Something that has been bugging me. I notice a lot of people who go through a major change either worry about their partner being faithful, or have a partner worrying about their faith. I think it shows a strong person who can have people hitting on them, and instead of causing real pain and heartbreak either in a marriage or partnership, remain faithful. It is not fair to go from being overweight and insecure holding your spouse and saying you love them, only to become thin and confident and instead of returning the comfort your spouse once gave you, you cheat. Even if we are changing, and think ourselves capable of having any man we want, we should look the ones we have in our lives even if their fears keep them from giving up the support we need at the moment. If my boyfriend woke up one morning and every girl on earth wanted him and he knew it, I might not be so fast to pat him on the back and say "I'm proud of you!" Sure its tempting to test the new look and flirt, but the grass is not always greener. I know I'm going off on a tangent, but sometimes there is a real reason a spouse gets worried about the other cheating. If we give the comfort they need to make them understand we are not going anywhere, then we are doing our part. That does not give them the right to abuse or degrade by any means. But it seems that we have a great challenge ahead of us. It has just been on my mind is all. Thanks for reading.

My hubby was legally married but separated for over 6 years before I got in the pix. The ex made her life had other kids by someone else. I made him divorce her & married me. I don't feel he was cheating on her with me. It was years since they were together so a marriage paper means nothing when ppl go there separate ways. If we are going to get GOD involve we are all sinners & flirting cheating Facebook even looking at a guy crossing the street Lolz yeah I'm guilty. Now having sex it's a totally different thing. As you lose weight you feel good about your self & feel you can fly but remember your married or have someone in your life.

You know what beleive what you want I DON'T CARE !!! I can only say I try to live by God's rule's an it's hard ,, but he helps me to do the right thing an I know he can Only judge me and everyone have a good day and Godbless

You know what beleive what you want I DON'T CARE !!! I can only say I try to live by God's rule's an it's hard ' date=', but he helps me to do the right thing an I know he can Only judge me and everyone have a good day and Godbless[/quote']

Sorry if your up set & I sure didn't have to post up my buisness but I wanted people to know that having a paper saying your married in other words means nothing when people separate. A lot of people can't pay for a divorce. How can I judge anyone when we are all sinners.

Sorry if your up set & I sure didn't have to post up my buisness but I wanted people to know that having a paper saying your married in other words means nothing when people separate. A lot of people can't pay for a divorce. How can I judge anyone when we are all sinners.

No it's ok you did not upset me at all everyone sees things differently sometimes an that's ok it's natural

No it's ok you did not upset me at all everyone sees things differently sometimes an that's ok it's natural

Glad we aren't enemies

Yeah it was just a bad situation he is so insecure with himself he was takin it out on me' date=' as far as to tell me I was messing around with a girl friend of mine and her husband, got pissed off because I went to the movies for a girls night and wore makeup.....yesterday was the breaking point when he pulled his shit cussing at me throwing things around the house and pulling a gun on me!

Thank god the kids were at my friends Staci's house!!

He keeps begging me to come back but I'm not! I'm done and over with him and ready to start a new life with new people.....and I can't thank Kevin (kwal79) enough for being there for me and Staci too she's allowing me to stay with her and her family until I can get on my feet!

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You said your hubby was accusing you of being with someone else & in less then 1 week since you left him you are in a relationship with Kevin? don't you think you aren't giving your self time to heal think & all.

You said your hubby was accusing you of being with someone else & in less then 1 week since you left him you are in a relationship with Kevin? don't you think you aren't giving your self time to heal think & all.

Alls I can say is mind your own business and stop bein jealous because I took the hottest guy on here! We have something that no one will understand and that is the end of that!

You said your hubby was accusing you of being with someone else & in less then 1 week since you left him you are in a relationship with Kevin? don't you think you aren't giving your self time to heal think & all.

Vamp I don't think she was being mean she was giving you some friendly advice. I'm sure Kevin is very supportive and you guys can relate do to having the same surgery. But if you ask any councelor they will tell you to take some time for yourself to grieve the loss of your marriage. Of course everyone wants you to be happy. I don't think anyone here begrudges you for being with Kevin. I just hope you don't wake up a month from now and say what happend and have regrets. I do wish you all the happiness in the world you deserve it. I know from experience it could work. My fiancé was married when we first started talking. He was in an unhappy marriage and we were just friends at first. He ended up leaving her and came right to me. We had a lot of ups and downs trying to figure out our roles together. We dealt with alot of family resentment from his family. People had a hard time with us being together for a while. We learned to spend a lot of time communicating. We learned from the mistakes from our previous relationships. We are going to be married soon and I am ecstatic to be marring my soulmate. I really hope it all works out for you guys. Your in my prayers.

Glad we aren't enemies

O no were not enemies , you give direct straightforwardness advice an good advice St that we need more people to do that instead of skipping around the subject you're a great person an from NEW YORK!!! New yorkians tell it like it is

Alls I can say is mind your own business and stop bein jealous because I took the hottest guy on here! We have something that no one will understand and that is the end of that!

I don't think she's jealous, an you know that's you're opinion that he's the hottest guy on here we live in a world filled with hot guys it's not all an Internet world

Does anybody want my input on this matter?

Of course Kevin

Alls I can say is mind your own business and stop bein jealous because I took the hottest guy on here! We have something that no one will understand and that is the end of that!

I hope you don't come back regretting the decision you made. I'm sure in your eyes Kevin in the hottest guy,but he doesn't stand a chance against my hubby. Wishing you the very best. I have nothing to be jealous of.

Vamp I don't think she was being mean she was giving you some friendly advice. I'm sure Kevin is very supportive and you guys can relate do to having the same surgery. But if you ask any councelor they will tell you to take some time for yourself to grieve the loss of your marriage. Of course everyone wants you to be happy. I don't think anyone here begrudges you for being with Kevin. I just hope you don't wake up a month from now and say what happend and have regrets. I do wish you all the happiness in the world you deserve it. I know from experience it could work. My fiancé was married when we first started talking. He was in an unhappy marriage and we were just friends at first. He ended up leaving her and came right to me. We had a lot of ups and downs trying to figure out our roles together. We dealt with alot of family resentment from his family. People had a hard time with us being together for a while. We learned to spend a lot of time communicating. We learned from the mistakes from our previous relationships. We are going to be married soon and I am ecstatic to be marring my soulmate. I really hope it all works out for you guys. Your in my prayers.

That was my point but some people need to learn the hard way. Why would I want anything bad for her. I like summer.

O no were not enemies ' date=' you give direct straightforwardness advice an good advice St that we need more people to do that instead of skipping around the subject you're a great person an from NEW YORK!!! New yorkians tell it like it is[/quote']

No need to be hiding my true feelings. Thanks gotta love new Yorkers.

I don't think she's jealous' date=' an you know that's you're opinion that he's the hottest guy on here we live in a world filled with hot guys it's not all an Internet world[/quote']

That's right! I married the hottest man on earth.