Newly single, newly sleeved, New me .. I am looking for other single sleevers out there to talk about single life, before during and after the sleeve. Maybe a place were us singles can come together and talk about whatever who knows maybe Someone can find love.. In a loveless world. So if you are single and out there lets hear from you..

I'm single and worried also about a man seeing pics of me heavy and being turned off. I don't have have a man and have no idea on how to get one but I guess it could happen. Anyway I've been so focused on being a mom to m my son that I've spent the last 16 years just staying home and doing stuff with him. Well he is out and about now doing 16 year old boy stuff so that leaves me alone. I've never been lonely. I talked to other single moms that say they are lonely and can't believe that I just stayed home and didn't care about having a man in my life. Well now that my son is older I totally get what they mean about being lonely. Now that I'm thinner and have way more confidence I'm always wanting to go places the problem is is that I don't have anyone to go with. My girl friends are all married with kids. My single friends want to hang at bars and I don't. I have no idea how to find a man. So although I love my new body I for the first time ever am lonely.

I prepared myself for rejection...but that doesn't mean it didn't feel like I was taking a bullet. However, to the person who really cares, it won't be that big of an issue. There may still be some things to work through in regards to how heavy I used to be, but the same could be said of any issue regarding my past. I shared my experience because I don't want to see anyone lose their confidence over something like this...Do not be ashamed of what used to be...you have changed it!

I'm 29, newly single and newly sleeved in South Louisiana as of May 27th! My fiance' passed away last summer and I haven't dated anyone since. I'm down 26 pounds so far. I still have quite a ways to go, but I'm looking forward to the possibilities this journey presents. I guess the cliche' dinner dates will be quite different as I've already had to explain to a couple of colleagues over lunch the reason I couldn't finish my food. So far, everyone has been very positive and supportive (at least to my face LOL)!

Wow I am truly sorry for your loss and I wish you the best of luck in your journey!! Congrats on the weight loss so far

I prepared myself for rejection...but that doesn't mean it didn't feel like I was taking a bullet. However, to the person who really cares, it won't be that big of an issue. There may still be some things to work through in regards to how heavy I used to be, but the same could be said of any issue regarding my past. I shared my experience because I don't want to see anyone lose their confidence over something like this...Do not be ashamed of what used to be...you have changed it!

I agree and I myself hope to find that one person. My goal with love was to always use the advice my grandparents would give me to seek out my soul mate. My grandparents were married 66 years before my grandmother died. My grandfather lived everyday after that loving her more and more. That, my friend, is truly what love should be about. She may have broken my heart but not my spirit.

I agree and I myself hope to find that one person. My goal with love was to always use the advice my grandparents would give me to seek out my soul mate. My grandparents were married 66 years before my grandmother died. My grandfather lived everyday after that loving her more and more. That' date=' my friend, is truly what love should be about. She may have broken my heart but not my spirit.[/quote']

After reading your previous post, I just have to say-- her leaving you was about HER not you!

Hi, I just came across this forum. I would love to meet sleevers in the Brockton, Ma area. I tried the suport group on 1st mon afternoon at tufts but only 2 other people and I had to pay $30.00 co pay plus $20.00 transportation. I started pre op Jan 2013 had surgery 3/18/13. I lost 23lbs pre op. So far 48lbs since surgery. If anyone is out there and interested in getting together to talk let me know. Thanks

I broke down and joined one of the online dating sites- dating is a lot harder now! People say and do just about everything to get some attention. It was so much easier before when people weren't "after one thing". Man..... I definitely wouldn't have ever thought dating would be harder now. I just want to meet someone normal that wants a real relationship. And won't be freaked out by the surgery news. Anyone near Boston?

At the end of the day, you can't win the lottery without buying a ticket; and yes, sometimes the odds of finding someone seem very slim. It does happen though, and having the confidence to take a deep breath and put yourself out there when you're ready has a lot to do with it. I dated briefly in college, and then spent most of the next 10 years of my life burying myself in work and contenting myself with all my friends. I had a really good, if not completely fulfilling single life for many years. However, when I hit 30, I decided that I needed to do more to put myself out there, and signed up for various online dating sites. I met more than a few frogs, but met some pretty good guys, too; however, things just didn't seem to click. Just when I was getting ready to take a break from dating again, I met a great guy online that I've been with for almost 3 years now. We live together and he's been super supportive about my surgery, but I have to admit that I'm a little scared reading some of the statistics about relationships post-weight loss. It's easy for me to say now, a week pre-op, that I'll never change, and he'll never change, and that we won't become a statistic, but I guess I really have no way of knowing what will happen. I guess we'll just take it a step at a time. For those of you who are still waiting to jump into the dating pool, go ahead, take a breath, be bold, and jump. Again, you can't win the lottery without buying a ticket

I'm single and 3.5 weeks post op. living in MN.

Well things have changed 100% getting hit on rather then hitting on a woman is always nice

Well things have changed 100% getting hit on rather then hitting on a woman is always nice

Still waiting on that one

Still waiting on that one

wow am I so out of practice you didnt realize I was flirting with you? lol

No longer "single and ready for a Pringle" haha! Due to be sleeved Aug 6! Too excited ????

I'm single and ready to start my new life! 21. WV!

Still waiting on that one

Consider yourself hit on. You are a cute one!

Consider yourself hit on. You are a cute one!

And how YOU doin?

I am newly sleeved and have been single for about 6 months now. I am looking forward to new experiences. Any guys in south Louisiana?