Hi my name is tameka andb im at a stand still ok im 34 single mother of three active boys ive looking forward to my sleeve journey for a long time fir years my focus has been on my boys and not on myself and this is my chance to change my life inside and out but today I just got the call that it would cost and additional 400 dollars to have the surgery that I was unaware of and I dont know what ti do they start school in less then a month and I need ti buy school supplies, clothes , etc what should I do give up on my dream of my surgery or not im torn please help im at a loss

My kids always came first. Can you borrow the money, get some part time work or slim down your monthly expenses?

I have to pay $2900 out of pocket and I am a single mom. I get it. My daughter comes first too. Can you buy only a few basics and wait a few months? Not sure how old your kids are. Mine wouldn't know the difference but she has uniforms that still fit from last year too. Or postpone the surgery for a couple of months. That would not be giving up your dream but a few months is better than no surgery.

I think that you should try your best to go forward with the surgery.

Scrape together the basics they need to start school, beg borrow steal if necessary . You can always add some new clothes and things in a few months, which will be when the seasons are changing anyway.

I happen to think that the very best and most effective way you can provide for your kids and put them first is to care for their Mother's health. If you are healthy and happy then all else will fall into place because you are at your best.

Edited July 8, 201412 yr by woo woo

34 single mother of three active boys

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as with many other people - you have put yourself on the back burner while raising your kids

i "think" we all get that

but...............its time to look out for #1 (thats you silly head )

when someone is not covered with insurance - that is awful

$400.00 or $40,000.00 might be hard to reach, but try

your body/clothes sizes will continue to change as you lose weight

many, many, many people seek out thrift shops to buy their clothes

doesn't make sense to buy anything expensive to only be able to wear briefly

you made the wise decision to have surgery (sleeve, bypass??)

don't second guess yourself now

hope you can work this out so we can see you at the front of the line where you belong

good luck

kathy

When comparing real necessities vs. what we really need - think of what your children need, speak to the school and tell them you have surgery coming up and need assistance this year with school supplies. SELL OLD CLOTHES, OLD VIDEOS, GAME SYSTEMS, - go through the house. Sell, sell, sell. Check your 401K to see if you can get a loan against it. Cut off your cable, reduce your cell phone to talk and text only. No eating out.

It will add up.

Good luck.