So I am 5 lbs from goal. Well, to clarify, an initial goal that, 100 lbs ago seemed like an incredible dream. It is still about 14-15 lbs above the top of a healthy BMI (I am 5'4 and the goal is 160). My thinking in picking this weight was 1) I thought I might be happy at that weight; 2) it seems like a higher goal weight might be easier to maintain and 3) my doctor was/is happy with this goal. What I figured I would do, ultimately, was get to 160 and then focus on reducing BF% rather than a number on the scale (which would probably result in a little more weight loss). Now that I am so close, I am wanting to revise that number down. Like maybe I want to go down to a "normal" BMI. I am also afraid that I might never be happy with my weight and always afraid of regain. It's like I am afraid of maintenance- it's got to be harder than this and I am already struggling from time to time (I am terrible about getting exercise in and am feeling hungry often now. You could say my sleeve is fully healed and happy.) I have always given the advice to others with the same question- you should make your goal weight where you feel most comfortable and where you are not afflicted with any co-morbidities. It makes a lot of sense, but what if you are never comfortable? I am free of my pre-surgery co-morbidities (DM & hypertension), so there's that. This probably should have been a blog post because at this point I'm rambling...LOL I need some insight- really tired of obsessing about my weight and food and and and...

I just stood with my feet apart... I'm not sure the true way to fake it???

Like I said I'm truly knock kneed so it will never happen and my thighs are BAD I mean saggy lumpy and wrinkled I just know how to take a good picture

http://m.wikihow.com/Get-a-Thigh-Gap

Wow - I cannot believe there is a whole science or religion behind the coveted thigh gap. Like I said above, maybe this is equivalent to men trying to achieve a certain ab set, biceps size or body fat %. We too can get obsessive in a similar way.

laura-ven

The jeans photos are priceless!

What a transformation!

laura-ven

The jeans photos are priceless!

What a transformation!

Thanks Lynda started a "big pants" thread.

I'm

Hoping all the vets add their big pants pictures to it

you know what my favorite thing is about losing all this weight (and I see it in you too!). DAYLIGHT BETWEEN. THE TOP OF OUR LEGS!!!! LOL. You look great!

amen to that!

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I get a little bit of "thigh gap" when I wear skinny jeans (might as well be a body shaper!)... I do think how you stand makes a difference.

I get a little bit of "thigh gap" when I wear skinny jeans (might as well be a body shaper!)... I do think how you stand makes a difference.

Love it! Aren't we all funny?? Who knew I would be so vain? Ha!

I too am knock kneed... plastic surgeon told me my thighs would always touch. Key is to find clothes that make me look voluptous and not like I have thunder thighs.

My new bodyfat scale says I am 29% fat too...normal range for my age but all that working out... I had hoped for a little better..haha.

lets sing along to the Carole King hit shall we..."we're so vain"

I too am knock kneed... plastic surgeon told me my thighs would always touch. Key is to find clothes that make me look voluptous and not like I have thunder thighs. My new bodyfat scale says I am 29% fat too...normal range for my age but all that working out... I had hoped for a little better..haha. lets sing along to the Carole King hit shall we..."we're so vain"

Oh so true I bet you think this status is about you

It's hard to hold em and take a pic!

Look at you skinny Goddess!

LOVE giant pant pics! Can you fit into one let? You look great!

Here is one I took over a year ago... before the regain... I think I might weight less now... will have to take new pant pics!

This is priceless!

Yep, that's all of us on here....finding ourselves and loving ourselves! :PI so regret not having a pair of my old jeans to put over my new jeans. But like Fiddle said, I could go to the goodwill and try on my old size over my new size....or go to Macy's and try on a new pair.

My body fat percentage calculated out to be 26.9% so it's time for me to work on reducing the body fat % now....

Rough day for me today...my friend's husband said I look anorexic and someone else said I look like I have cancer or something. What the heck. I'm 5'2" and weigh 133. That should not be too thin. I am trying to stop losing and am eating more. If you don't have something nice to say to someone just keep your lips zipped!

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Rough day for me today...my friend's husband said I look anorexic and someone else said I look like I have cancer or something. What the heck. I'm 5'2" and weigh 133. That should not be too thin. I am trying to stop losing and am eating more. If you don't have something nice to say to someone just keep your lips zipped! Sent from my iPad using VST

People can be so thoughtless. So sorry to hear. Sending you hugs.

Rough day for me today...my friend's husband said I look anorexic and someone else said I look like I have cancer or something. What the heck. I'm 5'2" and weigh 133. That should not be too thin. I am trying to stop losing and am eating more. If you don't have something nice to say to someone just keep your lips zipped!

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Wow, thats harsh. There are lots of reasons people feel threatened or concerned when what they think they know changes. Being rude and insulting is not acceptable. Perhaps practice a response if it should happen again sometime... hopefully it won't! When I first lost weight, some people asked me if I was OK, not sick... I felt they were really concerned... once I said I was losing weight for my health, and my health was much improved, they dropped it and that was the end. At some point, no one will even notice.

That is rude and mean!

They probably just arent used to seeing you thin. Maybe it came off your face making you seem thinner??? Sometimes it takes a bit for the shape to reditribute.

I lost my initial chunk of weight sorta fast but getting to a normal BMI has been very slow so I havent had that happen. Nobody thinks I am too thin.

I wasnt sure it was a compliment tho when the guy I date said something like "nobody likes model thin; its better to fill out your shorts with a curve like you do". Hmmm...I think he told me I am still fat as I was climbing on my bike this summer..haha

At some point we have to be content and pleased with our weight and bodies no matter what others say or think.

Rough day for me today...my friend's husband said I look anorexic and someone else said I look like I have cancer or something. What the heck. I'm 5'2" and weigh 133. That should not be too thin. I am trying to stop losing and am eating more. If you don't have something nice to say to someone just keep your lips zipped!

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Rough day for me today...my friend's husband said I look anorexic and someone else said I look like I have cancer or something. What the heck. I'm 5'2" and weigh 133. That should not be too thin. I am trying to stop losing and am eating more. If you don't have something nice to say to someone just keep your lips zipped!

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I think most people who have known you before will struggle with their own dysmorphia issues when seeing the "new you." I know it does not excuse their ridiculous behavior, but might put your mind at ease.

Rough day for me today...my friend's husband said I look anorexic and someone else said I look like I have cancer or something. What the heck. I'm 5'2" and weigh 133. That should not be too thin. I am trying to stop losing and am eating more. If you don't have something nice to say to someone just keep your lips zipped! Sent from my iPad using VST

Ignore them. They are used to seeing you FAT! People don't have a clue what they let come out of their mouths! I say you look great! It takes a while for our "faces" and bodies to catch up to our WL also. Carry on. Or say, " you know, I think you could stand to lose a few pounds."