A very close friend passed away today so the three remaining went out tonight. I have had 3 drinks, but I am 11 days from surgery. I'm lost and want to take care of myself but keep thinking what's the point. I regret drinking and won't continue to, but I feel horrible for doing it and horrible for thinking about me instead of her.

Hi Tlmiller2971. The death of somebody close is bound to bring up a variety of emotions. You recognised that drinking so early after your surgery was not wise, so just forget what happened and think forward. Don't be too hard on yourself. Give yourself time to grieve for your friend. My only advice is for you to try and separate the feelings of loss due to your friend's death and the feelings linked with the lack of food and alcoholic drinks that would have been your crutch pre-surgery. You will have to find a way to cope differently from now on. Sorry for not being more helpful. I send you a big hug.

So sorry about the loss of your friend.

But to put this in perspective - There is nothing wrong with having three drinks prior to surgery. It might impact your presurgery weight loss and if you are on a pre op diet, clearly drinking is not part of the plan.

Please don't beat yourself up over this.

Or...maybe you are human. It is NEVER easy to lose a loved one. It sounds like you are taking good care of yourself, it was just a slip.

Don't beat yourself up. Let your doc know, just in case s/he thinks it might complicate surgery, but don't think it's the end of the world.

I'm sorry about the loss of your friend. That is never easy to handle. (hugs)

Lissa

I don't know if this is really going to help but here it goes, I am so sorry for your lost, it is a good friend to feel guilty after the death of a love one. But I don't believe you are a screw up. You just reacted to the pain you were feeling.

When I lost my aunt I was feeling guilty because I was thinking about myself and not her. But I found a stranger who told me that it was okay that I was thinking about myself because she would not have it any other way. So continue with your plans because her wish for you now that she is gone is to be happy and that she will watch over you as you meet the goals you are hoping for.

So everyday I light a candle and pray that with gods help and hers I make it through another day strong.

I listen to spanish christen music and there is a song that gets me thru "Yo Te Extranare" by Tercer Cielo

Thank you everyone. I did the best thing you can do when you are upset and went to my mom ) I am movin on regarding the food and alcohol and for my friend she knows I love her and I do believe she is still with me