Bad Night. feeling down doesnt begin to cover it..

Everyone is right, people are just mean.

I am very proud of you for eating those cookies. See your day was not all hell.Your friends should have turned off the chat and /or stuck up for you but being that you are 21 they still need to grow up a bit. At 21 I don't know what I would have done about sticking up for someone.

Smile, one day you will be that thinner you and maybe help some over weight person in need.

I, too, am very sorry you had to endure that. I hope one day you will also find the confidence to speak up for yourself with your friends and others to not allow anyone to speak to you that way either. It is very hard to find that voice and courage for many of us that have wanted to be "hidden" for so many years.

You did great yesterday w/ not eating or drinking the junk and for that you should be very proud. Food doesn't have to control your life anymore, YOU do and you being strong like that is proving you can and ARE doing this!!

Just try not to internalize the rudeness of others and insensitivity of others. Bottling those feelings of hurt are often what led us to such poor self images and turning to food for comfort.

Have a great day!

Amy you seem like a sensitive, kind soul. More importantly, you seem like a very strong young woman. Unfortunately, a lot of people don't understand what it's like to be overweight, or depressed. When you can, expand your support system. There are people out there that will be sensitive to your needs. In the meantime, take good care of yourself.

Thank you everyone for the support and kind words. it means alot especially coming from people who have gone through it too and understand. Just wish i could push fast forward and get out of this body faster..

At 21 you are a lot stronger than most! I would have been crushed and that event would have fueled my depression and eating, but not you!! Girl, you sound like you're going to do just fine with this process. I know most of us have all been wounded by hurtful words, but like Dee said, you will be that much more experienced and thoughtful when it's your time to lend support. Heck, you're in the postion to lend support now... just talking about your evening certainly sparked my fire! We should consider ourselves very lucky -our surgery will help us become our better selves, but being an ugly, ignorant, and cruel person on the inside is inoperable!

thank you so much. i sure don't feel very strong though. i totally agree that they cant be fixed but we are on the path to becoming better

It makes me mad what COWARDS will say to people through a computer screen. Also, most young guys who would be on a site like that are D-bags anyway! As a girl they also view you as an easy target. You ARE better than them! We have the same starting height/weight. I guarantee those idiots wouldn't say the same thing to me... They are COWARDS!

Funny thing is I've been overweight since about 11, I've RARELY had anybody make fun of me for it. I was always bigger and stronger so they just didn't. They always made fun of girls. Again, easier target. In High School I played football and our QB was a tool. Always made fun of one cheerleader because she was a little heavier than he would like her to be (who the hell is he? God?)

I played defensive line and one day I blindsided him WELL after the play was over and knocked the wind out of him LOL. The coach was mad and I had to run extra laps around the track. Afterwards I told him to leave her alone or next time I'd take his knees out As far as I know he never said anything else!

Your friends should have stuck up for you! Young guys are typically DBags, stay away from chat roulette, and be proud of who you are and the life changing decision you have made! Good luck!