My BF is coming home tomorrow after being in the hospital for about 2 1/2 months. In new York. We live in Texas. Other than the major readjustment of life in general, he has had major health issues and lost 50-70 lbs of weight/muscle he didn't have to spare. Now he has been put on meds to help him regain an appetite & they want him to eat & eat & eat and gain some weight before even thinking about starting to exercise again. So, I buy skim milk for me, he needs whole milk. I get no fat salad dressing/vinagrette, he goes for blue cheese with a side of bacon lol. Can you say complete opposite of what I need to do? Grocery shopping is going to be a b***h. Excited he will be home but nervous too. I've done ok while he was gone & lost 24 lbs in that time. I didn't have many outside influences & didnt have all this crap food in my house that I know will be here now & eating wasn't the focus of my day. Now its like my life is going to revolve around food between making sure he's getting all his needs met & me spending the time & effort I do into making better choices for myself. Am I bitching? Yeah, probably... I'm just going to have to suck it up...

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You know maybe this wont be as bad as u think it would be. I dont think any hospital would advocate someone clogging their arteries with saturated fat in order to gain weight. Personally i think u should keep on the low fat side of things like milk and salad dressing but make sure he has those replacement meal shakes for additional calories, plenty of healthy pasta and maybe large amounts of protein like big steaks. Putting on weight in an unhealthy way to me is just as bad as not putting weight on at all. its about increasing good calories and not increasing the bad, i am sure u can find a working solution. Good luck and i wish him a speedy recovery and you your sanity !

I agree with Cazzy. He doesn't have to have all of the really-bad-but-oh-so-good foods to gain the weight - - lean, healthy food with high protein may be just as effective.

I have been doing "seperate" grocery shopping for months and it doesn't even bother me. I have it set in my mind that certain things are my husbands and others are mine. My husband is pretty fit, and has actually lost 7 lbs since I've been banded sharing my healthy meals. He has a really intense job though, and doesn't get a lunch break, so he has to "graze" all day. I just buy snacks that are on the healthier side but still ones I wouldn't eat (the "healthy" crackers, regular yogurt, etc).

I hope your husband has a quick recovery and you're able to continue your success.

You're both right, Im going to focus on the good stuff I can have & also try to encourage rather than nag him towards the healthy things he can enjoy that will help him get stronger without clogging up the arteries or gastric tract. He loves fresh fruit & veggies so we are good there. we are in Texas afterall, so good steak is plentiful. He & I are both allergic to fish so so we do gravitate to the chicken & steak & pork. I think I got ahead of myself & was just picturing the gorge at first & not the realistic methodical approach. Thank you for the clarity & kind words ladies!

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Definitely, I agree with your last post and others above. I believe there are (similar to protein drinks), drinks at GNC or similar places (Amazon) that are meant to add weight in a healthy way and one that won't be as tempting to you. You don't want him putting weight in an unhealthy, high cholesterol, etc. way.

Guessing, he should be getting exercise too to help rebuild his strength so maybe encourage each other to walk and exercise together. It will be good physically and emotionally.

Good luck!

You can eat the same actually because he need to gain healthy weight. So find a shake fort him to go with his breakfast while you enjoy yours and just double everything you eat for him. So although your serving may be a half a co his wool me a cup and a half. A boost night be good for him to