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Acting! Thank you!

There are many threads on here about whether to tell or who to tell about the surgery. This is not one of them.

This is advice concerning how to tell.

Actors have methods to pull up emotions and mannerisms from within to give authenticity to their expressions. Using the power of imagination they can put themselves into identities and then speak from them. Most of what they come up with is what is already in them, we all have the potential of being like others however different they are from you in real life. We share humanity and common emotions.

The advice is this: speak from true conviction even if you have to act. Act as though you are someone who just did the smartest and noblest thing in the world even if you have doubts about it. Play the part of a genius and someone who knows what they are doing. Don't act ashamed, act proud.

Why? The way you say things and behave has more of an impact than what you say and do. Politicians prove it every day.

People pick up on weakness, self doubt, and feed it back to you. They also sense power and conviction and jump behind it.

You can control reactions to a great degree by acting.

Is acting lying? Lying is living out untruth. Is there a possibility that you did the right thing and should be proud? Act on that, it could be true.

Humans are complex. We have the capacity to train ourselves like a gardener trains a vine to go up a trellis. We can act and speak on what we want to be and make it what we are over time. Not lying, self programming. It all is within us, it is our choice what we bring out.

Ignore the doubts and phony shame and act like you deserve respect.

Who has the authority to say that you don't?

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  • Love this!! I never understood the people who were worried about "lying". So what if people perceive what you say as a lie, (if indeed it is). Just because someone asks something doesn't give them th

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Love this!! I never understood the people who were worried about "lying". So what if people perceive what you say as a lie, (if indeed it is). Just because someone asks something doesn't give them the right to know. If you don't feel comfortable telling people what you have had done, then don't tell..........do whatever makes you feel comfortable, and feel good about what you are doing! You do not owe ANYONE an explanation!

I love this..cause I have doubts in telling anyone..I know how negative people can be. ESPECIALLY women..I have a few I'd them in my life, very negative and gossip soooooo much.

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