Today I saw a old friend who on first sight said....

Ewwwww you look sick. I have had this happen from 2 men I dated prior to my surgery and the current man in my life said if I lose another pound I will be too little for him. Mind you I'm 177lbs... and wear a 10/12. I did come from a size 22 but damned maaannnnnnn. I'm beginning to have issues related to this.

I can't see myself like others see me, nor did I see myself as others saw me when I was a size 22. I was in denial then, maybe I'm in denial now???

Any advice on this topic would be greatly appreciated.

Thanks

Are you at a healthy bmi? The weight tends to drop off from the top to the bottom so your face may be taking a bit of a hit, I'm pretty sure it will even out. I don't think anybody should say you look sick - that's not nice.

Actually I've gotten nothing but compliments from people. Are these men only attracted to heavier women? That could be where the "ewww"s come from. I'm sure you look great! If you feel great too, then don't listen to the naysayers.

Maybe you dont look pysically healthy meaning your pale, sickly looking. Some people who have weight loss surgery if they dont take their vitamins and eat right they do look sickly. I doubt its the weight it might just be the way you look. My ex boss had gastric bypass and she looks sick. It depends on what they mean by you look sick.

Today I saw a old friend who on first sight said....

Ewwwww you look sick. I have had this happen from 2 men I dated prior to my surgery and the current man in my life said if I lose another pound I will be too little for him. Mind you I'm 177lbs... and wear a 10/12. I did come from a size 22 but damned maaannnnnnn. I'm beginning to have issues related to this.

I can't see myself like others see me, nor did I see myself as others saw me when I was a size 22. I was in denial then, maybe I'm in denial now???

Any advice on this topic would be greatly appreciated.

Thanks

I get the same response especially from my mom, but I don't see it. I actually would like to lose another 26 pounds, but people got me scared to do so. I still think I look fat. We never see ourselves the same as others do. I bet if i saw you, not knowing you, I would think you looked fabulous.

I get the same response especially from my mom, but I don't see it. I actually would like to lose another 26 pounds, but people got me scared to do so. I still think I look fat. We never see ourselves the same as others do. I bet if i saw you, not knowing you, I would think you looked fabulous.

aaawwww.. Thanks Kbklassykimb!

omg Klassy - it's like you read my mind! I still think of myself as fat. I go to the shops and pick up the biggest size on the rack only to have to remind myself to swap that for the second smallest size! crazy, but one day we'll realise how we really look, it just takes time. So long as your doctor isn't telling you that you look sick, I'm sure the problem is with them, not you Thinknbig!

I wouldn't care if someone said I looked sick. A size 10/12 is not sickly. I bet you look really good. If someone gives you the eeeeewwww again, just tell them to kiss your grits!!

omg Klassy - it's like you read my mind! I still think of myself as fat. I go to the shops and pick up the biggest size on the rack only to have to remind myself to swap that for the second smallest size! crazy, but one day we'll realise how we really look, it just takes time. So long as your doctor isn't telling you that you look sick, I'm sure the problem is with them, not you Thinknbig!

Thanks fluff!

Thanks FLuff!

I wouldn't care if someone said I looked sick. A size 10/12 is not sickly. I bet you look really good. If someone gives you the eeeeewwww again, just tell them to kiss your grits!!

THanks Crecia!!!