Hi, I guess there is a need for us to talk about intimacy (yes and even sexual) issues, I know I do. I have a very lonely marriage. Can anyone relate?

Nume a lot of the guys I know think the less hair down there the better. I want to get a Brazilian also. I can only imagine that the hell of pain would be worth it for the 6 weeks or so that that area would be maintenance free. I actually know the pain because I tried to do it myself once. That is a bad idea. I sort of chickened out once I had all the wax on and could not rip it off quickly like you are supposed to. I ended up curled up in a ball on my bathroom floor sobbing to my Mother over the phone. She still teases me about it. I think with someone else doing it I would just buck up and deal.

Losing, I just wanted to tell you have absolutely beautiful and happy you look!!! I was going to tell you that in the B&A thread but I was afraid it would get lost and you would never see it. The transformation that you have gone through it truly stunning. How do you see yourself now? Do you see a smaller version of yourself or are the thoughts still with you that you are bigger than you really are. I wondered about this a lot and wanted to ask you. BUT truly you look like a whole person again in the secong photo...that smile is to die for!!! Good job with all your hard work!! Deanna

Deanna,

Thanks so much! :eek:

i do not see myself as a smaller me on a daily basis. i still think of myself as being 400+ pounds. however, i do have my 'moments of clarity'... i was getting dressed a couple of days ago and just noticed that my (big) belly is no longer gigantic. i can now see my thighs when i sit down. but i see these things and it just tickles me pink... i can now drive my DH's car. last year this time, i couldnt even get behind the wheel and if i did HAVE to, i had to recline the seat and tilt the wheel all the way up. now i can slip in, not adjust the seat and leave the wheel where DH keeps it and i fit fine ... :whoo:

its the little NSVs that make this worth it.

losingjusme, you really do look fantastic!

I agree with you about the NSV, my hubby has a PT Cruiser and the seatbelt in that thing is short, short, short. At my heaviest I barely got it buckled in the driver's seat (the passenger seat is a little longer), I had to exhale and really tug/push to snap it. Now I have enough slack to lean forward and turn to look out all sides of the car!

okay, I am really going to show my ignorance here but does a brazilian wax leave you, completely bare? What happens when it starts to grow in? wouldn't it be like a bunch of prickles??? :eek: How about a nice painless trim (I think I could handle that )

okay, I am really going to show my ignorance here but does a brazilian wax leave you, completely bare? What happens when it starts to grow in? wouldn't it be like a bunch of prickles??? :eek: How about a nice painless trim (I think I could handle that )

I'm not sure about that...I do know my DH wants a little hair there...says "it's too much like a pre-puberty girl if not and that just feels wrong!" (his words, not mine!)

My DH actually likes to shave me there...go figure! So I never really have to worry about the wax thing. Besides...I have thin hair EVERYWHERE, so I don't require much maintainence. (Can't believe I am posting this!!! LOL)

You're lucky! Though mine doesn't really grow fast, it is coarse.

My hubby prefers it to be completely bare. So do I, actually. I prefer me bare, and I prefer men bare. I never thought I would, but the first time I was with a man who was trimmed nicely, I LOVED it. Then I was with one who didn't trim and it was like a brillo pad. Men look sooooooo much better without hair. It also makes it look TONS bigger.

And yes, a brazilian wax is TOTALLY bare, front and taint.

I have brazilian waxed DH many times, but I don't have the cahones to have him wax me. I'd have a professional do it, but I can't see having one do it until I'm at least 100lbs lighter than I am now.

I also hate the "floss" effect and the feeling of having a hair ball in your throat you get when fellating a man if they have hair, ewwwww.

Taint is an old Beavis and Butthead term. Tain't your crotch and tain't your ass... :eek:

losing, that is so great!!!!! I know about the seat belt thing...that is the worse thing EVER!!! I always take my own car because you never know if someone elses seat belt will fit!! What an NSV for you. Are you doing any therapy work for your self image. I went to a support group last night and the topic was guided imagery...it was interesting. I really do think I am small until I see myself in the mirror or in passing in windows, then the reality hits me that I am huge still and have a LONG way to go. But in my mind and when I can't see myself I feel like a little person...it is kinda weird. THanks for responding and keep up the great work!!! You are an inspiration!!!!

As for the brazillian wax...can you say torture....is it really a 6 week before you have to do it again. That IS a long time, but I can't imagine!!

Babygrl......how the hell did you get the wax off??? Oh my, I can't even imagine the agony of that situation....Deanna

You're lucky! Though mine doesn't really grow fast, it is coarse.

My hubby prefers it to be completely bare. So do I, actually. I prefer me bare, and I prefer men bare. I never thought I would, but the first time I was with a man who was trimmed nicely, I LOVED it. Then I was with one who didn't trim and it was like a brillo pad. Men look sooooooo much better without hair. It also makes it look TONS bigger.

And yes, a brazilian wax is TOTALLY bare, front and taint.

I have brazilian waxed DH many times, but I don't have the cahones to have him wax me. I'd have a professional do it, but I can't see having one do it until I'm at least 100lbs lighter than I am now.

I never even thought about men getting one done.....does that not HURT them soooooooo bad when pulling hair off their balls????:faint:

I never even thought about men getting one done.....does that not HURT them soooooooo bad when pulling hair off their balls????:faint:

Think about all the pain we go through, eyebrow plucking or waxing, high heels, thongs, perms, shave burns, nylons, garters,etc...(not to mention child birth).

A few minutes every couple of months of having hot wax spread on their balls and having the hair yanked out by the roots seems somewhat appropriate...:heh::heh::heh: :whoo:

No, seriously, DH says after the first time it really wasn't so bad. The wax is very warm, that opens the follicles a bit and the yank is really fast, then you immediately apply pressure to the area and it sort of calms the pain quickly.

I am going for a facelift this fall. And I am going to shave my legs today.

ok, I just have to say that I am a few days behind reading this thread and I can't stop laughing at some of the comments. You guys are great!

oh god, I am going to suggest this to my hubby...I can't wait to tell him....it will only hurt for a sec hun!!!!! LMFAO.....yeah right....I totally agree, us women go through a lot of shit for our men...they should do some stuff for us....but waxing his balls is NOT, just NOT, gonna happen in my lifetime....LMAO....but I bet that would be great to do when you are REALLY pissed at hubby huh??

green.....good for you for shaving your legs...lol...at least when the hair is long you can braid it huh? I have noticed that I have been shaving my legs every day since losing about 40 pounds...must just be a feeling good about yourself thing..Deanna