I know I shouldn't think like this....but I am sort of ashamed to get surgery....I haven't even told my sister because I don't want anyone to know (she can't keep a secret). Also I keep thinking maybe I could diet one more time...I might stick to it this time. Then I think no I do need this...I'm at a tug of war feeling so down about my self....that I am sinking to a low of surgery? Just throwing my thoughts out there...

Here's an interesting hypothetical. What if they had a surgery to cure alcoholism, or nicotine addiction? What if that surgery was available to everyone? Would the general consensus be that alcoholics and cigarette smokers are weak for having the surgery instead of quitting on their own? Would those surgeries have such a stigma?

Here's an interesting hypothetical. What if they had a surgery to cure alcoholism' date=' or nicotine addiction? What if that surgery was available to everyone? Would the general consensus be that alcoholics and cigarette smokers are weak for having the surgery instead of quitting on their own? Would those surgeries have such a stigma?[/quote']

That's right! Not all of us are alcoholics or drug addicts, just like not everyone is addicted to food or overrating. It's hard for someone to say "you're weak because you can't lose the weigh on your own" if they haven't experienced what it's like. I would never tell a drug addict or alcoholic that they are too weak to quit on their own because they went into rehab. It's the same thing in my opinion. Food is a drug.

Overeatting* lol stupid auto correct

sadly 95% of people gain their weight back within 3 years of weight loss (with out weight loss surgery) I had the same thoughts as you! you will not feel ashamed when you look and feel great!

Thank you for this, i am preop and have been having the same emotional 'questions' . Feelings of shame .