I love that I found this sight but is it me or are some people here mean? I am noticing more and more that people answer posts with jugdmental and snippy attitudes. I didn't think that's what this site is all about. Are there other sites out there that are all about sleevers that others like better?

I am gonna have to stop posting because I am sorry but I have a short fuse and since I just had surgery I don't think it is healthy for me and yes I was being attacked for being a new member.

I'm a very new member, too. I got into a tiff with someone for politely expressing my opinion, and she told me I didn't know what I was talking about because I don't have medical experience like her. But I do. Anyway, most of us are just looking for support and to help others, too. This whole process is stressful and scary and hard as hell. I hope you will reconsider giving it up, cause we're not all meanies, and I'm sure we could use your input, too.

I found the thread. Folks were suspicious of her because she was new and had nothing on her profile. I believe they were thinking she might be a plant sent to advertise a doctor. I would not think so. Many of us have nothing on our profile even after months. It's a looong stretch to label her as a spammer.

Leave the detective work to the mods....mmmkay?

Stay, Trina.

I found the thread. Folks were suspicious of her because she was new and had nothing on her profile. I believe they were thinking she might be a plant sent to advertise a doctor. I would not think so. Many of us have nothing on our profile even after months. It's a looong stretch to label her as a spammer.

Leave the detective work to the mods....mmmkay?

Stay' date=' Trina.[/quote']

I agree trina don't leave! I posted a thread about being frustrated with this process and got totally attacked for it. Of course I am sure as heck not going to stand around and let people talks to me that way, and so I attacked back.

People are rude, but I hope that won't deter you from posting here. If I was a newbie considering surgery in Mexico, I would want to see all of the good & bad, and you can add to that! Please don't let the d bags here scare you away, just ignore them...or give it right back

I found the thread. Folks were suspicious of her because she was new and had nothing on her profile. I believe they were thinking she might be a plant sent to advertise a doctor. I would not think so. Many of us have nothing on our profile even after months. It's a looong stretch to label her as a spammer.

Leave the detective work to the mods....mmmkay?

Stay' date=' Trina.[/quote']

We have a profile? LOL

I am gonna have to stop posting because I am sorry but I have a short fuse and since I just had surgery I don't think it is healthy for me and yes I was being attacked for being a new member.

I've been here more than a year and I still get attacked. Hungry people are meanies.

I've been here more than a year and I still get attacked. Hungry people are meanies.

It's your name, dude. Butter the bean,......yum.....must have.....attack

I've been here more than a year and I still get attacked. Hungry people are meanies.

& you know what, every post I read from you is gentle, even if it is a firm, no coddle answer so its strange that people attack you. I guess fat people have more issues than just food.

You haven't seen the way he talks to me then!'

I will say that i am 98% supportive, but I have no patience for insensitive people. I am was very upset one day sharing how I was being jerked around etc and how I was becoming emotional, I mean I was about to jump off the curb.. yada yada yah . So much of my VST fam

I've been here for a long time reading and I've seen bb write thousands of comments and if you are reading him mean, then whatever but he isn't mean & doesn't try to come off that way or offend people. He doesn't make flat out mean comments like other b*****s here. He is one of the few I will defend because he is so helpful.

whoops...didn't mean to send.

so anywho, most are sympathetic/ empathetic. Then this one person posts..."things were so easy for me, its like I walked in one day and 3 days later I was in surgery"..!!! And that was it!!! That's all she had to share. I was thinking to myself....WTF just happened. Now I didn't go in hard, but I did ask for 'clarity' in what she was contributing to the convo. All that to say, this is an emotional process and most ppl are responding with emotions more so than tons of logic and rationale at times.

Please refer to this topic:

http://www.verticalsleevetalk.com/topic/52406-vst-rules-keeping-the-forums-a-safe-place-for-everyone/