I have had the band for two years but have not had much success. I need to really start over and take this seriously or else i will start having medical issued what food plan do you suggest i do? Please help!!!

Thank you for your help ! I feel so discouraged and like a failure!

Thank you for your help ! I feel so discouraged and like a failure!

You're only a failure if you quit trying. You haven't quit trying, you're here and you're trying to get back on track. Don't be so hard on yourself!

You can do this, you really can. You just have to get your head back in the game and get your band to a point it as adequate Fluid in it.

Hang in there

Thank you for the encouragement ! I am working to keep my family afloat my marriage is a mess i have two young kids and trying to do it all i guess you can figure i take the back seat in priority plus i ear my way through the stress. I work in hospice now and my own mortality is becoming apparent and i need to be here for my kids!

How much can you eat in one sitting? If its more than your fist you need a fill.

I dont have much of a fill now due to a surgerey i had and they took most out. Before that though i was eating crap food because healthy food was getting stuck all the time

It sounds like you're not using the band. It's like saying you're on weight watchers, only you don't go to meetings, weigh in, or count points? What do you expect?? Just go get a fill. Go every month.

Also, it sounds like maybe you were never tight enough. I was stuck and throwing up a lot until my last few fills. I'm MUCH tighter now, but I don't have the expectation of eating anywhere close to normal, so I've slowed down and chew more. Haven't thrown up in 3 weeks!!

Its so hard to tell how much fill is the right amount and not too much were you are miserable

Actually, with all due respect, it sounds like she was TOO tight before.

Saying "Before that though i was eating crap food because healthy food was getting stuck all the time" is one of the classic but often missed signs of being too tight. When your band is too tight, people actually often gain weight because as she said, she was too tight to eat healthy foods.

Remember, the band's job isn't to physically stop you from eating anything. Nor is it to control your portion size. The band's job is to keep you satiated on less food for longer periods of time.

Here's some great articles that explain it very well: The Lap-Band is NOT about restriction and Tighter Isn't Always Better

From what you are saying, it sounds to me as if you need some type of counseling. You have way too much going on in your life to concentrate on you. Talk with your doctor to see if he can refer you to a counselor, once you gotten things off of your mind, to can put your mind to losing weight and taking care of you.

I know all about the counseling thing lol my problems are not going away or going to get better anytime soon so i have to start taking care of myself in midst of the craziness and stress and not wait to say then ill take care of myself. I feel like i am safe to say most of us with the band emotionally eat or have some sort of unhealthy relationship with food or else there would have been no reason for the band

I feel like i am safe to say most of us with the band emotionally eat or have some sort of unhealthy relationship with food or else there would have been no reason for the band

I agree with you 100%!!!!

To totally plagiarize and misquote someone, "May the frustration and fear you feel be the wind in your back to long term success!"

and to quote a very successful marketing company - "Just do it!"

Love that sage!!!!!

Thanks miss for all the info and support!