me its been clothing for sure. Just the fact that I can buy so much more for the same price that I use to pay for one item of clothing. Prior to surgery a single pair of jeans would easily cost me anywhere from $80-130. Hell last week I got three pairs of jeans for under $30.

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I'm a bargain shopper so I was always able to get steals like this. I just like shopping and I'm still trying to make myself shop my closet. I have no idea why I held onto clothes I couldn't fit, but it sure is fun getting back into them again!

@ No my dear it is not just you. In all the years i have been here... the sex drive has to be one of the things that comes back with a vengeance. I know mine did. The getting hit on is a struggle... the attention and all the flirtation... is intoxicating (especially when you don't get it at home)... and can lead one to do things they once said they would NEVER do. Im learning now the hard way.... Who to trust and not... you would think at 47 i would know... But we live and learn... get knocked down and pull ourselves back up.

"Learning the hard way"........that statement.....could easily be inscribed on my tombstone one day. "Here lies a dude who learned the Hard Way". LOL.

Who to trust? Very crucial bit. Unfortunately we don't find out who we can't trust until it's too late. That's been the case with me, at least. The person that you think has your back in life.....is facing all challenges, big and small......for better or for worse......sickness and health.....then you realize your trust was misplaced. Damn.

It sorta skews things and clouds your judgement on ever trusting again.

I can now look back on my life and see the people that I've detached from.....friendships that I've not upheld.....old interests, etc.......each of these has some component to broken trust as the reasons for moving on.

I am lucky, though.....very fortunate to have recently found that I can place my trust with someone. I can share with them. It has been the key to me finding peace with my current state of affairs and moving forward. I am a better man for this.

So is this the new normal then? Does it taper down? Though if I think about it, pre-morbid obesity and pre-severe depressive episodes, this kinda WAS my normal, so maybe I just answered my own question. I'm getting plenty at home, though not as much as I need (in fairness, one man working long hours can only go so many times a day, no matter how much he wants to keep up. Lol). My problem is that I'm a natural flirt and usually don't know that I'm doing it - I just think I'm being nice. Plus I don't really notice that someone is into me until they're already trying to stick their tongue down my throat. It usually doesn't occur to me that they might be, and then when it sinks in, you're right, it's absolutely intoxicating.

Damn......so many similarities here.

I'm the old dude in my relationship.....the old dude who is working the long hours and still has an almost insatiable appetite for bedroom cardio.

Hell.....put in a 17 hour night shift last week.....called home at 10:00am and woke her up and asked her if she wanted to go out for a date-lunch....hoping to get the fires stoked for fun later that afternoon........was up way over 24hrs while trying to make the magic happen.

I was told earlier today that, "We do it all the time......I mean....we just did it last week.....". I just raised my eyebrow and nodded my head.....waited a second or two and replied, "........And, my Dear.......that is precisely the problem.....I never took a vow of celibacy.....I have needs". I disengaged from further conversation for a while and let that sink in.

I'm not going to be able to be a once-a-week guy.

It's unreal when I consider what would-will happen if she ever meets me halfway.........

@ No my dear it is not just you. In all the years i have been here... the sex drive has to be one of the things that comes back with a vengeance. I know mine did. The getting hit on is a struggle... the attention and all the flirtation... is intoxicating (especially when you don't get it at home)... and can lead one to do things they once said they would NEVER do. Im learning now the hard way.... Who to trust and not... you would think at 47 i would know... But we live and learn... get knocked down and pull ourselves back up.

"Learning the hard way"........that statement.....could easily be inscribed on my tombstone one day. "Here lies a dude who learned the Hard Way". LOL.

Who to trust? Very crucial bit. Unfortunately we don't find out who we can't trust until it's too late. That's been the case with me, at least. The person that you think has your back in life.....is facing all challenges, big and small......for better or for worse......sickness and health.....then you realize your trust was misplaced. Damn.

It sorta skews things and clouds your judgement on ever trusting again.

I can now look back on my life and see the people that I've detached from.....friendships that I've not upheld.....old interests, etc.......each of these has some component to broken trust as the reasons for moving on.

I am lucky, though.....very fortunate to have recently found that I can place my trust with someone. I can share with them. It has been the key to me finding peace with my current state of affairs and moving forward. I am a better man for this.

So is this the new normal then? Does it taper down? Though if I think about it, pre-morbid obesity and pre-severe depressive episodes, this kinda WAS my normal, so maybe I just answered my own question. I'm getting plenty at home, though not as much as I need (in fairness, one man working long hours can only go so many times a day, no matter how much he wants to keep up. Lol). My problem is that I'm a natural flirt and usually don't know that I'm doing it - I just think I'm being nice. Plus I don't really notice that someone is into me until they're already trying to stick their tongue down my throat. It usually doesn't occur to me that they might be, and then when it sinks in, you're right, it's absolutely intoxicating.

Damn......so many similarities here.

I'm the old dude in my relationship.....the old dude who is working the long hours and still has an almost insatiable appetite for bedroom cardio.

Hell.....put in a 17 hour night shift last week.....called home at 10:00am and woke her up and asked her if she wanted to go out for a date-lunch....hoping to get the fires stoked for fun later that afternoon........was up way over 24hrs while trying to make the magic happen.

I was told earlier today that, "We do it all the time......I mean....we just did it last week.....". I just raised my eyebrow and nodded my head.....waited a second or two and replied, "........And, my Dear.......that is precisely the problem.....I never took a vow of celibacy.....I have needs". I disengaged from further conversation for a while and let that sink in.

I'm not going to be able to be a once-a-week guy.

It's unreal when I consider what would-will happen if she ever meets me halfway.........

Dub, I feel your pain. My wife is a every two week gal at best. She has hormone deficiencies and as a result has a ridiculously low libido.

I'm not sure what's going to happen now.

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So, I am a middle aged woman and definitely have a drop in hormones. My libido has dropped some but not alot. So, what I will share is that with the hormone drop my girl parts can get...uncomfortable. I found topical hormone treatments helps build back that"thin tissue" and it is very low risk Healthwise (much lower hormone level than pills).

The other comment, and it may not apply to anyone posting here...but there are things a man can do that drives me wild with anticipation. The mental part of it becomes even more interesting and important as I have aged. I feel as though I have ready overshared...so will stop now.

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Oh, and I love clothes. Especially dresses and shoes...but I love fashion and never cared a hoot about it even I was obese. My latest obsession is fit and flare dresses, especially those with a slight vintage/1950s vibe.

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Guns and my Jeep. Building a 300 Blackout upper next.

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ill add weight lifting and tattoos to my huge list of new addictions lol!

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I hear ya.

I'm a gun fan, too.

Ordered a 12 ga last week that's set up specifically for turkey hunting. Should be here this week....in time to go after one this season, I hope.

Recently added a 5" 44rem mag for woods gun....should be good on bear, hogs or maybe a close ranging deer next fall. If nothing else, it'll be fun as hell to shoot.

Treated myself last birthday to the 1911 that I've wanted for as long as I've been a shooter. Damn thing is a tack driving machine. Way more accurate than I am. Added another bucket list 1911 for Christmas.

My gun needs are covered......Mustang or Challenger needs are next up........

Gym time doesn't register as an addiction to me.....it's just a spot where I go to workout and soak up motivation. I'm under no illusions that I'll be a bodybuilder like some of my buddies are. They spend insane $$$ on supplements and gear.....yet look like skinny-fat dudes who are pissing in the wind and crying for attention for their efforts. There are a couple of them that are making killer progress in there......quiet progress....unlike the loud little guy who has been posting his workouts on Facebook....shirtless.....doing poses.....and yelling into the cameras. Sounds impressive, but looks like a Butterball turkey. Hilarious, stuff.

Speaking of gym time......I'm headed there now. I've got a lot of work to do.