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Hi gang iwas wondering for those of you that have kids how did you explane it to them? I have seen threads on if you tell people or not and I have for now decided not to tell people except for a friend who had RNY 10 years ago. I'm actually going to ask her if she will help me with the kids. Naturally the hubby will know. But how did you tell the kids mine are 14 and 12. My 12 year old is high functioning autistic so my situation is probably a little different than most. I have never said anything negative about my weight or anybodies in front of them. Right now I think I will go with this will help mom loose weight so her feet don't hurt all the time, and it not something other people need to know about. So how did you handle it?

NOT AGAIN since the other days post #45......... the saga continues, a day in the life of...... i showered, dressed etc walked around the house i know i'm forgetting something, i know i'm forgetting something, i ........... eeek i finally remembered i had a PCP appt at 10:30 (it was 9:15) running around like a chicken without a head (get the visual!!) called dr office to say i might be a little late for my 10:30 she said your appt is at 10:00 not 10:30 i told her i might be a few minutes late i know her well, and she nicely said if i can't make it by 10:00, that's ok but we'll have to reschedule really was understandable, but i needed to see him then!! i was "kindof" speeding "a LITTLE - "kind of" like being a LITTLE pregnant ) still driving carefully - hmmm like that women above who was careful too!! i got to doc 10:00 on the DOT receptionist smiled i sat down and waited, and waited, and waited and........35 minutes later!!! too funny, i should have known you "usually" have to wait at docs which really is understandable and ok so, why did i drive quickly like a mad man to the docs office LOL ya got me babe!! film at 11:00 LOL kathy

thanks everyone! could not have done it without y'all We got home 2 1/2 hours ago. Took liquid lortab after getting home and then slept a couple of hours. Now I am resting and eating sf popsicles. In a few minutes I will get up and walk for a little bit...cough, and do the breathing thingy. A bit more pain now that i am home and no pain pump. But it really is just soreness not bad pain.. about a 3 from a scale of 1-10. Left shoulder has been off and on pain wise. Tummy sore of course but really it is not bad at all. Shoulder surgery was far more painful

Good news guys! Im down 8lbs of the 10 needed for surgery! I did lunch and Breakfast in a Protein shake and a small dinner. My pro op appointment is 9/20.

I went to my orientation last night. I know my insurance and the group require a 10% weight loss. So I started dieting and exercising to lose the weight. Of the 32 pounds I lost 9 so far. The problem is, they said the 10% weight loss is based on your first appointment and not what I weighed when I saw my primary. Has anyone else been told not to do weight loss until your first appointment? They are booking out 3 weeks and I they require hat you think through the week end and wait till Monday to make the initial appointment

My nutritionist pretty much said you no longer have to keep track of anything post-op but for my comfort level, I do track my protein and water intake and that's it. Like Tiff said, my carb level is naturally low as well with the odd bite of veggies or pasta so I am pretty sure my daily carb intake is around 30-40 grams - if that. Again, it doesn't matter to me because my focus isn't on what I can't have but rather what I should be eating and it's not difficult for me to make these choices. I look at it this way .. with each meal, I have maybe 7-10 bites that have to COUNT .. no room for nibbling, sampling, etc. This will probably change the farther along I get but for me, I keep my focus simple. I hate food diaries but this time, it worked. I miss rice/sushi as well but have had no room or desire for either. We all have our cravings, I suppose, but perhaps for me it was about my 'old life'. Things have changed drastically .. I simply don't want what I reached for before - CARBS

I AM PANICKING....WHAT IS WRONG, ANYBODY HAVE OR HAS HAD THIS PROBLEM? I AM INTO DAY #4 AND NO WEIGHT LOSS AND NO CHEATS I AM SO SCARED WHAT IS WRONG AND WHY AM I NOT DROPPING ANY WEIGHT. I TALKED WITH MY DR TODAY AND THEY SAID I HAVE TO INCREASE MY FLUIDS, BUT AT 800-900 CALORIES A DAY, PLEASE NOT EVEN A POUND. THEY WONT DO SURGERY IF I DONT LOSE 10 LBS BY 10/24/11 SURGERYDATE IS 10/27/11. ANY ADVICE? PLEASE HELP

I decided to come bk to the gym today im 7 days post op but its way to hot to be walking around yhe neighborhood or the the end of the block so I did 30min on the elliptical incline on 5 and 30 on the bike incline on 10 and when the sun goes down tonight ill go for a lil walk to the river and bk and ill do that everyday till Saturday which will be rest then the next week take it up a notch im so excited )))

I took two weeks and I am glad I did! I was still trying to figure out what to drink and when and how much and it was good to get that down prior to working! I also work 45 minutes away and put in 10 hour days so I was glad to have those two weeks!!

I work from home so I did not have to deal with a commute but I do work 4 -10 hours taking calls. I had surgery on a Wednesday and returned to work the following Wednesday. I did get up often during the day and walked for a few minutes around the apartment to loosen up and to prevent blood clots. A few days more would had been nice but I could not afford any more time office.

I am now just at the end of the first three weeks of my time off of work. My Doc prescribed 6 weeks off from work. This is the most time I have ever heard of for the sleeve, with no complications or anything. I went into work to find out if they would let me back in early (4 weeks) with the stipulation I could not lift over 10 pounds until 6 weeks... my Doc said they might allow me to go back if I could get this agreement... Well work will not do that because of workman's compensation rules. I guess Im out for the full 6 weeks! And i don't get paid for the last three.

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So does everyone agree October 8-10? I want to start shopping for tickets. T

Can we shoot for October 8 9 and 10?The 11th is Thanksgiving in Canada and that means loonggg week end!! Whadya think?? Chantal

I had RNY on 1/6/18. Something happened that caused me to have massive drainage. That night I had 4 things of plasma. Over the next 2 days, I had 4 blood transfusions. I understand my number was 6.5 and really didn't change much. I was kept in the hospital the entire time- never went to hotel. I had drain removed on 1/11 and sent home. The fluid is still coming out the drain hole- i soak about 10 maxi pads a day. The staff at Mi Doctor Hospital was kind and took care of me. The asst. doctor checked in on a regular basis , but I felt he couldn't tell me the whole story. DR. Ortiz came just 3 times, despite my asking to speak with him. I do not feel he was very forthcoming. I still don't understand what happened to make me bleed so much. I have a sister who is a doctor and she is appalled. After 2 transfusions, I would have been back in the OR to fix the bleed. there would have been accountability. I know that I chose to go to Mexico once my new insurance said all bariatric surgery was excluded. What I am so disappointed in is the lack of clear communication by the doctor. I would, therefore, not recommend this company and esp. Dr. Ortiz. I was aware that I would have to pay for "extra" services and I ended up paying close to $1500 for the blood. I do now run the risk of a long recovery (past the 2 weeks I had planned). I also run the risk of infection and the pain of so much leakage.

I think Molly was right about my hair loss. The good news is that it has sure slowed down. But not stopped. I now literally have half the hair I had before. If I knew how to insert a photo of my old hair I would. I can't get over wearing a size 10 pants. I introduce myself now as, "Hi, I am Christine and I wear a size 10." I am very pleased with the weight loss.

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A few things: 1. You are about six weeks out of surgery. At six weeks, I had lost some weight and a few people noticed, but not many. I had lost about 10% of my starting body weight at six weeks (according to your sidebar, you've lost close to 15%). I am at the seven month mark and I am finally around the point where random co-workers have really noticed my weight loss. Keep it up and the before and after photos will come (my before/after looks pretty shocking). 2. Even though I have a shocking before/after, I still don't see it in the mirror. Really. Truly. If I went solely off the mirror, I would say that my face looks a little thinner, but not much else. I didn't understand how a non-insane person could have body dysmorphia until I had this surgery. I have way more sympathy for people who are anorexic after this experience.

so i was hanging with friends yesterday and we dont see each other very often. once a month maybe. anyway they decided they wanted to drink. n i wasnt gunna. but they convinced me to have a sip. no big deal. it made my stomach kind of crampy so i didnt continue (wasnt planning on it anyway but yeah) i did have some "scale-less victories" yesterday though. we were at subway. i didnt eat anything there. but we have friends that work there and they sort of burnt some cookies like 2 dozen and she brought the tray over and asked hey free cookies u want some? i didnt take any! and i love those cookies. my one friend took about six my other two. so that was good. but then we went back to my friends house to drink (them not me) and we decided we were gunna see what all the fuss was about on that chatroulette site. it was a horrible demeaning experience.. so we maybe talked to idk 15-10 people and three of them asked if i was my other friends' mother... im 21 for christ sake... one person as soon as they could see us started pointing and yelling "fat lady fat lady fat lady!!" over and over. another person said they didnt want to talk to us because i was a heifer... another person once they could see us said "WHOA" we asked what.. they said man she's fat. my friends just dont get it.. they just ignored these people and what they were saying to me..didnt even try to stick up for me.. they know its all true and so do i.. i would have just left but i never get to see them.. so it ruined my night and i was depressed all night. being the "buzz kill" that i am. it certainly didnt help i have been having a tough time w my depression and stuff this week.. not sure why but it feels like im off all of them.. not good.. they just dont get it and they literally are avoiding talking about the ELEPHANT in the room.. they tell me what do u care what random people think of you.. well cuz its confirming how i feel others look at me everyday especially at classes.. i have a hard time making friends and i feel thats half the reason.. i have no confidence and am so insecure that when people hit my like that it really really hurts... this is the only place where people might understand.. i dont expect people to say im beautiful, but my god.. another reason im posting this is so maybe when im successful with my band that i can look back at this and not forget how horrible things are/were. also i have now decided if i ever date people again my test is going to be what they think of obese people.. if they have bad feedback. theyre out of here. people suck. thats all i can say..

Hi Wendy, I live in New Jersey (right on Delaware/Jersey border) and just had surgery on 7-10-08. I had my surgery at St. Francis in Wilmington, DE. My surgeon was Dr. Wynn of Chrias. Just wondering who is your doctor and where will you have the surgery? I had a wonderful experience at St. Francis, everyone was just terrific. Good luck and if you need any advice or refereces, I would be happy to help out.

My surgeon requires all his patients to undergo a 6 mo. diet to show that they are willing to comply with his directions. Basically he has no requirement for how much weight you should lose, but he doesn't want you to gain weight during that time. I would not have done well losing 10% of my weight (which would also be 28 pounds). Today was my last weigh-in, and I only lost a total of 8 pounds, so you are way ahead of me. Good luck!

I don't get. I love my wine and tequila and rum like the next person. I was having wine shipped to me a small winery in California, but when I decided on surgery I stopped the shipments. I buy the expensive tequila and rum because I like it on the rocks or straight up - not reprocessed rot gut stuff for me. 'I'm not 20 any more. I'm now 6 weeks out and focusing on getting and being healthy. I don't miss having a glass of wine, or tequila or anything. nor do I feel I need to or want to. I've been out with friends twice and on both occasions encouraged them to have their wine.... I just stuck with water. At 3 and 4 weeks your incision is still healing. Just cuz you can't see it, doesn't mean it's not there. It's about 10 inches long. If the incision was on your leg, would you way it with alcohol? My surgeon recommends waiting 1 year. I may wait that long or I may not. I don't have a plan at this point. But I know this, I opted for surgery to be a healthier me. I know all the ways to cheat the system, but I'm only cheating myself. Once I have my eating in balance and I've achieved my goals then I look at enjoying a 'normal' life. So I have to ask...what is more important to you? Vodka, Wine or a better life?

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Just 22 more LOOOONG days until I'm finally banded. My thoughts are racing around in my head. I'm freaking a bit today, I'm nervous, and I am so anxious to get this over with. I'm ready to start my pre-op diet, this way I know I am doing something to prepare for surgery. I've been reading a lot on the "complications" board, and I have to be honest, It freaks me out a bit. I think the most thing I worry about is erosion. I read on one of the boards that 25% of banding patients will have to have thier band replaced or removed. Thats a pretty high number. But, i guess I'm hoping I'm the 75% that wont have to have anything done. I'm just nervous about everything, I think the not knowing is scary. I know a lot about the band, but everyone is different, how will I handle th band? Will I be an accessive PBer? Will I not lose weight? Will I be a failure? Will I , Will I , will I? The list goes on and on. I just don't want this surgery to be another "diet" attempt. I am so sick of failing at every diet. I always do so good, I lose 20, 30, and even 70 lbs, and everyone goes on and on how great I look, then its like I wake up one morning and gain it ALL back. Why? I still haven't figured that out. Its like I eat one thing and I put on 20 lbs. I swear, I can gain 10 lbs in a night, and I'm NOT lieing. I've done it, I swear it. I hope this time next year, I can reflect on my journey and say this was the BEST decision I had ever made. I hope to say I have lost 70 lbs, or 60, or even 50. Scale this morning 229.2 (I'm about to throw the scale away, I promise.)

Hi All - I am having surgery on May 19th and my daughters big b-day party and our Memorial Day Party (same day) on May 29th - that is 10 days after surgery - will I be able to eat anything that day do you think? Also On june 25-27 we are going to NY for the weekend and have dinner plans - will I be able to eat something sensible then - that will be over a month after? thanks in advance! Stacey