How long after surgery should one wait to get back to a normal healthy sexual relationship?

I asked my doc at my last pre-op appointment he said whenever you feel up to it....I waited until two weeks I was kinda milking it a little but didn't want to try to soon and actually hurt something.....and I was good I did however make my husband use extreme caution and if he was on my stomach too much I vocalized this. Take your time and yes if you are feeling like that still give it a few more days how far post op are you?

Yah, I can be a bit much at times, so the thought I might hurt something did cross my mind, so I'm gonna give it a few weeks or a least until I could get around with nooooo pain. Thanks for sharing your story it's appreciated.

You'll know if it doesn't feel right. I hope you are with a partner who understands what you are going through and is OK' date=' if you say, "Wait, something doesn't feel right", but lose the anxiety surrounding it. It really isn't a big deal. Just go nice and slow. You may actually enjoy it.

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Yah, I hear yah. Just being cautious I guess my doc told me today if I'm up tp it, I should go for it, just be easy about it thou lol

Next time I will watch my words more carefully when they can be pervertedly interpreted for other meanings hahaha!!! I can't have anyone breaking the code of all of woman-kind!

No pretzels' date=' girl!! That's my point! lol

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Lol, you guys are tooooo funny. The weather by me is gorgeous, was able to get into one of my Mz Prissy dresses and I must say I was very impressed with myself.... Guys the cat calls were hilarious but ultimately I'm happy with my progression so far

P.S no pretzels no pretzels lol unless it's a snack hahaha

I hope sooner than 4 weeks not sure if me or my wife would survive the ordeal. 1 week maaaaaaybe!

I hope sooner than 4 weeks not sure if me or my wife would survive the ordeal. <img src='http://www.bariatricpal.com/public/style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/smile.png' class='bbc_emoticon' alt='' /> 1 week maaaaaaybe!

Lol, I'm single with a healthy drive for the opposite sex (^.^) and mannnnnnn lol b4 surgery I was busy with finals and work sooo now that things have slowed down I'm like , (In my Joey from friends voice) "Hi you doing?" lol

My doc said said whenever I feel like it. Hubby was being all cautious and patient. However I wasn't and got tired of waiting on him so I took advantage of him in the middle of the night after two weeks. A girl's gotta do what a girl's gotta do!

My doc said said whenever I feel like it. Hubby was being all cautious and patient. However I wasn't and got tired of waiting on him so I took advantage of him in the middle of the night after two weeks. A girl's gotta do what a girl's gotta do!

I heeeaaarrrrrr that lol..... You go girl (^.^)

My doc said to wait at least a week or 2 and after that what feels alright. If it hurts don't do it, if it doesn't hurt do it! This applied to exercise as well.

Will do, lol gave it two to three weeks and I'm ready to implode...all the extra attention isn't helping either lol.

I was told whenever I was up to it, but not before I was on some type of birth control

Ahhhhh man, don't tell me I'm somehow more fertile...... Lol

4 days here. Just do whatever feels right and no swinging from the tightropes.

4 days ?!?!? Really? That would be fabulous but I just had surgery Wednesday and can barely even move around with out pain. I can't imagine having sex already.

About a week in my case. I had to hold my tummy still until about week 3 though, the shaking made me sore. Everything had to stay rather "vanilla" for about a month though.

My hubs doesn't want me now...says we've been together too long...so I doubt he'll want me IF my hormones go wacky (in a good way).

My hubs doesn't want me now...says we've been together too long...so I doubt he'll want me IF my hormones go wacky (in a good way).

I think he needs his testosterone checked. Me and my wife have known each other 20 years been married 14 yrs and we keep doing it more and more but since her late 30's peak has hit were like rabbits. But we are one of those sickening couples everyone says get a room. We're affectionate anywhere we are Which can be alot of fun