Hey y'all:

I have been wrestling with conflicting feelings about the surgery. I have begun the process to have the sleeve procedure done, and I'm really excited. At least I think I'm excited?

I still wonder: Why can't I just eat as if I had already had the procedure done? Will I feel less gratified with the weight loss than I would have felt had I done it by sheer will power?

I have been failing at this for so long that I think this is my best option, at this point. They do say, the best predictor of future behavior is past behavior, right? And I'm tired of failing, ya know? So why can't I just be happy?? Bah.

Sorry for the rant, but you're kinda supposed to do that in a forum right?

Anyways, I'm just reaching out because I know I can't be the only one that feels this way.

Is anyone going through this right now? Or - if you've been there, how did you get past it?

I feel exactly the same way. It can be so frustrating. I am supposed to schedule a date today but am so hesitant to make the right decision. Where are you in the process?

I feel exactly the same way. It can be so frustrating. I am supposed to schedule a date today but am so hesitant to make the right decision. Where are you in the process?

I've had my initial consultation, my psych eval and sleep study, so now I'm just kinda playing the waiting game to see what's next. It's nerve racking!

How about you?

I have had all of my preop testing done and am ready to schedule a surgery date. I actually had one schedule but needed to cancel an reschedule. But I keep putting it off. I'm so scared. I wish I could just do it on my own but I know I can't and this is the tool to help my. But for some reason I can't get past the "surgery" part. Just freaks me out I wish I could just say ok let's do it today and my surgeon would Being on the preop makes me think too much hahahah I want this and I need this. Now I just have to do this.

I have had all of my preop testing done and am ready to schedule a surgery date. I actually had one schedule but needed to cancel an reschedule. But I keep putting it off. I'm so scared. I wish I could just do it on my own but I know I can't and this is the tool to help my. But for some reason I can't get past the "surgery" part. Just freaks me out I wish I could just say ok let's do it today and my surgeon would Being on the preop makes me think too much hahahah I want this and I need this. Now I just have to do this.

Right, well you (and me lol) have every reason to be apprehensive because it is so drastic!

But this would be like the last weight loss attempt though, which, of course, sounds AMAZING to me lol

That fact seems to trump my fears by a long shot too, ya know

Let's see. I'm 18 months+ post op, down over 120 pounds, feeling and looking fantastic. Do I feel like I've accomplished any less because I had surgery rather than doing it the "traditional" way? Nope. I've still had to watch my food intake, drink water, get in my 70g of protein daily, exercise and do the head work required to accept myself as I am rather than some idealized version of myself. In other words, I've worked just as hard with surgery as I'd have worked without surgery, possibly harder because I couldn't use food to cope with the mental aspect of weight loss, so I had to actually work through my issues. The big advantage is that I had a tool to jump start my loss and I have a tool to help me maintain my weight loss. Would I do this surgery again? HELL yes. For me, that's all there is to it. Good luck on your journey.

I wouldn't want anyone who has not tried to diet to have this surgery. 1 thing that we all have in common is that we all have tried and failed at dieting. Dieting does not work for everyone. in a perfect world we all just could diet and lose all of our weight, but like most people on here our weight is constantly yo-yoing . Over the last 15 months ive seen something happen that i have never seen, i saw my weight go down and not go back up. Ive almost lost 230 pounds and its still coming off. we all had our doubts about surgery, but i will say that this is the best decision of my life.

Thanks, Lissa and JMarshall for your candor. Congratulations on your weight loss! I hope my mine will be as successful It's scary, but I think it's the best option for me as well

I too have tried every diet known to man, lost....then gained the weight + more! What's different with the sleeve...it's a tool! I makes portion control a "no brainer" I couldn't pig out if I wanted too! It also helps with the hunger issue...I do get hungry & eat every 3-4 hrs, but very small potions...which I had difficulty with pre-sleeve. I'm still fairly new, sleeved middle of Dec. & still learning about my new best friend. But this has been the best decision of my life!

I, too, thought a time or two before surgery "can't I do this on my own---again?" but it was that again that kept making me realize that I needed a real tool, not a temporary one to help. I am only four days postoperative but am really excited and looking forward to the future. Fear and wonder prior to surgery is normal but I am so glad I am not postoperative instead of preoperative and NOW I can look forward. I am excited and ready. Good luck to you and your decision making. This is a great place to hear from people. I love being able to have this forum to connect with others in the same boat.

Look we were all nervous about having surgery to cut our stomachs, but the truth is I have been on hundreds of diets and lost over 100 pounds countless times, but each time I would put it all back on and another 20 pounds more. But I can honestly say I have no regrets (I should have done it sooner). I am down 116 pounds and able to say will stay off!!

Good luck in whatever you decide!!

I am so torn too. Not torn about should I do it or not but should I have tried harder before. If that makes any sense. I feel like I am saying to myself I can't do it alone....I know there is nothing wrong with that. I just have guilt. I am hoping this will fade away. I have my consultation on March 27th. I was really hoping it would be sooner since I am already a patient. These next few weeks are going to kill me!

I can agree with everone I too have struggle for years with this weight I have being told Im trying to take the easy way out even by doctor but in 2009 the same doctors who would not sign off on it previously was in a rush all of a sudden to sign off on it because the type of insurance i had and come to find out if might have being avoid if someone had just listen and knew I had tried to do this but couldnt i did lose weight i pd plenty of money to doctor all types of diet fads and trend always put the weight back on in 2010 i was banded and i thought i was done and i was scared and nervous then to but the choice i was left with wls was less scary i never even thought of myself as being the fat girl cause i could keep up with everone but the point is if u have tried and failed then u really need to sit and think about in one year where would you like to see yourself and how will you get there and will you be happy there i wish no bad health on no one but reality is eventually this weight will give it to us so now im nervous again but the same options are back on the table again and i dont have a choice i need the help and the tool and I know the day the doc say i am well enough to excerise im at it again so i wish u the best

I understand completely. It's admitting that you need help with something that not everyone needs help with. It's hard. You have to make the decision for yourself, though, about what is best for you, not what was best for a friend or relative. I have heard that from others in my own life that I should just quit eating and be on the post-surgery diet and I'd lose weight. And I would, but I know I'd gain it back plus some. I know what I need, and I need this. Hope you can come to a good place with what you want and need.

Let's see. I'm 18 months+ post op' date=' down over 120 pounds, feeling and looking fantastic. Do I feel like I've accomplished any less because I had surgery rather than doing it the "traditional" way? Nope. I've still had to watch my food intake, drink water, get in my 70g of protein daily, exercise and do the head work required to accept myself as I am rather than some idealized version of myself. In other words, I've worked just as hard with surgery as I'd have worked without surgery, possibly harder because I couldn't use food to cope with the mental aspect of weight loss, so I had to actually work through my issues. The big advantage is that I had a tool to jump start my loss and I have a tool to help me maintain my weight loss. Would I do this surgery again? HELL yes. For me, that's all there is to it. Good luck on your journey.[/quote']

Way to go girl!!!! I want to think like you, I am a very positive person but like most on here I wanted it but I was fearful. I made a list of all the times and things I did in the past to accomplish my goal to always fail or return to old behavior . This is a tool a wonderful tool that is finally going to give me the opportunity to be who I was meant to be before all the reasons of self hate due to weight. I know I have a lot of work to do but excited about this journey to being a new me!!! I also wrote a list of wanta do's when the weight comes off and compared it to a list of what would be no longer, Well guess what the wanta do's will win every time. Try it!!! Good Luck to all!!! Sorry if I was ranting. Lol!!!

I too have tried every diet known to man' date=' lost....then gained the weight + more! What's different with the sleeve...it's a tool! I makes portion control a "no brainer" I couldn't pig out if I wanted too! It also helps with the hunger issue...I do get hungry & eat every 3-4 hrs, but very small potions...which I had difficulty with pre-sleeve. I'm still fairly new, sleeved middle of Dec. & still learning about my new best friend. But this has been the best decision of my life![/quote']

So glad to hear your story, so inspirational to us all. We all need to stick together this is not the easy way out as thin people say but the FINAL way out !!! I'm excited about my journey. Getting sleeved March 11th!