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I feel like a failure

Hi all. I haven't posted here in a while. I'm sure 17 months out and 120lbs down. I was about 28lbs from goal and then I'm not sure what happened. I feel like I've just stopped caring. I've actually GAINED almost 20lbs. I hate myself and I feel like I've failed. I know I've come actually long way, but I can't help but feel like actually complete failure. How can I kick these carb cravings?

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You are not a failure. I too gained 12

Pounds back in year two, but I rallied and lost those twelve plus some and I'm at my all time low weight since 4th grade (I'm 3 years and 4 months out) you can do this, it seemed impossible for me but I did it, you can too!!!! I followed the 8 hour plan, it's surprisingly easy.

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What is the 8 hour diet

It's a form of the intermittent fasting like the 5:2 plan but soooo much easier to stick to, and I really only did it 3-4 days a week. It allows your body to use stored fat for energy. So basically I eat whatever I want a day in a 8 hour window. So I eat 12pm to 8pm that's it. Otherwise I drink lots of water and tea in the other 16 hours a day. Like I said I only do it 3 days a week usually. It's a little controversial but it totally has worked for me and my cravings even.

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What kind of success did you have with this 8 hour plan? Did the weight come off quickly?

FishingNurse thank you for bringing this to our attention. I hadn't heard of it.

It took 2-3 months to lose 14 pounds ! It was pretty quick honestly :)

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No I can't work full time. I have a son in kindergarten and a 2.5 year old. I have to be home for the baby, and be home to put my son on/off the bus. I try to get out during the day, but I'm also in college full time online so I try and squeeze that in during the day between housework and kids. I'd love to do therapy but we don't have insurance, and we can't afford it until after the holidays. The food that tempts me is food for my husband/kids. I'm not sure What's stopping me. Trying to figure it out.

We all here had surgery to lose weight so all of us have the same problem. I surely understand what you are going through. If we could have figured it all out, we could have all lost weight and kept it off and never, in my case, paid cash for this surgery. Emotions and all sorts of other things get in our way. I'm in the same boat as you are and I do understand. Only thing is my reasons are different. Praying that both of us and all who are struggling, which it gets harder the farther out you are, are able to get back on track. I've lost 100's of pounds in my life on my own before this surgery and the thing that brought it back was "life" and trying to find comfort for what life was slapping in the face with at the time. Life happens. Some find comfort with drugs, alcohol, sex etc. We all here eat and use food or sugar or whatever makes us feel better at the time. In my case, we all know what it is so I won't say it again since I've said it so many times before as I've been told. We all have this in common on this site. Again, I understand and hopefully we can find the strength to get it together and get back on track.

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It took 2-3 months to lose 14 pounds ! It was pretty quick honestly :)

I've read about this. I started actually today. :) I hope it works for me as well!! How was your eating plan during the 8 hours? Did you just eat what you wanted or follow a certain plan?

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I agree with alll of you guys I have gain so much weight Im very scared to even post it this is so bad Imma take all you guys info and run with i just no i was about 30 plds from my goal i m now im like 80 or more plds from my goal I'm so feed up and is ready to get my life back in action ????????

We all here had surgery to lose weight so all of us have the same problem. I surely understand what you are going through. If we could have figured it all out, we could have all lost weight and kept it off and never, in my case, paid cash for this surgery. Emotions and all sorts of other things get in our way. I'm in the same boat as you are and I do understand. Only thing is my reasons are different. Praying that both of us and all who are struggling, which it gets harder the farther out you are, are able to get back on track. I've lost 100's of pounds in my life on my own before this surgery and the thing that brought it back was "life" and trying to find comfort for what life was slapping in the face with at the time. Life happens. Some find comfort with drugs, alcohol, sex etc. We all here to eat and use food or sugar or whatever makes us feel better at the time. In my case, we all know what it is so I won't say it again since I've said it so many times before as I've been told. We all have this in common on this site. Again, I understand and hopefully we can find the strength to get it together and get back on track.

I agree mines comes with stress etc..

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