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A thread for Single Bandsters

I thought it might be a good idea to have a thread where we could discuss the different challenges/issues we face as being single and banded.

I'll start with introducing myself. My name is Chris, I am 32 and live in a suburb of Boston. About a year ago I got out of a 5 year relationship and have just casually dated (online dating) since then. I have decided to take a break from dating for a bit, so I can focus on myself and adjust to living life as a bandster. (I was just banded on 10/2). One of my biggest concerns when I start dating again is if/when to tell that I am banded. It's not that I don't want to tell people, it's just that my idea of great dinner conversation does not include discussing my weight. Overall I would say that I have a great life. I have a good job, a very supportive family, and lots of friends. I am happy to be taking control over my weight and issues with food, and am excited at the prospect of my future as a not-so-fat woman.

I look forward to meeting more single bandsters and hope this thread takes off!

Chris :cocktail:

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Wow Cathy! After 36 Yrs He Shows Back Up In Your Life! That Is Unreal! How Does He Look After So Many Years? For This Man To Go To The Trouble To Look You Up And Remember All About You Is Great. Don't Let The Cancer Keep You Away! He Is Working To Fight It And It Will Happen. I Know You Are Not Confident About Yourself As Of Yet, But He Has Seen You And Still Is Coming Back In Two Weeks. Just Take It Slow And See If Those Old Feeling Might Just Come Back. In Time Being With Someone Will Become A Little Easier. (at Least I Think It Should) Its Like Old Friends Getting To Know Each Other Again. A Lot Of Talking And Laughing. I Wish Someone From My Past Would Look Me Up!!!

Diane

Thanks Ladydi,

I have been working on myself so much it seems to be paying off. I got up all my courage and wrote my old flame an email, just saying life is too short, so I'll tell you what I'm feeling. If you want to take it further, I'm game. He spent the entire day composing the most beautiful response, and that's just what we're going to do. If it doesn't work out, at least I've made a huge leap forward.

Fingers crossed,

I thought it might be a good idea to have a thread where we could discuss the different challenges/issues we face as being single and banded.

I'll start with introducing myself. My name is Chris, I am 32 and live in a suburb of Boston. About a year ago I got out of a 5 year relationship and have just casually dated (online dating) since then. I have decided to take a break from dating for a bit, so I can focus on myself and adjust to living life as a bandster. (I was just banded on 10/2). One of my biggest concerns when I start dating again is if/when to tell that I am banded. It's not that I don't want to tell people, it's just that my idea of great dinner conversation does not include discussing my weight. Overall I would say that I have a great life. I have a good job, a very supportive family, and lots of friends. I am happy to be taking control over my weight and issues with food, and am excited at the prospect of my future as a not-so-fat woman.

I look forward to meeting more single bandsters and hope this thread takes off!

Chris :cocktail:

Heh there! I am single and have about 1/2 my weight off. It has been a little slower than I expected but I am hangin' in there. I am 47 and live in the midwest.

I know there are banded men but most in my support group are married.

I think when you get to be my age the good men are all gone. ;)

Where are you guys?

Kayford,

I know exactly what your talking about, I hear those same dogs barking girl!!

I have been single many years, have not really dated. And EVERYONE in my age group/peer group and in my circle of friends, family and aquaintances is married.

I have been a fifth wheel for so long, its hard (for me anyway), not to be discouraged. But I have hope.....

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oh Kristi girl you are BAD!!! LMAO!

Good for you Cathgr8! I'm glad you took that leap of faith, and I hope it works out. And if not, you will never wonder 'what if'. Good for you!

So this weekend I went out with a couple friends to a bar, and engaged in the most searing eye contact with a major hottie. I couldn't believe he was looking back! lol. Totally out of my league but I got such a rush from the eye contact. Alas my friends wanted to leave early, so we did. Maybe next time I'll bring new friends! lol

Yay Chrispygal! I've found myself making and KEEPING eye contact more with men too. Next time I just have to get the courage to talk to them. ;)

We're here...

Oh goodie. WE got a M-A-N to respond !!

So tell us something Harlito, are you looking for that special woman? At 36 you might be a little young for me. I am however, one cool chic for 47 y.o. I must admit I am a lot of fun.

I have never done the internet dating thing as I figured I might end up "pickled" in some barrel in KC by some guy as nutty as John E Robinson.

I trust a fellow bandster to be a upstanding guy.

Tell us more about yourself.

Like your name Harlito. Give us the background on yourself.

Kay

Kayford,

I know exactly what your talking about, I hear those same dogs barking girl!!

I have been single many years, have not really dated. And EVERYONE in my age group/peer group and in my circle of friends, family and aquaintances is married.

I have been a fifth wheel for so long, its hard (for me anyway), not to be discouraged. But I have hope.....

My last date was with a guy that picked me up in a BUG truck. He was an exterminator. Nice guy just not on my same intellectual level. I got home from the date and caught my girlfriends heading out to a club and said "pick me up".

It seems like we get set in our ways and then what there is to pick from is either damaged or a loser.

They say there is someone for each of us. Well where the hell are they?

oh Kristi girl you are BAD!!! LMAO!

Good for you Cathgr8! I'm glad you took that leap of faith, and I hope it works out. And if not, you will never wonder 'what if'. Good for you!

So this weekend I went out with a couple friends to a bar, and engaged in the most searing eye contact with a major hottie. I couldn't believe he was looking back! lol. Totally out of my league but I got such a rush from the eye contact. Alas my friends wanted to leave early, so we did. Maybe next time I'll bring new friends! lol

I have noticed them checking out my butt. It is kinda fun.

It took my family a long time to say anything and now they say you are lookin' good.

Kay in St Jo Mo

Chris,

Yes I am bad. I told you, its the hormones. JK everyone! :faint:

Cathy, you go girl! I am still afraid of making the eye contact too much, but I have been strutting my stuff around JUST a bit. Okay, so he's back in 13 days, right? Can someone make us a ticker for that?

I am so mad, though, I am losing my boobs! Why can't the butt go first?

Missy, hang in there. One of these days you will be in on that circle of married gals, and you'll be looking so good, and having so many men chasing you, you'll wonder why you wanted to get married anyway.

Kay, good thinking! Ask the man to make more than the small talk with us. Harlito is 36? He's in my age range.

Harllito, I am just kidding with you!! I promise I am not a stalker!

Jdru, work up the courage, make that eye contact, and talk to someone for me, cause I am still too shy. Come back and tell us how it went!!

Okay, a funny story. I have to get allergy shots. I was on the phone talking to someone I hadn't seen in a while, and walked into the waiting room of the clinic. You have to go around a wall, so you can't see anyone in there until you are actually IN the room. Well, I was talking, yapping, flapping my jowls, and asked my friend if she "knows any single guys, cause I am on the prowl, yes, I am" just as I walked into the waiting room, and there were 6 or 7 men around my age in there waiting for their shots. They heard every word I was saying!! Several of them smiled, I was so embarrassed. Its usu. only older people when I go in, so imagine my shock, walking into a ROOM full of men! I thought I had died and gone to heaven. No, not really, but it sounded good.

Well, if I have forgotten anyone, I am sorry, I will get back to you next time.

Kristi

Dr. Benavides, Dallas, TX

lap done on Nov1, 06

;)

I can't seem to get my pic on here, so if anyone is interested, http://www.myspace.com/kristiandsavannah

hope I got that right, or if you want to view my kiddo singing rudolph, go to myspace, and look me up by my email address. kbash2@cox.net

I'm 20 years old and single. Unfortunately, in my case, at least, being overweight brings your confidence down to the point where it practically vanishes... For my entire life, I've had to watch my siblings (one older brother, one younger brother, and one younger sister) get dates with ease, but, even if I had the chance, I rarely took them due to my lack in self-confidence.

Hopefully that'll change as I lose weight, and I'll start getting some attention from the ladies! lol.

Giggles,

Glad you had such a wonderful date. You should have made out with him though. That would have gotten you through your knee surgery better too! LOL:biggrin1:

Pink,

I'm glad you are starting to feel better, and way to go on the weight loss girl. Whoo-Hoo!!!:clap2::clap2::clap2:

I'm glad I got the letter back to, because I was thinking he wasn't interested. I sent him another letter today to his Amarillo address and I'm gonna be there this weekend! The other guy, Donny, got his letter and I was shocked by how he acted and pretty mad at first, but I understand why he doesn't want in another relationship right now. So, just friends, but that's ok. I can talk to him about almost anything, which makes me feel really good. I even told him about the letter to Steve and he seemed happy for me. We'll just have to see on both guys.

Joan

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