That post about the last minute pre-surgery freak out got me thinking. It's something that most of us have gone through or will go through. You wonder if you made the right decision, if you should back out now, if you might die, if maybe you haven't <b>*really*</b> tried hard enough to lose weight on your own. When I have those moments, I think of my "little goodbyes" - saying sayonara to all of those tiny little things that happen every single day to make life as an obese person so difficult and so very painful.

We all know that losing weight will make us healthier, live longer, and resolve some of our health issues, and those things are important. But it's those <b><u>little</b></u> things that help keep you going day after day. I thought it would be fun if we had an LBT little goodbyes thread. We can all help each other remember <b>exactly</b> why we're doing this.

I'm saying goodbye to...

...back pain I get whenever I walk for more than ten minutes

...sweating in public while people around me are nice and cool

...shopping at Lane Bryant

...inner-thigh chafing that sometimes gets so bad that I can't walk

...parking in a tight space and then struggling to get out of my car

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<b>What are<u> your</u> little goodbyes?</b> </font>

:clap2: saying goodbye plus size clothes in Filenes:)

saying goodbye airplane ride to Morocco for 7 hours sitting really tight.

saying goodbye sitting in a meeting with the chair with arm rest too tight.:phanvan .

saying hello to wearing my daughter's jeans

:high5: :whoo: saying hello to a sexy black dress I have my eyes on:Banane20:

Excellent post Jean!

I guess I was different because I had no jitters or worry, I was plain excited and couldn't wait to get on the surgery table. I was living in suicide fantasy at 317 pounds, though too chicken to go through with it. I think another 50 pounds up would have given me the courage to end my own life.

So goodbye to thoughts of leaving this world sooner than necessary.

NOW I DANCE DOWN GROCERY STORE ISLES. GOODBYE TO SADNESS!

saying goodbye to: knees that make it extremely painful to get up off of any chair and to walk...

Romans for clothes...

and my # 1 goodbye- hopefully in a year or so, saying good bye To SLEEP APNEA and dragging my ball and chain machine with me everywhere I go!:clap2:

Saying Goodbye to shaving legs that have a surface area of most peoples entire body.

Saying Goodbye to chafing inside of legs.

Saying Goodbye to rolls of fat that keep me from bending how I want to

Saying Goodbye to the fat under my arms that waves by it's self

Saying Goodbye to plus size clothes forever

Saying Goodbye to being over the weight limit on most outdoor chairs

Saying Goodbye to looking like a fat dummy in a Honda Accord, I will finally fit in it.

Saying goodbye to my knees not hurting

Saying goodbye to my shorts riding up in between my legs

The one thing that I look most foward to is wearing my wedding ring. I refused to have it resized, so now I can' t wear it. Center Diamond is 2 ct. radiant cut in platinum. with baggetts on the sides. My husband always ask me, why don't you wear you wedding ring? Well I will soon.

I can't wait to wear sexy strappy shoes, if you have fat feet they just don't look right.

I will be able to find shoes period!!!!!!!!!!!!

That is all for now. Love this thread.

Saying goodbye to "just not feeling good enough".

Saying goodbye to using fat as an excuse for when things go wrong.

Saying goodbye to snoring!

Saying goodbye to tent size clothes.

Saying hello to crossing my legs when I sit in a chair!

Saying hello to comments like "Wow, you look great!"

Saying hello to taking control of my life again.

Saying hello to . . . me!

Saying goodbye to being the "fat" lady in the room

Saying goodbye fear of resturant booths / small airplane seats

Saying goodbye to a double chin / fat rolls

Saying goodbye to never feeling good enough

Saying goodbye to back pain/ knee pain

Saying goodbye to my WHEELCHAIR

Saying goodbye to 8 inches braclets and 10 inche anklettes

Saying goodbye to the fear of seeing myself in a department store mirror

Saying goodbye to never wanting to have my picture taken

What I'm hoping to say goodbye to:

Chairs with arms that dig painfully into my thighs

Booths at restaurants that press into my stomach

Getting winded walking up a small flight of stairs

Not being able to keep up with the rest of the office when we walk to get sushi and lagging two blocks behind

Feeling like I am going to pass out from exhertion from walking with my boss to a client meeting

Asking for a seatbelt extender on airplanes

Traveling in Europe not being able to fit AT ALL into ANYTHING (bus seats, movie seats, theater seats, train seats!!!)

Comments from strangers

Exceeding the weight limit for a treadmill

Not being able to take a bath because I can't fit into the tub

Feeling like I'm choking when I lay on my back or side because the fat from my chest rolls onto my neck

Swollen ankles

Struggling to tie my shoes, paint my toenails, or put on socks

Never being able to wear shorts in public

Having to always wear stretch pants under my skirts so my inner thighs don't bleed from rubbing together

Not giving a crap about my appearance because I'm so fat that who cares anyway

Feeling like a sore thumb at parties

Sweating in the winter

Not being able to clean my house or wash dishes for an extended period of time

Not being able to scrub the floor on my hands and knees, or thoroughly wash the tub because it's too tiring to bend over.

Being hot in cold air conditioning

And I'm sure I could think of a few more.

Thanks for starting this thread!

saying good bye to:

peoples little comments

being made fun of

tight clothes

shopping for only plus size clothes

sweating all the time

being out of breath when I walk

being embarresed when I walk out of the house

squeezing into chairs

my heart feeling like it is going to jump out of my chest when I stand up

tight uncomfortable underware

red lines on my body from tight clothing

the list is endless so I will stop here.

Goodbye to:

1. not looking on the outside how I feel on the inside

2. rolls, rolls, and rolls of blubbery flab

3. my little boy calling me a "circle" (fat people are "circles" and thin people are "straight"--up and down like a line)

4. any clothing size starting with the number "2" or the letter "X"

5. Lane Bryant, The Avenue, etc.

6. being branded "Morbidly Obese"

7. any weight in pounds starting with the number "2"

8. ugly, ugly clothing

9. obsession with food

10. not feeling my best--the best I know I can be

Saying hello to:

1. life

2. health

3. energy

4. looking cute in my clothing

5. normal size clothing stores

6. being proud of myself

7. a better sex life

8. a better self-esteem

9. more years with my family

10. the best me

Ditto to all the things everybody has already said plus......

good-bye to saying I don't really mind being fat because the number on the scale isn't who I am.

Goodbye:

1. To my shortened life due to obesity

2. Plus sized clothing

3. Not smiling enough

4. Feeling like the biggest girl in the room

5. Eating more than my husband and children

6. Having my husband roll to my side of the bed, due to me being heavier

7. Feeling like a whale in a swimsuit

8. Feeling hot most of the time

9. Avoiding the beach

Saying Goodbye to:

Having NO ENERGY all the time

Dreading getting ready for work in the morning because I have NOTHING to wear and end up wearing the same "fat pants" 3 times a week

Not wanting to have sex with my wonderful BF because I feel gross and fat

Not wanting to go out with my girlfriends for cocktails and other NYC things I used to love because (1) I feel gross and too fat, and (2) I'm wearing my "fat pants"!! :ban:

Dreading taking pictures and when I do, being super focused on my fat, blubbery arms

Not being able to wear 2/3rds of the clothes in my closet

Not being as confident as I used to be

Not feeling as pretty as I used to feel

Not feeling like I'm in control of my life and can do anything!

GREAT THREAD!

I look forward to saying goodbye to:

Being out of breath everytime I climb the stairs.

My husband's ex-wife referring to me as "the fat lady".

Lane Bryant and Avenue.

Not chaperoning field trips with my kids because I don't want to embarass them.

Worrying if I will be able to fit in the seats in public places.

Looking at food as a hobby.

Being uncomfortable because I am always the largest person in the room.

Not going to the beach because I feel like a beached whale.

Wow, this could go on forever.

I am happy to say goodbye to:

feeling as thought people are stareing at me because I am the largest person in the building.

shopping for bahama mamma clothing

worring if people are asking themselves..why is she eating...she looks like she could skip a year's worth of meals.

not feeling sexy at all

feeling like people think i have absolutely no self control

good bye to haveing low self esteem

good bye to not flirting with men for fear of them being grosed out by a fat girl winking at them.

good bye to wishing my life away wishing I was thinner and healthier.

Good bye to the thought of never being able to have a baby. (PCOS)

good bye to granny panties

good bye to the stares and riddicule from thin department store sales ladies who roll thier eyes in disgust when I ask them where the plus/ women's sizes are sold.

good bye to customers who feel its ok to treat me as less than I am just because I am fat.

good bye to job interviewers who are afraid to hire a morbidy obese person

good bye to creepy/gross men who think they are my only hope at finding love

good bye to my family trying to convince me to become healthier

good bye to depression