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Main Entry: en·abler

Pronunciation: \i-ˈnā-blər, -bəl-ər\

Function: noun Date: 1615:

one that enables another to achieve an end ; especially : one who enables another to persist in self-destructive behavior (as substance abuse) by providing excuses or by making it possible to avoid the consequences of such behavior

food ADDICTION

Food addiction manifests itself in the uncontrollable craving for excess food that follows the ingestion of refined carbohydrates, primarily sugar and flour substances that are quickly metabolized and turned into sugar in the bloodstream.

Due to those uncontrollable cravings, a food addict's quality of life deteriorates when he or she eats sugar, flour or wheat. It can deteriorate physically, emotionally, socially and/or spiritually.

If any of the following symptoms are familiar to you, you may be a food addict:

Physical Symptoms of Food Addiction

• Do you think you cannot control your intake of food, especially junk food or high sugar foods?

• Have you tried different diets or weight loss programs, but none has worked permanently?

• Have you found yourself vomiting, using laxatives, diuretics, or exercising a lot to avoid a weight gain after you have eaten a lot?

Many food addicts are obese and have tried numerous methods for weight control (diets, drugs, surgery, etc.) yet nothing has created a permanent solution. Other food addicts have never been obese. Their physical weight has been controlled by extreme measures such as excessive exercise, purging through vomiting or laxatives (bulimia), or the severe and unhealthy limiting of food substances(anorexia). No matter which version of food addiction fits you, all of these symptoms become more severe with time and eventually lead to physical problems that can create an early and sometimes painful death.

Emotional Symptoms of Food Addiction

• Do you find yourself feeling depressed, hopeless, sad or ashamed about your eating or your weight?

• Do you find yourself eating when you are upset or reward yourself with food when you do something good?

• Have you ever noticed after eating sugar, flour, or wheat that you become more irritable?

Food addicts notice that their emotions become more severe, intense, or unreasonable when eating the addictive substances. For many food addicts, emotional life may deteriorate into despair, depression, or thoughts of suicide.

Social Symptoms of Food Addiction

• Do you eat in private so no one will see you?

• Do you avoid social interactions because you feel you do not look good enough or do not have the proper fitting clothes to wear?

• Do you steal other people’s food?

• Are you more interested in what food is served at social gatherings than looking forward to the warmth of being with the people attending?

A food addict’s social life is affected by intense obsessive thinking about food. Making eye contact with people and taking an interest in developing friendships or intimate relationships become secondary to locating and eating addictive foods. Food addicts often hide or steal foods and eat in secret.

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  • Butterthebean
    Butterthebean

    What a great thread Laura. Yes, this place is a hot bed of enabling. All the "I ate a snickers bar one week post op and I don't feel bad about it....." Yeah, those people see that as a victory ov

  • AmandaRaeLeo
    AmandaRaeLeo

    May I be so bold to suggest that those who justify and seek permission/absolution with regards to their drug of choice are the same ones who thought WLS was a cure? That the sleeve would do the fighti

  • Ms.AntiBand
    Ms.AntiBand

    You're right. Depending on what support you're looking for this site can be either good or bad for us. For me, I need the slap in the face, tear me apart reality that slipping up is not an option.

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It's like 5th grade when you figured out you could talk shit around your friends and your parents would never know....at least til you slipped up and mom beat the living hell out of you.

Fine talked shitted :P sheesh

No - she said crack ED

We have learned a Great Deal from the Angles and Saxons

And the Great Value of the present participle is clear as well...

And we are now ALL "enabled" in a new and exciting way.

Let's create a new "Schoolhouse Rock"

"Just add ed"

I fall asleep and awaken to a bunch of fool childrened.

Oh lipstick, life makes us lose so much valuable post time...

This thread is everything that is awesome about my Pal, Bariatric.

I fell asleep earlier than Lipstick Lady, and look at all of you motherflankeders.

I think we all must agree that the first step is admitting that we have a problem. In my case it's not so much hunching over in my cave in the dark, with yellow eyes, scarfing down cake after cake. It's more that I had a series of long-seated behaviors that did me no favors. Along with a series of reasonable behaviors. As the dust is clearing from the bomb I dropped on my life, I can see that my disordered behaviors extend(ed) into all sorts of things. Like the pre-Hoarders state of my desk. Like my avoidance of cleaning out that big closet downstairs. Like my insomnia and worry about things that I should be doing if i am going to be the completely together person I want to be.

Grabbing control of this aspect of my life might also start to trickle over into other areas. I can see now that I effectively checked out somewhere between 5 and 7 every night when I poured myself a glass of wine and fixed dinner (that I only ate sometimes, and then obviously sometimes overate.) I'm a relaxed, happy drinker; I was never passed out on the couch after yelling, "You goddamned kids!" but I was anesthetizing. And now I am clearheaded because of the diet and its restrictions, and it has lifted the blinds on my other behaviors. Kinda skeery.

So, obviously I am right in that stage that GG talks about. I'm sorting through the detritus of my "old" life and figuring out how I want to be going forward. It's odd. I am feeling my emotions (as my friend said) but now that they're here and up-front they are not as frightening as they were when I was blocking them.

Thank you for letting me work this out virtually. I'm sure that was at least 2 or 3 therapy sessions right there. Let me know where to send the check.

I might have been able to squeeze a few more weird metaphors into that post. Next time I will try harder.

This thread is everything that is awesome about my Pal, Bariatric.

I fell asleep earlier than Lipstick Lady, and look at all of you motherflankeders.

I think we all must agree that the first step is admitting that we have a problem. In my case it's not so much hunching over in my cave in the dark, with yellow eyes, scarfing down cake after cake. It's more that I had a series of long-seated behaviors that did me no favors. Along with a series of reasonable behaviors. As the dust is clearing from the bomb I dropped on my life, I can see that my disordered behaviors extend(ed) into all sorts of things. Like the pre-Hoarders state of my desk. Like my avoidance of cleaning out that big closet downstairs. Like my insomnia and worry about things that I should be doing if i am going to be the completely together person I want to be.

Grabbing control of this aspect of my life might also start to trickle over into other areas. I can see now that I effectively checked out somewhere between 5 and 7 every night when I poured myself a glass of wine and fixed dinner (that I only ate sometimes, and then obviously sometimes overate.) I'm a relaxed, happy drinker; I was never passed out on the couch after yelling, "You goddamned kids!" but I was anesthetizing. And now I am clearheaded because of the diet and its restrictions, and it has lifted the blinds on my other behaviors. Kinda skeery.

So, obviously I am right in that stage that GG talks about. I'm sorting through the detritus of my "old" life and figuring out how I want to be going forward. It's odd. I am feeling my emotions (as my friend said) but now that they're here and up-front they are not as frightening as they were when I was blocking them.

Thank you for letting me work this out virtually. I'm sure that was at least 2 or 3 therapy sessions right there. Let me know where to send the check.

I'll PM you my address for my reading fee haha :) This site really does help you work through some amazing things though doesn't it?

Im such an enabler to myself it is awful. I think I could justify eating an entire pizza to myself an hour after Thanksgiving dinner if I wanted to. Well...no I couldn't anymore. Pre sleeve...absofuckinglutely. Now...My hungry brain answers to my bitchy logical brain...It was weird how that logical part got so loud after surgery though...Sure my hungry side still shouts out like a child in a toy aisle when I pass by McDonalds or sees a doughnut. But...It doesn't throw a temper tantrum. It shouts once, my bitchy side laughs and that's the end of the episode mostly.

My "big closet" is our huge shower. Although, I've never been in good enough shape to clean it even close to all the way. We have really hard water, so I have to use harsh chemicals to get it to look good. Well.. a fat chick + slight asthma + smelly chemicals + a huge shower + intense scrubbing = disturbing to say the least lol I think after Thanksgiving Im going to tackle that damned shower once and for all. It will be an early Christmas present to myself. A shower that is clean and sparkly lol

This thread is everything that is awesome about my Pal, Bariatric. I fell asleep earlier than Lipstick Lady, and look at all of you motherflankeders. I think we all must agree that the first step is admitting that we have a problem. In my case it's not so much hunching over in my cave in the dark, with yellow eyes, scarfing down cake after cake. It's more that I had a series of long-seated behaviors that did me no favors. Along with a series of reasonable behaviors. As the dust is clearing from the bomb I dropped on my life, I can see that my disordered behaviors extend(ed) into all sorts of things. Like the pre-Hoarders state of my desk. Like my avoidance of cleaning out that big closet downstairs. Like my insomnia and worry about things that I should be doing if i am going to be the completely together person I want to be. Grabbing control of this aspect of my life might also start to trickle over into other areas. I can see now that I effectively checked out somewhere between 5 and 7 every night when I poured myself a glass of wine and fixed dinner (that I only ate sometimes, and then obviously sometimes overate.) I'm a relaxed, happy drinker; I was never passed out on the couch after yelling, "You goddamned kids!" but I was anesthetizing. And now I am clearheaded because of the diet and its restrictions, and it has lifted the blinds on my other behaviors. Kinda skeery. So, obviously I am right in that stage that GG talks about. I'm sorting through the detritus of my "old" life and figuring out how I want to be going forward. It's odd. I am feeling my emotions (as my friend said) but now that they're here and up-front they are not as frightening as they were when I was blocking them. Thank you for letting me work this out virtually. I'm sure that was at least 2 or 3 therapy sessions right there. Let me know where to send the check.

I've been watching your journey here and am fascinated because yours is unfolding as mine did. Going from, I have no idea why I weighed what I did to maybe I drank a bit more than I wanted to and there were other things I needed to fix.

I went down the same path. Nice to have someone to walk on the path with :) we can hold hands if we get scared.

The biggest problem with that thread was not the OP...although her story did change as she went along. But rather it was another poster who gave some rather deluded advice. If you don't start reading all the threads in their entirety I'm going to have to revoke your super-sarcasm-enabler status.

Well gosh dang it. Now I have to read the whole thread with all it's in-fighting? You know how much I hate fighty threads. Okay okay.

I'll PM you my address for my reading fee haha :) This site really does help you work through some amazing things though doesn't it?

Im such an enabler to myself it is awful. I think I could justify eating an entire pizza to myself an hour after Thanksgiving dinner if I wanted to. Well...no I couldn't anymore. Pre sleeve...absofuckinglutely. Now...My hungry brain answers to my bitchy logical brain...It was weird how that logical part got so loud after surgery though...Sure my hungry side still shouts out like a child in a toy aisle when I pass by McDonalds or sees a doughnut. But...It doesn't throw a temper tantrum. It shouts once, my bitchy side laughs and that's the end of the episode mostly.

My "big closet" is our huge shower. Although, I've never been in good enough shape to clean it even close to all the way. We have really hard water, so I have to use harsh chemicals to get it to look good. Well.. a fat chick + slight asthma + smelly chemicals + a huge shower + intense scrubbing = disturbing to say the least lol I think after Thanksgiving Im going to tackle that damned shower once and for all. It will be an early Christmas present to myself. A shower that is clean and sparkly lol

No, I get the check, I get the check...

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Fluffnomore's got a Fat Brain, Fluffnomore's got a Fat Brain...

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