My surgery is day after tomorrow. I'm not nervous about it but I am a little worried I may have forgotten to do something to prepare for it. So to distract myself I am playing a little game called 'Things I will not miss'.

These are only SOME of the things I will not miss:

- clueless people saying 'Congratulations! When are you due?' (Really people?! I am 53 years old!)

- buying clothes whose only redeeming quality is that they fit.

- Rashes from sweating

- back and knee pain

- snoring (I have a feeling my hubby won't miss this one either)

- pretending to wear a seatbelt that doesn't... quite... reach.

- watching from the sidelines while every one else has fun.

I won't miss...

Not being able to play on the floor with my niece.

Getting winded after 2 stairs.

Traveling a lot for work and worrying about every stinking part of every trip.

Being able to shop at one store in my entire city for clothes.

Freaking out over 'who's driving' because if the lady with the truck volunteers, I can't get my fat ass into it. Therefore, I drive all the time.

Getting the mail only once a week because its a pain to walk to the mailbox down the street.

Dreading the 'table or booth?' question and answering for the whole party so no one says booth first.

I could go on for hours.

I won't miss not wearing shorts because it looks like my inner thighs are eating them.

Oh yes' date=' the thighs! DEFINATELY won't miss that! Lol

And 'back boobs' - won miss those. The first time I heard the term I asked my husband if I had those. He said 'don't ask me unless you REALLY want to know'. He was trying to be funny. And I hit an all time low knowing I was just as large and unattractive from the back as I was from the front. Goodbye 'back boobs'!![/quote']

My fiancée "jokes" about my back boobs. I cannot wait for my back to be flat chested. Haha so sad, but true.

So many of us have the same things we won't miss ..... I've tried to explain some to.my.husband but he just doesn't get it....so here are my top things i wont miss:

1)weighing more than my husband

2) making sure we get a table at a restaurant cuz i know i wont fit in a booth

3)telling people im afraid of roller coasters because i dont want to be embarrassed by not fitting

4)being tired all the time

5) not being able to wear my seat belt

6)having to drive to fl instead of fly because im afraid they will make me pay for an extra seat

7)wearing clothes because they fit not because i like them

8) my feet and knees hurting all the time

9)tmi ...but the.same sex positions all the time lol

10)telling people i want to stand at bbqs and parties because they only have the seats with arms

11)sweating for no reason but im so big

12) tmi..not being able to see my um lady parts lol

13)getting tired just from going up stairs

14)feeling crappy all the time

15) shopping at lanr bryant and the avenue lol

The list could go on and on but im on my way 6 weeks post op down 36lbs and many more to go but im going in the right direction!

I won't miss not wearing shorts because it looks like my inner thighs are eating them.

Shorts i havent worn shorts in about 16 yrs! Cant wait to wear a pair

My fiancée "jokes" about my back boobs. I cannot wait for my back to be flat chested. Haha so sad' date=' but true.[/quote']

I cant wait to buy a sexy bra and panty set instead of a just my size bra lol

I hope to NEVER again hear the phrase 'you have such a pretty face' ugh!!!!

HW 312' date=' pre-op (RNY) 255, current weight 213.2[/quote']

Me too!

I won't miss sitting on the floor to pick my kids toys up, I won't miss squeezing into a booth if no tables are available, I won't miss achy feet after sitting, I won't miss my grandmothers remarks of how pretty I would be if I was skinnier, I won't miss being self conscious, I won't miss being embarrassed about undressing in front of my husband, perhaps sex with the light on!

Don't cry! Are you pre op? This wasn't supposed to make anyone feel bad' date=' you should feel GOOD because you are on your way to a better, healthier life, full of possibilities! You need to feel defiant and powerful! Say "l WON'T MISS NOT BEING SPONTANEOUS WITH MY HUSBAND!!!" And say it smiling! There is so much to look forward to. And just think - your 2yr old will never remember you as you are now. She will always know you as you will be! :-)[/quote']

Well said!!! We will all get the land of I'm so glad I can......

Thank you . I'm PreOp. My surgery is July 3rd. I'm trying to stay strong and remember why I'm doing this life altering surgery. I've never known what skinny feels like. I've always been overweight. I worry that this is going to change be completely and will my husband still love me afterwards? I guess I'm just feeling emotional tonight. I appreciate your kind words though and I will strive to be powerful!

Xo

C

I understand. But, honey, think about this. If your husband loves you now, why wouldn't he love you after? You are YOU inside. :-)

I've been overweight since I got pregnant with my twins almost twenty seven years ago. I KNOW my husband loves me... and my kids do, too. But I don't like myself and I'm not really enjoying my life. You will be a happier wife and mother if you feel good about yourself. There is lot of rough road still ahead but I can SEE the light at the end of the tunnel. I bet you can too, or you wouldn't be here. Hang in there.

I understand. But' date=' honey, think about this. If your husband loves you now, why wouldn't he love you after? You are YOU inside. :-)

I've been overweight since I got pregnant with my twins almost twenty seven years ago. I KNOW my husband loves me... and my kids do, too. But I don't like myself and I'm not really enjoying my life. You will be a happier wife and mother if you feel good about yourself. There is lot of rough road still ahead but I can SEE the light at the end of the tunnel. I bet you can too, or you wouldn't be here. Hang in there.[/quote']

Thank you Terry1118! Hubby and I had a long convo last night and I know he loves me and supports me in this surgery 110%. I think the days leading up to surgery plays games with your head and you start to question everything! I've never doubted his love for me before and now shouldn't be any different. I can't wait to ride bikes with my little girl, go to amusement parks and ride roller coasters (since her dad won't ride anything that leaves the ground :-)) and just enjoy every day to the fullest. Thanks again!

Peace

C

10 Things I wont miss about being fat:

- "The fat girl tug" when I get up from sitting in a chair or getting out of the

car and have to pull my shirt down in the back because it rides up on me.

- Going to the Dr. only to hear that my ailment was caused by all the weight I gained.

-Walking passed a group of young people and hearing them laugh and knowing it has to be about me.

-Being afraid of falling down the stairs because Im so big I can't see them.

-Not being able to tuck in my shirts

-Not being able to take baths because I dont fit anymore

-Hearing "you would be so pretty if you lost weight'

-Spilling food on the front of my shirt in a restaurant because I can't lean over my plate due to my stomach being in the way.

-My partner not being able to put her arms around me when she hugs me.

-People staring at me in restaurants and thinking "dang she doesn't need to eat all that"

I won't miss being too big to ride a roller coaster' date=' ride a horse, shop clearance anywhere, my uncle giving me unwanted weight loss advice, my hubby not bring able to pick me up and most of all my children bring embarrassed of me.[/quote']

This made me sad your kids were embarrass of you? My oldest never mention anything to me but I do feel she sorta was cuz now it's more of mom lets take photos together. Meet my friends lets go out. Come to school meetings I always did but I can tell she loves the compliments that's your sister. She holds my hands this is a 16 year old. She shows me off or tells me fix your hair or where this. She borrows my shirts & says we are the same size.

Great thread!

I won't miss being the biggest person in the office and in my family.

Sweating ALL the time' date=' even in winter!

Rude comments by co workers, who then say, "i didn't mean it like that." (Almost punched someone for this).

Being uncomfortable in clothes that really don't flatter me.

Did I say sweating ALL the time??[/quote']

Is that part of being fat. I was sweating always now my ass is cold except now it's hot.

I won't miss so much. Mainly being the "fat girl" in the room. I'm so sick of it. I've been the token fat girl since as far back as I can remember. Ugh! I also won't miss worrying if certain areas of my body are smelly after sitting for so long. As Melissa put it in the show My 600 Pound Life "As a fat woman' date=' no matter how much you wash, how hard you try.. Ya end up smellin"... I am the queen of smelly good stuff and always trying to look and smell nice, but its not always possible with how much I sweat. It's so gross. I also won't miss only being able to have sex for small amounts of time because my hips feel like they're going to give out on me. Sorry if this has been a TMI post. Haha

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Ikr I can be a bunny now.