So I know a lot of you have been following the rant that I posted about my husband. He's not willing to get a job, won't go back to work, doesn't help with the kids, and we have been at each other's throats for years. And we fell outta love years ago.

I have 6 kids, 1 girls with cerebral palsy that been thru many surgeries, the vent, and now is 7 on oxygen and a great kid, that's my crazy Bella Grace! And I have 1 girl with a rare form of Down syndrome .... It's called mosaic downs. Harley Paige is 5 and beautiful! Having 2 special needs babies is tough, but I feel like I'm alone. I feel like I'm the only one that can care for them, because I have accustomed to no one helping.

Well after my last post, I have had my ah hah moment in my life. I am going to make changes in myself for my children to be proud of and see how life should be. The first place I need to start, is in our lives. My husband (not really willingly) is moving out Friday! I am sad for my marriage failing and my kids having to adjust to him being gone, but I know this will in due time be what we all need. Not just myself.

I don't want my kids to think that it is ok for men to degrade women for getting medical help (WLS) or that it is ok for someone to degrade you as a person. No one deserves that. No child deserves to have parents that can't be in the same room. No child should have to live in a home with tension. So I asked him last night for a divorce, and he asked me "what took me so long to finally say it?" Answer: didn't wanna hurt my children. But then I realize, if I'm not happy, I can't make them happy! So as selfish as this sounds, it's me and my kids time!!

Please no bashing! I'm dealing with enough!!

I'm sorry for everything you have gone through & it's a lot! Your children are beautiful! I have a child with a heart defect and she's 15 and not too far from having open heart surgery. My daughter has had some issues during her life and that has been hard on me & her (of course) & I cannot imagine what you have gone through with 2 sick children!

You sound determined & intelligent! You've probably been doing it on your own anyways for a long time! I wish you the best of luck - keep us posted on how you are doing!

God help anyone who comes here to "bash" you... We will tear them to shreds after ripping them a whole new one. I'm glad you came back and shared with us the update on this. You have a whole new life ahead of you. Best wishes!!

XOXOXOXOX

your girls are angels.

Wow! What beautiful girls!! And they definitely have a beautiful mom. Inside and out. You are very courageous and stronger than you know. Do what's right for you and your kids. Children learn to accept the treatment their parents accept. You getting them out of a bad environment is brave and will help their personal psyches as they develop. I'm proud of you.

April

I have two children and while they don't have special needs I too left my husband almost 3 years ago. I just couldn't have them living in a home where everyone walked on eggshells all the time. The blatant disrespect just got out of control. Our situations are different but oh so alike. I am so proud of you for making this incredibly hard decision. And while it will be far from easy your girls will grow up in a home with a mother they can look up to and respect. Hang in there, you're doing the right thing.

I wish I could give you a hug. You may not know where your next meal will come from with him gone, but I guarantee with your smarts you know where to find help and you will survive. You have been fighting the system for your babies a long time I know, and you might even cause him to get a job. God's Grace.

LindaFromFlorida.... SHE IS THE BREAD WINNER... So, no, that won't be an issue.

HotB, I have followed Misty from day one so I am aware of that. Misty's salary won't go a long way when paying bills, feeding her children and medical bills. I am simply pointing out to you Misty that you know where to get the help you will need. Best wishes Misty.

Ok, well I don't know her, much less what her SALARY is. And even if I knew, I wouldn't venture into making further comments as to what she can or can not do with it.... I only wish her the best

Your getting stronger and braver..don't worry it will soon feel fantastic and empowering. Look forward my girl, look forward.

I'm sorry for everything you have gone through & it's a lot! Your children are beautiful! I have a child with a heart defect and she's 15 and not too far from having open heart surgery. My daughter has had some issues during her life and that has been hard on me & her (of course) & I cannot imagine what you have gone through with 2 sick children! You sound determined & intelligent! You've probably been doing it on your own anyways for a long time! I wish you the best of luck - keep us posted on how you are doing!

Ty for taking the time to support me! I need all I can get. Tomorrow is going to be really hard, but is a must for all of us.

As a mom with 2special needs babes, please keep me posted on ur (not so little) little one! She will be in my thoughts and prayers as she goes thru a trying time with surgery. As will ur whole family! I know how hard, emotional, and trying a surgery like that is. My one child Harley, is 5 and had that surgery at 3 mos old. I understand what you are going thru and I'm here to support ur family as you go thru that!!! Please don't hesitate to talk to me about it. And if u need to talk on the phone, just call me. I can message you my number.

God help anyone who comes here to "bash" you... We will tear them to shreds after ripping them a whole new one. I'm glad you came back and shared with us the update on this. You have a whole new life ahead of you. Best wishes!! XOXOXOXOX your girls are angels.

Ty so much!! I am really struggling with this and appreciate more than words can express!!

Thank you all for all the support you give me! I love each of you and appreciate you more than u can ever imagine!!! You guys have no idea how nice it is to slip away from my crazy reality and have people there that justify and not judge me!!! Ty ALL so much!!

Misty - you are so sweet! I was just letting you know that you aren't alone! Thank you for being so caring with my daughter - I will post a picture of her so you will know who I'm talking about At her last cardiologist appt her doctor found a significant leak in her valve. She had bicuspid aortic valve w/mod to severe regurgitation. I am just waiting for the surgeon to review her file with my cardiologist- they might wait 3 months and see how she is. I'm just not sure - but it is getting close and every time she goes to the cardiologist everything gets sent to the surgeon for him to review and see if she's ready - the waiting is the worst! I am on your side! And wish the best for you & your children

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god bless u girl... praying everything works in your favor.....♥♥♥·♥♥♥

Misty good for you. Sort of in the same situation you are in but no special needs kids. My only issue w my kid have 3 only 1 severe asthmatic 1 severe ear problems. Nothing like what you go through thought. If you need a friend a ear etc look me up. My husband and I are aplit up after being together 22 years and married 18.5. Been w him longer than I have been without him. But he is also unwilling to work after getting laid off from his job 2 years ago, and when he does do odds and in things to make money spends it on things for himself. Good luck to you. Wish you the best. You deserve much more and if mamas happy the kids will for the most part be happy also.