Im a week out from surgery, starving, anxious and terrified. And to top it off, the man Im supposed to marry is talking to his exgirlfriend and is completely shutting me out. Im so confused. Im so heartbroken and alone... Idk what to do.

I would totally focus on YOU! After your done healing and have some strength back ( I'm talking a few weeks) then re-asses the situation....and if you have to make a decision then. Don't stresses about it now....but get him back later....LOL .

You have come this far. Do not let any thing take your eye off the prize.

I agree with the previous posters. This surgery is for YOU. You need to focus on yourself right now and getting healthy and happy. This is your journey, nobody else's! Deal with his BS after you have recovered.

Best of luck to you with the surgery (and the man!)!!!!!!!!

Honey, with all certainty, and speaking from similar experience....He's telling you, without words, exactly who he is!...listen to that truth . Hope that wasn't too harsh! You are so much better and stronger...focus on you! You are gonna be an even hotter mama than you already are...keep focused.

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BTW, you are NEVER alone!

I totally agree that u need to take care of yourself before you deal with your boyfriend. A person who is recovering is physically compromised (temporarily) and u just shouldn't have to deal with emotional stress right now. Be kind to yourself!!! Drink water, sleep, and know a much better life is waiting for you. Have u considered that this is a big adjustment for him too? It should be a positive one, but maybe he us feeling insecure about the "new you" wanting and needing him still? Maybe he is intimidated by ur new confidence? Only u know what is going on inside ur relationship. If he can't be supportive than u can do better!

Also....u r not alone. Write to me if you want to talk! I promise it will get better!

I also wanted to add that he's doing you a favor by "showing" you who he actually is....and he's doing this BEFORE getting married! Right now it really hurts to see this and feel it...but babe I have some news for you...it's better to find out now then after you get married ( and possibly kids later). Take this from someone who's been cheated on with my EX-husband ( notice I said EX!!!). It better to find out before you get really tangled with this idiot. But, like I said for now act cool as a cucumber (cause you just a cool chick and IN CONTROL) and focus on getting better and your strength back. I am 2 weeks out and I already feel sooooo much better...you will too ( I promise). Remember- cool as a cucumber!

Im a week out from surgery' date=' starving, anxious and terrified. And to top it off, the man Im supposed to marry is talking to his exgirlfriend and is completely shutting me out. Im so confused. Im so heartbroken and alone... Idk what to do.[/quote']

Been their I had a guy feeling he was talking to someone behind me back so one mourning I called out of work and caught him he was stunned to see me we r married with 5 kids so it's not that easy to just get devoted I took a vow and I'm trying to stick to it we all mess up no one is perfect I'm not the easiest person to deal with lol but I too am hurt I feel like I do so much for him and he does that but I had to recognize my faults in y he was doing it I'm still learning