Ok so someone tells me today that I've lost enought weight because my face looks bad! What? Why would you tell anyone this? Plus my face doesn't look bad! I told her that I liked the way my face looked! Everyone else's tells me how good I look and how much younger I look! Has anyone else had this happen?

Ok so someone tells me today that I've lost enought weight because my face looks bad! What? Why would you tell anyone this? Plus my face doesn't look bad! I told her that I liked the way my face looked! Everyone else's tells me how good I look and how much younger I look! Has anyone else had this happen?

Did you reply "Not as bad as your face?"

Some people (for whatever reason), feel it is their place to tell you when you've lost enough weight. If you feel fine with the way your face looks, smile and say "wow, that's rude". Sounds a bit like the person is just rude/insecure/mean.

I personally wouldn't let it bother me. People can be so rude sometimes. Has s/he ever said anything else rude or unkind about your weightloss process/progress? Do they have a weight problem?

Some people (for whatever reason), feel it is their place to tell you when you've lost enough weight. If you feel fine with the way your face looks, smile and say "wow, that's rude". Sounds a bit like the person is just rude/insecure/mean.

I personally wouldn't let it bother me. People can be so rude sometimes. Has s/he ever said anything else rude or unkind about your weightloss process/progress? Do they have a weight problem?

yes she has a weight problem. She doesn't know about my surgery. I'm just going to let it roll off my back and forget she said it!

Next time someone says that to you tell them to kick rocks.... You did this for YOU and know one else, she's just being a HATER!!!

Yes, I've heard a lot of hurtful things. But I just keep doing what I think is best for me. I don't like arguing so I don't do anything to prolong a conversation I'm not enjoying, including sniping back. That person is stuck with themselves all the time. The best thing I can do for myself is minimize my exposure.

Lynda

Someone sounds jealous. I say not to let it get to you. I got all kinds of comments when I lost weight and most of the bad ones came from people that didn't agree with WLS, or from the ones that had their own weight issues. If you like the way you look that's all that matters.

Yes, I've heard a lot of hurtful things. But I just keep doing what I think is best for me. I don't like arguing so I don't do anything to prolong a conversation I'm not enjoying, including sniping back. That person is stuck with themselves all the time. The best thing I can do for myself is minimize my exposure.

Lynda

I agree......I won't tolerate it anymore!

yes she has a weight problem. She doesn't know about my surgery. I'm just going to let it roll off my back and forget she said it!

I think you have the right idea. Returning with a snide comment isn't helpful for you or the other person. It elevates the tension for you, distracts you from enjoying your success and may make you look petty to those around you. In my opinion, someone who makes comments like hers usually doesn't intend to be mean or to diminish your success. The person who said that may simply be clueless as to how she sounds. Does she make other tactless remarks to people sometimes? Coming back at her with a snappy retort may hurt her but won't keep her from being clueless in the future.