I keep reading on here about those who are struggling with guilt when they eat. Until yesterday I was one if those people. I am 6 weeks post op and yesterday we had a family function where everyone ordered pizza. I took a small slice, cut it in half and ate the half, except the back crust (the part where you hold). Afterwards I felt such a tremendous amount of guilt, I was depressed, angry, and frustrated that even after his surgery that food was STILL controlling my emotions. I just want to be normal! Eat like a normal, healthy person and FEEL and look healthy.

Here was my revelation. A healthy, normal person DOES eat a slice of pizza and enjoys it without all the negative emotion attached. Food has no power over me if I don't give it power over me. A small slice of pizza is not a bad choice (as long as its not a trigger food, as long as solids are cleared by your doc, and as long as you eat a normal serving size for your sleeve).

2 months ago I would have eaten 3 slices,maybe 4, with a coke and some garlic knots...so why the heck am I crucifying myself? THAT Is not healthy, not the pizza.

Free yourself. The weight will come off and you will lose the mental heaviness as well.

nicely put!

I keep reading on here about those who are struggling with guilt when they eat. Until yesterday I was one if those people. I am 6 weeks post op and yesterday we had a family function where everyone ordered pizza. I took a small slice' date=' cut it in half and ate the half, except the back crust (the part where you hold). Afterwards I felt such a tremendous amount of guilt, I was depressed, angry, and frustrated that even after his surgery that food was STILL controlling my emotions. I just want to be normal! Eat like a normal, healthy person and FEEL and look healthy.

Here was my revelation. A healthy, normal person DOES eat a slice of pizza and enjoys it without all the negative emotion attached. Food has no power over me if I don't give it power over me. A small slice of pizza is not a bad choice (as long as its not a trigger food, as long as solids are cleared by your doc, and as long as you eat a normal serving size for your sleeve).

2 months ago I would have eaten 3 slices,maybe 4, with a coke and some garlic knots...so why the heck am I crucifying myself? THAT Is not healthy, not the pizza.

Free yourself. The weight will come off and you will lose the mental heaviness as well.[/quote']

Beautiful advice, thanks for posting this wisdom

I can't wait to have a piece of pizza. It is one of my favorite foods. I actually had a craving for cheese fries a few days ago. I had about 4 then stopped. I took the rest to go for my boyfriend. As I carried the container out I thought , wow, this is heavy. I used to be able to eat this. Yuck, what was I thinking!! I am now free of cheese fries perhaps forever!!

That's a good revelation! Funny how we feel about ourselves and our relationship with food, isnt' it? I'm almost 4 months out, and I'm still coming to terms with it, too. We also had a function last night with pizza, and I ate once slice. I also felt a little concern, a)that's too many calories, why was I able to eat the whole slice with no problem, and c) should I have eaten it? But, like you, I also decided I could have eaten4-5x that amount before, and would have. I also could have eaten more later in the evening yesterday, and I didn't. So after a little worrying, I think it's OK. I felt elated that I ate way less than the "normal" people did, and even more thrilled that I was satisfied with it!! It's really all I ever used to wish for before I had surgery - that I didn't have this burning drive to eat, eat, eat!

Congratulations on your new found freedom!

Your words were spot on. It is not food that is the culprit, it is the emotions and reasons that food is used that become the downfall. Once those reasons are detached then the choice of what is eaten is changed, it won't bring on the guilty feelings.

I have heard time and again eat to live...not live to eat. So if one day someone chooses to eat a 1/4 piece of a slice of pizza and they are not making a habit of it, why not enjoy it. Even when dieting, it is recommended not to deprive yourself of things enjoyed.

Amen

Very well put.