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Well, I'm sure we've all had a friend/family member who just didn't agree with our decision to "take the easy way out" (aren't you so tired of hearing THAT one)!

My brother is ADAMANT that I should not get this surgery and just work harder at dieting and exercise... Yet, the longer I stay heavy the more fat jokes I hear! If i go to the gym 5 days in a row, I hear "you're over doing it"... if i turn down a slice a pizza, i hear "don't act like you're on a diet". If nothing else, I want to be able to eat less and exercise my heart out but the scale just won't budge!

My cousin did the sleeve first, and she warned me not to tell people before, because they would just try to discourage you from getting it done. I assumed my brother would be supportive since he's seen me struggle with my weight all these years.

His decision hasn't deterred me in any way.. I NEED this for MY reasons, no one else's. its just saddening that I need to defend becoming healthier through surgery against spending the rest of my life on these unsuccessful, never-ending diets & exercises!

ITS LIKE U WANT EVERYONES SUPPORT BUT IT DOESNT ALWAYS WORK OUT LIKE THAT...OH WELL SO BE IT...

Agreed!! At the end of the day, no one dictates my future but me! And fortunately, his opinion has no validation in the outcome of my journey!

I understand you all perfectly! I am re-starting my WLS process (had to stop cause I was preggers) and the only people suportive of this is my Fiance, my best friend, and a co-worker. My mother, sister, brothers, extended family, and friends all balked when I told them I was getting the surgery before. I haven't even told this go-round, so I don't have to hear anyones mouth! All of my friends and family are healthy and skinny or their unhealthy and overweight and don't care so they really don't get it. I have been overweight since I was about 11 years old, and I was ready to lose the weight before, but with the birth of my son, I have to get healthy to be around for him! I hate hearing "Don't take the easy way; that's cheating; or just work out more..." What part of surgery, liquid diets, and removing 60% of my stomach is easy? I hope you have some one close to you that has your back and supports your decision and we are also here if you need to vent of rant, or just need some virtual hugs. Good luck on your journey!

I hope you have some one close to you that has your back and supports your decision and we are also here if you need to vent of rant' date=' or just need some virtual hugs. Good luck on your journey![/quote']

Thanks Nelle,

I have my boyfriend, a cousin who was recently sleeved and a cousin who has helped me research this decision. If I get no one else to support me, I'm ok with them three! (Not telling anyone else though :-) )

*~* RANT *~* :-)

Well, I'm sure we've all had a friend/family member who just didn't agree with our decision to "take the easy way out" (aren't you so tired of hearing THAT one)!

My brother is ADAMANT that I should not get this surgery and just work harder at dieting and exercise... Yet, the longer I stay heavy the more fat jokes I hear! If i go to the gym 5 days in a row, I hear "you're over doing it"... if i turn down a slice a pizza, i hear "don't act like you're on a diet". If nothing else, I want to be able to eat less and exercise my heart out but the scale just won't budge!

My cousin did the sleeve first, and she warned me not to tell people before, because they would just try to discourage you from getting it done. I assumed my brother would be supportive since he's seen me struggle with my weight all these years.

His decision hasn't deterred me in any way.. I NEED this for MY reasons, no one else's. its just saddening that I need to defend becoming healthier through surgery against spending the rest of my life on these unsuccessful, never-ending diets & exercises!

Girl I know how you feel that is why i did not tell anyone im single with grown kids and my daughter would haved a field day with me taking the easy way out......its nothing easy about it! going up and down a flight of steps pretty much done me in let alone going to the gym. Im on meds for blood pressure diabetes......and everthing else....do your thang girl im keepng to myself. its a shame i have to though

.do your thang girl im keepng to myself. its a shame i have to though

It IS a shame! But it'll just make my glory that much more glorious when I succeed!

I was recently told I should get the lap band because it's "safer" and that I will just end up dying if I go through with this surgery. It really makes me regret telling people, it feels like they try to talk me out of it every few days! You just have to ignore the naysayers and keep pushing forward. Some people just can't accept change and I think a lot of it is jealousy disguised as caring.

I was recently told I should get the lap band because it's "safer" and that I will just end up dying if I go through with this surgery. It really makes me regret telling people' date=' it feels like they try to talk me out of it every few days! You just have to ignore the naysayers and keep pushing forward. Some people just can't accept change and I think a lot of it is jealousy disguised as caring.[/quote']

Well not that you should have to lie but you could tell them that you DID get the Lapband. That way they shut up and you can concentrate on your journey. I'm debating about telling people either when I get my surgery. So I understand everyone's reluctance.