Bad day today, first off I'm really tired (this malabsorbtion is not co-operating with me) today and have been not sleeping well for the past few weeks. . . don't know why. . . secondly, i have the nasty duty of firing a couple of my employees today and next week. . . this makes me very nervous and uptight cause you never know how people will react to this news. . . had one who went totally psycho on the department and had to call for police escort. . .ugh. . . then there are problems with older son who is an ass anyhow and i shouldn't let this bother me because he has always been a loser his whole 30 years and caused me nothing but pain. . . ugh this is making me eat uncontrollably and drinking too much fluids as well, which is making me slime out of control. . . and feel very very bloated and uncomfortable. . . this emotional eating sucks! Thanks for listening, I know what I need to do. . . . just have to vent. . . .

Deep breath...... exhale.... repeat. Go find some beautiful spring scenes (flowers, ducks, blossoming trees, buzzing bugs, croaking frogs) and think on those things. Better yet, get yourself some fishing gear and find a body of water to soothe away your worries. Be kinder to yourself and your "loser" son :-)

Girl, I feel your pain. I have a pain in the ass son too who is 18, supposed to be graduating in two months and wont do anything he is supposed to. We are having a come to Jesus meeting today and he has no idea I am taking his car away. I can only imagine what is going to happen when that does. I am working on a 25 page term paper for grad school that I want to finish so I dont have that Major stress on me too. I have lots of work that needs doing here at work but I feel overwhelmed and have noticed that today I keep turning to food. I am lucky I really dont have anything that harmful here at my desk. Everytime I reach for food, I realize what I am doing and I stop.. Thanks sleevey for letting me realize what I am doing BEFORE I do it. I am sorry you are having a tough time too. We can get through this together and support each other. PM me and we can talk about it rather than keeping on eating until you slime. I am here for you. Tammi

Children can be a blessing and also a pain in the A--. Emotional eating is really a difficult thing to deal with. Especially during emotional times when we are stressed to our max. Take some deep cleansing breaths where your exhaling all your angst out with every cleansing breathe you take. Do this often, it works. Sending positive energy your way!

Praying for you both!!

Good thoughts and prayers toward you...

Me, too.....praying for all. I have a 43 year old daughter who just can't get her stuff together! Reading a great book right now. "How to Set Boundaries With Your Adult Children" by Allison Bottke. I highly recommend it.

Sue

Just came back from therapy with a plan on how to get my son motivated and set some REAL boundaries with him and his behavior. I feel better already.

Forensikic you can do this. He's 18 years old and needs to get out and doing something meaningful for himself. This is frustrating for you as a parent and really hard to deal with. I admire your courage and strength. Hang in there and set those boundaries.

Forensikic you can do this. He's 18 years old and needs to get out and doing something meaningful for himself. This is frustrating for you as a parent and really hard to deal with. I admire your courage and strength. Hang in there and set those boundaries.

Thanks for the encouragement! Sorry If I hijacked your post Thinoneday! I didnt meant to!

Thinoneday, Forensichik, I certainly empathize with your pain right now. I am 55 years old and currently looking for a new career opportunity - took a settlement with my company 3 months ago with a "voluntary reduction in force". The labor market is rough for someone my age. I have come close to landing a great job 4 times - each going to the younger, cheaper candidate. At least my weight isn't an issue in this job search. It is so depressing, and I want to console myself with food. I usually stop myself, but it is HARD to do.

Good luck dealing with all of your burdens and challenges. I will be thinking about you and sending you good thoughts.

SHaron

Thank you everyone, you are all great! I'm so fortunate to have this forum to come chat on. . . things will get better. . .the boy has been a pain forever, so i'm used to that. . my pastor told me that we are given children to raise and after they are adults, they should take what we have taught them and work it into their own paths. . .if they chose to screw up and fall off the path, that is a choice they have made not us. . . I'm doing much better today, i'll work on the emotional eating part . Together i know we can get through it. Thanks again all.!!! Blessings and cyber hugs to all

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