Hi Everyone,

Recently I have heard of a couple of people who have backed out from having Weight Loss Surgery with Dr. Aceves. I think to myself what a shame. For the most part they backed out because their “own” families had been giving them such a bad time about doing this.

I consider these family members “Adult Bully’s” they are the worst kind of bully. Your very own family should be there to support and encourage you to make your life better and most of all healthy.

You are going to DIE so much faster from being fat. You have an illness or disease and it is called Obesity. If a Doctor told your family that if you did not have your appendix out you were going to die—they would say go ahead and take it out. If you do not have Weight Loss Surgery, you are going to be in poor health and it could result in your death Please think about what I am saying.

You are an adult and you DO NOT owe them any explanation of what you are doing. Stand up for yourself and your health and be a hero and save your own life. I know it is hard for you to stand up for you—if you can’t then I will stand up for you. You do not need their permission to have weight loss surgery.

You have earned the right to make these kinds of choices for yourself—you are an adult. Most of us have experienced a little of this negative kind of remarks and comments from someone before we have weight loss surgery, but we learned we had to do what is best for us. STOP giving away your power to make good and healthy choice for YOU.

This is NOT about them, this is ALL about you. Take back your power and control—YOU can do this. If you need someone to talk to them and educate them, I am more than happy to talk with them. I find that most of the time people who are these “Adult Bully’s” when it comes to weight loss surgery are misinformed, scared, have all the wrong medical information, and just need a little education. Some are also scared they will lose you if you become skinny and they remain fat. They are being selfish and that is really sad.

I want you to take back your power and put yourself first. It has been years since you have done this. There are so many of us out here who support you and will be there every step of the way with you. So if you are sitting out there and reading these posts and someone has bullied you, this message is directed to you. They want to keep you under their power and control—that is so wrong!! You NO longer need to fear what they think. I am here to help you in any way I can. You can be very successful and healthy and take back your life. Again this is ALL ABOUT YOU AND NO ONE ELSE.

This is my private E-mail—please send me a note and we will start talking. I will call you also if you would like.

Suzannesh@AOL.com

Together we will get you through this.

Hugs,

Suzanne

Lost 105 pounds

P R E A C H !

VERY well stated!!!

that was so perfectly said aw it really touched my heart

she couldnt have said it any better

and to add to it dont you wanna feel better?

getting this surgery will absolutely help you look and feel better with the support of this site and doctors also your nutritionist hug

Thank you for the important reminder! So glad you are on this forum.

Let the church say, "Amen"!

Which is why I don't tell nobody about my surgery including my family. I don't need their drama or bully!

Yep, wut she sed.

Also, don't let anyone bully you INTO surgery either. If you're considering it then please make a well informed personal decision that YOU are sure of - at least as sure as you CAN be. Regardless if you're considering surgery you have come to the conclusion that you need to do SOMETHING about your weight. So please, whatever decision you make about WLS - yeah or nay - please do SOMETHING about it, either the WLS or diet and exercise.

AWESOME! I have only told a "select few." The only family member that knows outside of my husband and son, is my Dad. The only reason I have told my Dad is because he is also considering wls. Outside of that, my 2 besties, who are super supportive and have been sworn to secrecy. I don't believe anyone could bully me at this point, well not enough for me to change my mind. Maybe I am at the point of not tolerating it anymore.