In 2010 I wanted to have Lasik eye surgery before my wedding. I went for the consult and it was detected that I may have had swollen optic nerves. After a scary few months it was found that I have a rare condition where deposits develop on my optic disc. By finding this out early I was able to seek treatment before anything happened to my vision.

Now in 2013 as I am pursuing Lapband surgery it was found that I have sleep apnea. I go tonight for a CPAP test. Though this was a major blow to my self-esteem with thoughts such as "How will I ever feel sexy for my husband" crossed my mind I also had to think about how low my oxygen levels drop and how many times an hour I stopped breathing. I can also take comfort in knowing the sleep apnea can go away after I have this surgery and I am successful in my weight loss journey.

I am concluding month 1 of my 3 month supervised weight loss insurance requirement next week. I also have my psych eval Friday. Time is flying and I'm learning so much thanks to my amazing surgical team/program and this forum. Thanks everyone for your inspiration!

Wendy

I love your positive attitude! It will take you far!

Don't feel bad about the CPAP and the sleep apnea. Granted there's no guarantees, but a lot of us no longer have a sleep apnea after loosing weight. I had one too before I got the band a year ago. Now, not only do I no longer have sleep apnea, I don't even snore anymore. At all!

Best wishes!

Though this was a major blow to my self-esteem with thoughts such as "How will I ever feel sexy for my husband" crossed my mind

Two things from a Male perspective:

1. Don't wear it during sex.

2. You drastically under estimate the power of the Male sex drive

Two things from a Male perspective:

1. Don't wear it during sex.

2. You drastically under estimate the power of the Male sex drive

Too funny

Thank you both for your replies! Terry, my husband told me pretty much the same thing LOL!

Wouldn't bother me if someone wore it during sex...................

I wear a cpap nightly and my wife is very happy about it. I used to stop breathing in the middle of the night and it would scare the hell out of her and she would wake me up. Some nights I would suddenly stop snoring and she had to check to make sure my chest was going up and down.

Just remember the cpap is for sleeping, not relations although I did ask my wife once if she wanted to have a 'go round with the elephant man'...probably a little TMI there...LOL

sleep apnea can kill you and it is no joke. Look on the bright side...you are married. Think how much it would suck if you were single.

You know, Jim raises an excellent point. I bet your husband will appreciate the CPAP machine.

Years ago (MANY years ago) I dated a man who had untreated sleep apnea. Honestly, sleeping with him scared the crap out of me. I remember he'd inhale then...nothing. I swear a full minute or two would go by with him doing this weird little gasping thing before he'd finally sputter and exhale. More than once I shoved him in the arm just to make him breath again. It always really scared me.

I wear a cpap nightly and my wife is very happy about it. I used to stop breathing in the middle of the night and it would scare the hell out of her and she would wake me up. Some nights I would suddenly stop snoring and she had to check to make sure my chest was going up and down.

Just remember the cpap is for sleeping, not relations although I did ask my wife once if she wanted to have a 'go round with the elephant man'...probably a little TMI there...LOL

sleep apnea can kill you and it is no joke. Look on the bright side...you are married. Think how much it would suck if you were single.

sexy elephant man..YOU crazy thang

Wouldn't bother me if someone wore it during sex...................

gonna start spamming you

In 2010 I wanted to have Lasik eye surgery before my wedding. I went for the consult and it was detected that I may have had swollen optic nerves. After a scary few months it was found that I have a rare condition where deposits develop on my optic disc. By finding this out early I was able to seek treatment before anything happened to my vision.

Now in 2013 as I am pursuing Lapband surgery it was found that I have sleep apnea. I go tonight for a CPAP test. Though this was a major blow to my self-esteem with thoughts such as "How will I ever feel sexy for my husband" crossed my mind I also had to think about how low my oxygen levels drop and how many times an hour I stopped breathing. I can also take comfort in knowing the sleep apnea can go away after I have this surgery and I am successful in my weight loss journey.

I am concluding month 1 of my 3 month supervised weight loss insurance requirement next week. I also have my psych eval Friday. Time is flying and I'm learning so much thanks to my amazing surgical team/program and this forum. Thanks everyone for your inspiration!

Wendy

you are sexy with or without it.

wear it or not...your health is what matters.

he loves YOU (and the mask).

:wub:

Two things from a Male perspective:

1. Don't wear it during sex.

2. You drastically under estimate the power of the Male sex drive

I've been on this site for well over a year... this has to rank in the top ten best posts I've read!

Me too, that is THE best statement.

It's great that many if us are required to have a sleep study pre-op. I didn't think I had apnea, but the test was required and I was having 12-15 apnea episodes an hour. My step-dad died from sleep apnea, so I understood the implications to my health. The cpap machine retrained me to sleep. My husband and I made a joke about it...he was mission control and when it was lights out, I'd tell him "ready for liftoff!". I only needed to use it for 2 months pre and 3 months post op. it made a huge difference and once I lost 40 lb I was off it.

Being married 46 years next week, I have to tell you, if you're sleeping during sex, you're missing out!

Love your positivity!

Wendy,

I already have sleep apnea and I am looking forward to my first trip w/out my machine when this is over. Still looking at an early April date