How long after surgery should one wait to get back to a normal healthy sexual relationship?

Does that hurt you?

My hubs doesn't want me now...says we've been together too long...so I doubt he'll want me IF my hormones go wacky (in a good way).

Wow that's mean. Doesn't make sense? Isn't he supposed to be ur husband ? I hope ur ok and ur feelings aren't hurt.

Of course my feelings are hurt, and I feel like its all me. He's the type of person that thinks he's just fine and never the problem so I agree with the testosterone check. Tmi...I know!

I'm sorry girl. Just TRY not to let him bring ya down. :-)

Sorry I hope ur ok. Remember u need to be happy

The comment I made was suppose to be positive but sounded a little conceded. I was referring to the testosterone check because I went through a spell that I didn't want it. ( I had to do it anyway she doesn't take no as an answer with sex) I had my testosterone check and that was the problem. I love my wife as he should you and I would never tell her we've been together to long. Y'all need to talk and he needs to get checked made a world of differance for me.

You didn't sound conceited to me! I think he needs to get checked too. He's so excited its a mike an Ike! But like I said...it's my fault not his (NOT). He won't get checked. Talking is pointless because again, he's not the problem! I mean, if he was injured and could never again, I would be ok with that. But this? This is unacceptable! THIS is why people cheat! Because they need validation that they are ok, and it's NOT them!

Sorry for the rant and vent. I'm good now!

:-)

Guys have a hard time with there ego (Did I just say that) we don't like to admit we have issues especially in that dept. my wife is 5'1" and 105lbs soaking wet and I'm 350lbs dry She has a very high sex drive and mine always was to but with weight gain (145lbs over 10yrs) mine died. She was asking me if I was getting it somewhere else and I was in my mind thinking she would go somewhere else if I couldn't keep up so I went and got checked. Now we're like rabbits I'm just a big bunny scared I'm going to break her one day So that's why I'm getting the sleeve so maybe I can keep up with ease again. I married up in my opinion and would do anything to keep my wife we've never had any issues and I want to keep it that way. I'm only looking at your tiny avatar but you look to be an attractive woman and he should want to get checked out for you. He needs to know that to.

Thanks, lloydthumper!

Is that why ur thumper cuz ur a big bunny lol.

Nope funny though Thumper was a nick name I got before I was born my mom gave me because I constantly kicked her and it made a thumping sound and it stuck after I was born And Lloyd is my given name so LloydThumper is my user name

Lol

Sorry for the rant and vent. I'm good now! <img src='http://www.bariatricpal.com/public/style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/wink.png' class='bbc_emoticon' alt='' />

Rant away, I agree with the masses, your married. There is no your fault, your problem, it's a our fault our problem kinda thing. If he does not want to take steps to change or at the very least find out what's wrong, cheating may very well end up being your last resort. Keep your head up and from this moment forward, you do things in the best interest of you......